Anna Nim

Life is too short to have fks to give regarding other people's opinions of you. Frighteningly too short and getting shorter every day. The less time you have, the less you care about what other's think. People will get over it or they will not-neither has a darn thing to do with you! When I got a divorce and stepped out, by God, I didn't have time to wait on them all to catch up! Same with WLS I suppose. Don't care what other's think. My give a fk cup is empty! When people talk, they get bored and move on quickly. Bi can be a 'bad word" and growing up, lesbian was the a dirty word. I spent WAYY too much time thinking about *The Label*. Gawd, the label?? Really? I spent more time worrying about what some girl would think about my butt size, than exploring my ever-present desires. I honestly thought that lesbians would be more judgy about my body and that I wouldn't be able to distract them with sex. Hahahahaha. I know what I think when I see a naked girl, and it isn't "her butt is fat!", more along the lines of, "Yea! Boobs and I am about to have sex!". I would have saved SO much time if I had given up on the 'supposed to's' and the labels. To do it over again and really, really not GAF I would be almost an unstoppable force. My "label" is gay or queer or I simply say, "I only date women", if others address me as lesbian or whatever, I take it, no worries. To say Lesbian to me, negates the 13 year relationship I had with my my exH, it negates the small, small possibility that I might one day date a man again. Not saying I was only with him during our marriage, I am not saying I was totally happy with him and did not think about other women, but we did have a life, a child and I am not going to erase that. But, to do it again. I would go for it earlier, much earlier. Been stronger for change in my life faster. Pull the bandaid off. Feeling kinda pervy for being SO attracted to women, as I am noticing the ones' the age I SHOULD have gotten a divorce and here I am a bit older.. Ha.

Good! I struggled with labels over and over-until I realized I didn't have to be "gay/straight/bi". Life is better when you are honest with yourself (the easiest to lie to, right?)-not without struggle of course.. Good luck on ALL your journey's and I support you.

Life is too damn short to answer truly ignorant and dangerous posts. Stick to the real people in need. Sent from my XT1254 using the BariatricPal App

Pay the money, take a flight. (Better yet, stay another day or stay in a hotel so you can rest!) Sent from my XT1254 using the BariatricPal App

Joke or real desire? Sexuality is on a spectrum you know and labels are your choice.

I have not had surgery yet, struggling with not gaining weight between NUT appointments. **When** I lose weight, it is generally during extreme activity or low carbs. I'd not lose on 75 grams a day. When I do eat oatmeal I eat the slow cook Quaker brand. No instant stuff at all. And I usually add nuts like pecans and apple pieces and cinnamon, cloves, exedra. So the sugar in my oatmeal was coming from the fruit and I figured with the nuts in the apples it is a slower hit carb. Maybe eat oatmeal like mine and a boiled egg on the side. Sent from my XT1254 using the BariatricPal App

Oh, and I want to thank Alex for fixing the "curse word" filter...it was showing up 'Queer' as '*****'

I did not have to take a pee test, nor a blood test in the end, so it was my word. It has been years long struggle with this in one way or another. I didn't know these women, and if they wanted a pee test, then do it BEFORE you have me get undressed and stick a IV in my arm (same thing happened just a few months ago when I had knee surgery. No pee test, my word.)..and in between this and that, am OBGYN-I locked him down quick with The Shunning, LOL...The Outing..

No it is not. THAT is what a waiver is for! THAT covers the hospital, just like when I had a mammogram-they had a waiver that said, "I certify I am not pregnant. Because....(with a list of options, including Same Sex Partner). I *could* have had no clue or, (seriously?) *lie* before surgery, but note: They ended up taking My Word. No blood, no urine.. Clearly there is a measure of common sense. 46 year old semi-menopausal queer woman..yep. Very much not pregnant. I assume you are a male and have never had the fun of HAVING to out yourself over and over and over and over again every time you see most doctors. OBYNs, ANY surgical or dental procedure, etc. This also compounded over birth control questions At Every Annual Exam for decades. "What method of birth control do you use". "How long since your last menstrual period." "Why do you not need birth control-what method do you use?" "Are you sexually active?" On and on. This fun goes far, far beyond simple STD testing. Only made more painful after years of infertility treatments, cause, I would (have) loved NOTHING more in this world to have actually had a positive on a pregnancy test.

