jmart_RN

The revision was done for medical reasons. I did not fail with the sleeve, the acid reflux was severe and medications were no longer helping. I ate healthy with the sleeve even when we went out to eat. I eat healthy now, it's just the amount that I eat. Two bites and I am pretty much full. I usually order water which I know I won't drink with my meal or order my drink in a to go cup that I can drink later after my food has had time to digest. I am sticking to eating healthy. I stay away from all the bad foods. It's the negative comments that are hurtful. Good thing I don't turn to food for comfort.

Yes you’re right. We should seek counseling before things get to a point we both don’t want to be in.

It’s usually sit down restaurants we go to. I’ve ordered the soups, the protein ala cart, or eat a few of the appetizers. He went as far as told his friends we were out eating dinner with that I hate food and they looked at me as if I have an eating disorder. He has always told me he liked heavy women and when we are out together he doesn’t hide when he stares at other women. I’m happy with myself and the new me and that’s all that matters.

I had my revision surgery on May 22, 2018 from sleeve to bypass. It has been very difficult regarding food intake. I am not hungry and eat only when hungry. I stay away from all the bad food but my spouse is not supportive. Prior to surgery we went out to eat on a regular basis. He still wants us to continue to go out to eat and expects me to eat the way I used to prior to the surgery. He gets upset when I tell him I am not hungry or order something small. I sometimes just ask for an extra plate and eat off his plate but he ends up serving me a large amount off his plate. He always makes hurtful comments regarding my food intake. I remind myself that I did the initial surgery for myself and for health reasons. This revision surgery was done for medical reasons and he does not seem to understand that. He eats unhealthy foods and likes to go to restaurants where I really don't care to eat in. I don't know what to do anymore. I don't want to hurt myself and be back where I was before.

I felt the same way also. Remember the reasons for having the surgery in the first place. I've had all three surgeries meaning I've had the band, sleeve, and now gastric bypass. The healing process was easier but the food intake was still just as hard especially when you are cooking meals for the rest of the family that you know you may not be able to eat or have difficulty eating. I am three months post-op gastric bypass and I find that the only time I want or crave food is when someone around me is eating something I enjoyed eating prior to the surgery. Sometimes just a tiny bite is enough to satisfy the craving. When I go out to eat with co-workers, I tend to order something small or soup and when they ask if that's all I'm having I usually say I'm not that hungry, which is true. When I go out to eat with my family, I eat off my family member's plate because they know a few bites will fill me up. Try not to focus on the foods you used to enjoy and focus on the healthier you. Don't view eating as a chore, eat when your hungry which after awhile becomes less often when you focus on other things besides food. I also try not do get on the scale very often. The loose fitting clothing and the increased amount of energy is what keeps me going. For me, weighing myself every so often and seeing a higher number of pounds lost than a pound every few days is much more encouraging and rewarding. Every one is different and eventually you will find what works best for you.

I wanted the RNY from the beginning but was told that it was irreversible and the band was. I chose the band which was a big mistake. When I had the revision to remove the band I once again wanted the RNY. Again I was told the sleeve was effective with less complications. A year later I was suffering from bile reflux and ultimately ended up getting the RNY which I originally wanted 9 years ago.