NeedaBreak4Me

Girl! Don't let this man dull your shine!
You are extremely brave and finally found the courage to leave.
This sounds like it was a very controlling relationship, you are lucky you got out after anything serious went wrong.
Unfortunately most controlling people do try to distroy their partners self esteem, making them feel unworthy, having no respect for being loyal etc... very common.
This man is no longer in your life, its time to do things for YOU!
You need to love YOU, respect YOU, be kind to YOU, do things for YOU.. because YOU deserve it.
Accept the fact that you are looking fabulous, take up a hobby you enjoy, get out there and live life....
Once you do this, you will feel more comfortable in your own skin...
Don't let this man take anymore of your happiness or self worth, you deserve better ????
Love and dating will come when you are ready, focus on living, loving and enjoying life..

Girl! Don't let this man dull your shine!
You are extremely brave and finally found the courage to leave.
This sounds like it was a very controlling relationship, you are lucky you got out after anything serious went wrong.
Unfortunately most controlling people do try to distroy their partners self esteem, making them feel unworthy, having no respect for being loyal etc... very common.
This man is no longer in your life, its time to do things for YOU!
You need to love YOU, respect YOU, be kind to YOU, do things for YOU.. because YOU deserve it.
Accept the fact that you are looking fabulous, take up a hobby you enjoy, get out there and live life....
Once you do this, you will feel more comfortable in your own skin...
Don't let this man take anymore of your happiness or self worth, you deserve better ????
Love and dating will come when you are ready, focus on living, loving and enjoying life..

Girl! Don't let this man dull your shine!
You are extremely brave and finally found the courage to leave.
This sounds like it was a very controlling relationship, you are lucky you got out after anything serious went wrong.
Unfortunately most controlling people do try to distroy their partners self esteem, making them feel unworthy, having no respect for being loyal etc... very common.
This man is no longer in your life, its time to do things for YOU!
You need to love YOU, respect YOU, be kind to YOU, do things for YOU.. because YOU deserve it.
Accept the fact that you are looking fabulous, take up a hobby you enjoy, get out there and live life....
Once you do this, you will feel more comfortable in your own skin...
Don't let this man take anymore of your happiness or self worth, you deserve better ????
Love and dating will come when you are ready, focus on living, loving and enjoying life..

You know I wasn't going to say anything else but you are being absolutely ridiculous!
My dear if you keep running into drama on the forums, you ever stop to think hmmmm....maybe it's you. No one was being rude or manipulative as you said but simply offering assistance and telling you their experience. I'm sooooo glad you have the support you need and I also pray that you aren't so harsh with them. I also tend to believe those that are sooooooo happy with their lives don't feel the need to have to say it constantly. While I hope you are truly happy, I doubt it..
In the words on the late great Michael Jackson (because I know I shouldn't even respond to this)..I'm starting with the man in mirror, I'm asking him to change his ways and I urge you to do the same.
The best of luck to you on your journey..
I will now return to my joyless life.
Peace, love and happiness.
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(And yet we are told Vets are the problem?!?)

I have an argument with my scale literally every time i jump on... i have named her "b*tch.. cause she really is.. she is stubborn, lies, manipulates and disagrees with me.. i don't like her very much

I have an argument with my scale literally every time i jump on... i have named her "b*tch.. cause she really is.. she is stubborn, lies, manipulates and disagrees with me.. i don't like her very much

Is this what you had in mind?

One more for the peeps who liked the kitty on the scale....

I have an argument with my scale literally every time i jump on... i have named her "b*tch.. cause she really is.. she is stubborn, lies, manipulates and disagrees with me.. i don't like her very much

I had a band to sleeve revision 3 months ago.... best decision i ever made, its so much easier, recovery for me was so easy.
Its way better than the band, you don't get that horrible stuck feeling, i don't slime, i have only vomited twice (my own fault, ate too quickly early out)
As a bander, once you convert to a sleeve you will find that you can eat a little more than a virgin sleever, this is due to damage that the band does to your esophagus, it reduces nerve sensations.
For me, i can eat everything, i have tested my sleeve over the last month and nothing is an issue.
I wish they offered the sleeve when i had my band initially, it would have saved me years of issues and problems.
Best of luck with your revision

I had a band to sleeve revision 3 months ago.... best decision i ever made, its so much easier, recovery for me was so easy.
Its way better than the band, you don't get that horrible stuck feeling, i don't slime, i have only vomited twice (my own fault, ate too quickly early out)
As a bander, once you convert to a sleeve you will find that you can eat a little more than a virgin sleever, this is due to damage that the band does to your esophagus, it reduces nerve sensations.
For me, i can eat everything, i have tested my sleeve over the last month and nothing is an issue.
I wish they offered the sleeve when i had my band initially, it would have saved me years of issues and problems.
Best of luck with your revision

I mean exactly that.. proper medical advice that is not a personal opinion on what should be done... that has actual medical or scientific data backing it up..
Like the example i gave earlier... not eating solids early out... we know that eating solids can cause leaks, tears and other complications... however i have seen people say something "soft" won't hurt... and at 3 days out... it can!
Im not saying we need scientific papers as proof... im just saying that the advice for newbies should be more "concrete" as this is a risk to their health and well being if it is incorrect.
Also, there is a difference between giving advice and sharing experiences...
Sharing experiences is fine.... but giving advice regarding something specific should be correct and objective, or a suggestion of possibility if unsure...