I wrote WSM..I meant to say..WSW (women who sleep with other women)..Duh! But, yeah..plastic or spit babies only? After years of infertility being given the "are you pregnant" question makes me very sad. I always cry when I go to the doctor's office, any doctor anyway after all of that..

SO insulting!!!! Austin is pretty open, so little worry. I did not have to take a test, my word seemed to be enough (which I would think is not best practice...). To me, a waiver or blood/urine test is gold (I vote waiver). Two days ahead of time pregnancy test is for their benefit, not yours, cause if you are, then they are not all waiting for you. Still, when you know you are not...you are not! Sperm + Egg in a Q ueer, infertile, semi-menopausal woman is Just Not Going To Happen!

I got an endoscopy today to look for a hital hernia in advance of planned Sleeve surgery in December. I sat on edge waiting for the damn pregnancy question..WSM know this next part well.. Why should I have to out myself or lie about how I know I am not pregnant? First, I am 46 years old, haven't had a cycle in almost 6 months, so I am on my way towards menopause-but not "post" menopausal. I spent thousands trying to have a second child years ago, so the pregnancy thing is already a very sad question for me, I tend to inadvertently tear up every time I am in a doctor's office since. No, I am not abstinent, less than a month, thank you. No, I do not take birth control (um..46) No, I am not going to get out of bed, with no pants or shoes on, no bra, an open back gown and struggle with an IV to the bathroom to take a pee test-that you forgot to give me before like some teen-ager. How do I "know" I am not pregnant you ask? Well.... To a bunch of strange medical people, in a conservative hospital. Annoying. Treat me like an adult, if I say I am not pregnant, I am not pregnant! Maybe instead, get your paperwork right so I literally do not have to sit here half naked, tired with a IV on waiting for you to fix the paperwork for WELL over an hour, so they can stick a camera down my throat! When I got a mammogram elsewhere, they had me fill out a wavier that said, "I certify I am not pregnant because: (abstinent, birth control, menopause or SAME SEX PARTNER)"..and note, it even got around the *label* of gay/lesbian/whatever.. When they call to check on me I am going to mention it, doubt it will change. I am just cranky and tired. Long ass day, tomorrow as well..and yes, I am STILL not pregnant!

One thing I've noticed, is when you lose a lot of weight no matter what way there's a point where your face looks a little overly lean. I guess it like falls off their first? But, later when your weight stabilizes or you regain like 3 pounds it seems to fill out just fine. I've seen it again and again on my own Cycles up and down. So maybe give it some more time. Also, I'm not sure how long you had the extra weight on your body. But, often when we're older we lose the weight it shows what was underneath it. None of that's a bad thing it just is. Good luck! Sent from my XT1254 using the BariatricPal App

I give this advice a lot everyone. But have you tried taking magnesium. Not magnesium citrate not magnesium oxide. But magnesium glutamate or magnesium orate. Any Vitamin shop will sell it. I regularly take about two hundred percent of daily value of that. Stress.sucks out magnesium. Surgery is stressful on your body. So is life. My greatest sin is when I feel better I stopped taking magnesium and then I cycle all over again. Magnesium helps with anxiety depression energy and a host of other things. If you take a little too much until your body gets used to it it's just going to come out in your poop. I also take Vitamin D B12 and so late. That cluster of Vitamins seem to all be really good friends. And help each other work. Plus they're very cheap. I have also added on and TMG. The TMC seems to help with depression as well. The Magnesium is the thing that helps me the most. It's not so much that have more energy with it it's just that I feel worse without it. Sent from my XT1254 using the BariatricPal App

Course you know you already have a Beachbody... Take your body to the beach. There you go! Sent from my XT1254 using the BariatricPal App

