Anna Nim
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No bus!! No Uber!! No taxi!
There HAS to be ONE person in your life whom you trust to give you a damn ride!!!!
A co-worker, a neighbor..someone.
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My date is Dec 14th, which is the exact date I wanted, I even have photographic proof of my handsome doctor
I am a teacher. That gives 19 days off of work. I have to miss the last three days before Winter Break, which is fine by me.
He did say that I could go home that day, like outpatient. Which seems REALLY weird. I will think about that some more. I would prefer my bed, but I worry about going home after something so major. We. Will. See.
Now to find out the final total I owe (I have to pay $5k Out of Pocket PLUS my deductible) and other stuff. Sucks Big Time. Months ago I asked my Dad for a loan and now it is time to put up. He wanted me to try to diet and exercise, tried to make it conditional..which is his FAVORITE thing to do. I of course did little of that..
I am certain that I am pretty much paying for the whole thing myself..but that is okay, as long as I do no not wake up dead!The countdown begins and yes I am now very nervous!
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How was your recuperation from the ACL surgery?ACL is not that bad, done it twice. Nice to have bell, like someone to make you meals for the first few days and keep items out of your path. That is it. Don't postpone.
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Like all surgeries, it was the worst the first few days. I bought a "cyro cooler". Worth every single penny. (buy one) It circulates almost ice Water around your joint, which keeps the swelling down-essential to healing. Much better than bags of peas. Ice, ice baby. Think that was the key to taking few meds. The first surgery I remember being much worse. Mobility is always a fun one. As I am fat and tall, I put a toilet riser on my potty (still there), cleaned my house first, went shopping. I only took meds the first 3 or so days. I started PT day 4. I was driving within a week. Used a cart at the store a few times. Your son, I assume, is a young, fit kid who will bounce right up. I still am not as strong as I need to be, but I also missed a lot of PT.
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ACL is not that bad, done it twice. Nice to have bell, like someone to make you meals for the first few days and keep items out of your path. That is it. Don't postpone.
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Kids don't care if they fall, their bones are so Nelly they bounce! That is when you know you are good..when ya hurt
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A few hurdles and hoping for December, I am a Teacher and need that time.
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Our bodies will not allow us to get pregnant unless we have enough fat on us to support a pregnancy. Mother nature takes care of that. Your doctor may not know all the ins and outs. You're talking about having kids and for 5 years and then maybe more kids so you're talking 10 years possibly if you have 3 kids to weight loss surgery. I suggest you talk to someone else who knows more about sleeves and pregnancy. I have seen people get pregnant after a sleeve and then fine. That's what Multivitamins are for and a reasonable diet is for.
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Cause your big hungry stomach is still intact under it and throwing up sucks, so naturally eating around it occurs.
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I swear 95% of trainers have never had issues with food. Its like me telling a smoker, just stop smoking. I have no idea how it is to smoke and be addicted. I never understood how people would tell me they forgot to eat the entire day until 10pm. Whaa?
Right! I never trusted those 20 something skinny chicks telling me to eat "6 times a day" or whatever. I want a NUT to is or was overweight...THOSE people know what they are talking about!
When I was in Middle School I would hear people say they "didn't eat breakfast", I HONESTLY thought they were lying to sound coy or something..I *had* low blood sugar and in the morning it was a debate between bread *now* to help or bathroom.
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Do you by chance have a hital hernia? Then you can tell them you are having surgery to repair a hernia. Totally true
Treatment for Acid Reflux?
Or None Yo Business
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It is okay if you both eat different things, just eat at the same time at the table?
Like the other said, have him get you Soup. You might only have a few spoons, but then he feels that he 'brought you home dinner'.
Remember, to most married men, YOU are his world and when you go or change, they feel terribly alone and afraid. That is likely driving the snide remarks (if this is new behavior)
Let him know (again) WHY you HAVE to eat the way you do and how HARD it is.
I would expect as you can eat a wider variety of foods, he will get on board more.
My exbf years ago didn't understand why I could not have "just one" cookie or whatever, until I explained to his cocaine-dealing self (hence why he is a EX), would he be able to just take a 'little line of coke' and leave the rest..then he got it.
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I have NOT had surgery, but I can tell you that I fought head hunger when I was on Mexican Diet Speed pills, "Lizard Spit" shots and when feeling sick. My brain didn't get WHY nothing tasted good, so I kept tossing more at it?
Scares me.
Look up taking Magnesium to keep you in balance, lots of Protein and good luck?
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Wish I was able to get my act together and lose some weight BEFORE surgery to take advantage of Honeymoon. Knee surgery, then a double semi-injury AFTER knee surgery plus a very, very intensive job (worst. year. ever.) is not helping it. I so want the never ending mental thing with food to be GONE.
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FYI, he WOULD have a place to go if you asked him to leave. It may be a hassle and he would guilt you like crazy, cause he *knows* how to work at your insecurities and love, but he is a grown up, he would figure it the fk out.
Life Too short for this shit I tell you.
Don't worry about others, worry about yourself.
You were not born to be a doormat for all other's problems.
Also, check out the page: Let Me Reach.com by Kim Saeed (has a FB page too, speaks the 'gospel' about narcissism in relationships (and the kinda co-dependent, overly understanding people with them) in small bitable articles. Not saying that is what is going on, but shades of it are not healthy either.
Good Luck with your surgery and this.