Let me clarify what i meant... Advice as in solid concrete advice backed by medical data/known knowledge.... not someones interpretation of what should be done because of their personal opinion...
Eg.... eating solids 3 days out, overdosing on Vitamins that cause physical harm, or doing something against their surgeons instructions etc
There is very big differences in plans... and everyone should stick to it.. if they have a question, medical advice should be sought from their practitioner not some random person on a forum. (You can supplement advice given here, but confirm with your practitioner if its okay)
Eg. We were allowed purees as soon as we were discharged from hospital, but i would never tell anyone to stray from their own plan, even when i know it was safe for me to do so.
I have done this in the past... i always take the advice given and confirm with my surgeon that its okay....
Unfortunately some people nievely take all advice as truth and that can be a problem with so many varying opinions.. its just plain dangerous to do so.

You could tell her you are having your gallbladder out, appendix or something like that.
Just incase (god forbid) you need extra time off, at least its somewhat close to the truth and you can get a doctors certificate noting you need additional time off.

I have an argument with my scale literally every time i jump on... i have named her "b*tch.. cause she really is.. she is stubborn, lies, manipulates and disagrees with me.. i don't like her very much

Has anyone noticed that there aren't as many vets around anymore? Or that most of the posts of late are all questions relating to pre op or early post op topics?
Unfortunately it looks like this "newbie versus vet" topics that have been occuring of late have completely changed the dynamics around here.... how unfortunate.
As a newbie AND a vet, there isn't much that interests me on here anymore. The variety of topics have diminished... i can not access the vet forum, yet i am having "groundhog day" topics on the main board....
Its a shame that things have changed so much...

Has anyone noticed that there aren't as many vets around anymore? Or that most of the posts of late are all questions relating to pre op or early post op topics?
Unfortunately it looks like this "newbie versus vet" topics that have been occuring of late have completely changed the dynamics around here.... how unfortunate.
As a newbie AND a vet, there isn't much that interests me on here anymore. The variety of topics have diminished... i can not access the vet forum, yet i am having "groundhog day" topics on the main board....
Its a shame that things have changed so much...

I have read research that says that you can lengthen your "fertile" part of your cycle by taking 100g of Vitamin B6 and also supplementing with B1.
From my understanding it balances out your progesterone and hormones.
Might be worth looking into further.

Let me clarify what i meant... Advice as in solid concrete advice backed by medical data/known knowledge.... not someones interpretation of what should be done because of their personal opinion...
Eg.... eating solids 3 days out, overdosing on Vitamins that cause physical harm, or doing something against their surgeons instructions etc
There is very big differences in plans... and everyone should stick to it.. if they have a question, medical advice should be sought from their practitioner not some random person on a forum. (You can supplement advice given here, but confirm with your practitioner if its okay)
Eg. We were allowed purees as soon as we were discharged from hospital, but i would never tell anyone to stray from their own plan, even when i know it was safe for me to do so.
I have done this in the past... i always take the advice given and confirm with my surgeon that its okay....
Unfortunately some people nievely take all advice as truth and that can be a problem with so many varying opinions.. its just plain dangerous to do so.

Everyone has the right to post... everyone is at a different stage... and people need support and advice in those different stages.
I never agree to posts being rude, mean or plain judgemental.
But this "we need to keep everyone happy" attitude is what is causing the friction.
Everyone is entitled to an opinion, as long as the delivery is done with respect and empathy.
Why should i suffer and not get support during my "stage" because of one or two individuals... why should we not be supported because of them?
I have seen newbies be rude, ive seen vets be rude, ive seen people in the middle be rude.
Why not chasitise those actual individuals instead of labelling the whole GROUP?
All the vets i came to rely on for advice are gone, some of the "newer vets" give conflicting or inconsistent advice, the newbies are giving advice to newbies who are also giving advice that is incorrect or inconsistent.
My point is that we need a balance...
We need newbies, we need vets, we need to be grown up adults who can be respectful and kind, but who can give us correct and helpful advice.
I try to be respectful in all my posts i monitor MY tone, MY delivery and try not to be offensive, but i still give my honest opinion.... why can't we all just do that?
I also try not to jump to conculsions, this is the written word, there is no tone... if i feel a post is rude, i will clarify first that this was the intention... most of the time the person was not being rude at all... i just took it that way...
Lets behave with respect, integrity and empathy just like we should as humans and adults and stop this blaming bullsh!t and focus on what is important.... building a healthy body, having a healthy mind and living a long happy healthy life.
Achieving this is made easier with all you guys... so why are we bloody fighting each other!