Someone here said they would tell people that you are following your doctor's orders exactly. Low carbs high Protein exercise... If you had a hernia repair during your sleeve that would be a bonus because you could tell the truth about the hernia surgery... Sent from my XT1254 using the BariatricPal App

My line is "I gave up on fad diets and did EXACTLY what my doctor told me to do".Now that's a smart response! Sent from my XT1254 using the BariatricPal App

The attorney suggestion is for malpractice. While there is a complication rate and you signed papers it doesn't exempt them from doing things wrong. And with all for you having such serious issues from the same surgical team means that maybe they're doing things too rushed. You may have a case which then get help financially make up for some of the time off of work. No, you're right. You can not change it now. SO-- What's the plan for the "Fantastic Four"? Together you have a wonderful opportunity to join together and adapt your lives to your sleeves. Let your sleeves work for you. Learn to listen to it---respect it and your sleeve will guide you to a healthier life. I fought mine for 4years. Finally, I have "made up" with my sleeve and we have become a team worth reckoning with. You can't change "it", so you have to change "yourself". Once you do that, you will not only healthier, but also more content within your own body. That's a win/win anyway you look at it. Take care of yourself. Be kind. "Fantastic Four"----I like that! Sent from my XT1254 using the BariatricPal App

Sorry for my typos, I can't figure out how to add it on my phone... I think you get the gist! Give them hell girl! Sent from my XT1254 using the BariatricPal App

Good thing you work from home. Imagine the environment if you worked in that office day in and day out. Sometimes it's better to leave that job. Tell me have cancer. Tell me you were so poor you're eating Ramen day in day out. Actually, smile and tell them that you're having high Protein low carb meals and doing yoga 3 times a week and you're just amazed that you finally found the key to lose weight. And then smile and walk away. What tell him to f****** mind their own business ignore them. I've got to the point like that I have no f**** left to give. And unfortunately were going to school so I got to keep my mouth shut but inside I'm flipping everyone off LOL Sent from my XT1254 using the BariatricPal App

Maybe the next time you go in, insist on being admitted. Maybe they can put you in a rehab place for a few weeks. I don't have any other advice, except to let them know how bad it is for you at home.. Sent from my XT1254 using the BariatricPal App

Also, your body might be holding on. If you don't have carb creep, you may not be eating enough with the amount of exercise. Sometimes to break that, eat *bad* for a day or two, then it tricks your body into thinking the famine is over and you might start losing weight again. Sent from my XT1254 using the BariatricPal App

Watch for sneaky carbs. A bite here, a larger portion there, juice, etc can get ya. Sent from my XT1254 using the BariatricPal App

Even though he is tired from a hard job, a short 20 minute walk after dinner will help his digestion and get you both off of the sofa. Just a short walk. Other things to do than TV? At least on the weekends, like plays, museums, anything..basically, everything everyone has said.

The only diet that has ever worked for me is a lower carb diet. Lots of Protein low carbs. For lunch I have been known to eat ground beef maybe green Beans on the side. meat, zucchini green beans bell peppers red bell peppers dipped in blue cheese. If you go to a fast food place go through the drive-thru and you can order a hamburger without a bun. They call it a lettuce wrap or whatever. I've even been known to eat eggs with like fried eggs with a salad for lunch. chicken sliced up lots of cheese. Fish. Coleslaw. remember a low carbohydrate diet can have a higher level of fat. By the way I've not had my surgery yet, I'm just I'm in the middle of the process. And I'm going to have to low carb it myself to get my weight down. But honestly the only thing that ever ever worked with low carb for me it's staying on the wagon that is hard. I boil a hard-boiled eggs and putting mustard on them. Tuna fish salad with celery eggs mayonnaise and tuna on cucumber slices is a great lunch to. Make sure you drink a lot of Water so your body doesn't get confused. And think you're hungry when your really thirsty. It's never ever worked for me to count calories counting calories only makes me starving and overweight! Sent from my XT1254 using the BariatricPal App