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Look for the patterns of selfishness, a week after MAJOR surgery and he is going to pout if he can't get his way for an outdoor event in the lovely, Texas humid heat. You mention other things he has said. You clearly noticed that you have been doing the heavy lifting with his child. How nice to have a mommie around for the horrible potty training years...
Look for the patterns if him taking you for granted and you being second or having to justify yourself or apologize for yourself. Might be time to go.
Remember time in a relationship is not an investment, but wasted precious, precious time when it is with a sub-part partner.
I settled in my late 20's and paid dearly.
Life is too damn short for that crap.
I can assure you, it is too short.
Good Luck.
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Oh, I didn't even see the Chili. yeah, that is an even bigger culprit than the late night Popsicle and the Protein. shakes.
Tomato sauce is FULL of sugar, Beans pretty high.
Try broth and low-starch veggie and meat Soup? (Like hamburger meat, beef broth, green Beans, cabbage, etc) Soup.< /p>
The chicken salad sounds pretty low in carbs.
Deviled eggs are filling and low too.
good luck.
I need to get on my wagon before I get on my high horse! LOLOL
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Carbs are sneaky. "Carb Creep" will get you every time. I suspect they are higher than you realize. Re-count.
When (hint to self) I get on a low carb diet I have to be no more more than 25-40 grams a DAY to lose anything.
Also, look at total carbs, not the carb minus Fiber or sugar alcohol-but total carbs.
sugar free is not carb free. Additionally, since the carbs are at night they are not getting burned off. (So for example, 3 Popsicle pops at 4 grams each is 12 grams at the very end of the day).
The Premier shake has 5 total-so then there is 10 grams there.
Plus, now you have dressing (check the carb count and the amount you are using).
Then everything else.
Try pickle pops to curb sugar urges and add more Water?
More Water might help.
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......."People won't always understand, and that is ok. It is not your job to make everyone around you happy. I had to come to terms with that quickly because I received a lot of backlash from people around me.
Life is too short to have fks to give regarding other people's opinions of you. Frighteningly too short and getting shorter every day. The less time you have, the less you care about what other's think. People will get over it or they will not-neither has a darn thing to do with you! When I got a divorce and stepped out, by God, I didn't have time to wait on them all to catch up!
Same with WLS I suppose. Don't care what other's think. My give a fk cup is empty!
When people talk, they get bored and move on quickly. Bi can be a 'bad word" and growing up, lesbian was the a dirty word. I spent WAYY too much time thinking about *The Label*. Gawd, the label?? Really? I spent more time worrying about what some girl would think about my butt size, than exploring my ever-present desires. I honestly thought that lesbians would be more judgy about my body and that I wouldn't be able to distract them with sex. Hahahahaha. I know what I think when I see a naked girl, and it isn't "her butt is fat!", more along the lines of, "Yea! Boobs and I am about to have sex!". I would have saved SO much time if I had given up on the 'supposed to's' and the labels. To do it over again and really, really not GAF I would be almost an unstoppable force. My "label" is gay or queer or I simply say, "I only date women", if others address me as lesbian or whatever, I take it, no worries. To say Lesbian to me, negates the 13 year relationship I had with my my exH, it negates the small, small possibility that I might one day date a man again. Not saying I was only with him during our marriage, I am not saying I was totally happy with him and did not think about other women, but we did have a life, a child and I am not going to erase that.
But, to do it again. I would go for it earlier, much earlier. Been stronger for change in my life faster. Pull the bandaid off. Feeling kinda pervy for being SO attracted to women, as I am noticing the ones' the age I SHOULD have gotten a divorce and here I am a bit older.. Ha.
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Realy desire. Has been for sometime now
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Good! I struggled with labels over and over-until I realized I didn't have to be "gay/straight/bi". Life is better when you are honest with yourself (the easiest to lie to, right?)-not without struggle of course.. Good luck on ALL your journey's and I support you.
Don't bail out on me know family
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Kinda aggro. My Dad is SUPPOSED to be loaning me the 8-10K that my insurance does not cover (yes, I know it is VERY close to self pay..). I told him that I was approved and I had my date (Dec 14th) and he kinda ignored me. I am visiting him in Virginia. He is a body worker and was working on my 'skinny' shins and said, "You know you are not that big that you need to have surgery." and "I am worried that they are going to mess you up.". Now...I get the worry part, I really do. I bailed out of his surgery-when it was paid for 6 years ago for my worries! But, IMHO my Dad is part of the reason I am overweight. He used to criticize my body so much as a kid/teen (when I was normal weight) and all the other women around us, that it damaged my body image (I was 5 11 and 160-170 in high school), and intentionally didn't pay full child support in an attempt to flush my mom out and have us live with him. I know there was a point when we were not getting correct Vitamins and nutrients as kids with her, kids. I think that leads to overeating in an attempt to get what you need. I still have anxiety when I see a empty fridge. But, enough about my childhood... Point is, I told my Dad that I have been obese for 16 years, I weight 288, 41 BMI, arthritis both my knees and ACL surgery on one, meaning knee replacement surgery is a probability in the future. I am 46 years old and "dieting" myself higher and higher.. In spring he ordered me boxes of supplements to lose weight. He is of the "keep trying" and "all you have to do..." camp. That is nice, but at what point to you admit that this is not working? At some point continuing to do the same thing over and over and expecting different results is foolish. He started telling me about the "majority of people who regain"..yada, yada. I am afraid he isn't going to loan me the money. I am mad at myself for not doing it before. I am very mad for having credit so messed up that at 46 I have to borrow from my father (even though he is always helping my brother..). I don't want him to bail and I of course, want it to work..
*now*