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:confused:Don't profess to know it all, but my experience first hand is that if you have a man that is insecure, then he will not handle the weight loss once it really starts to come off. All my friends and coworkers tell me how good I am looking, but from this man, I actually get criticism that I never got 60 pound heavier. Iv'e been told I had a flat azz, which is an insult for sista. I been told that I'm losing too much. I still am over 200 pounds. Just ridiculous stuff. During my therapy session, me and my therapist discussed this possibility, and I told him that I didn't have to worry about that with my man because he was supportive and understanding, but a whole new person emerged, once significant weight came off. I did some changing for the better I think, I gained confidence, I changed my hair, and keep it done, I am starting to have more options with clothing, but I am the same person, and I think some men cannot understand that. They feel more men will be attracted to you (which they will), and you will see their insecurities., So I think you and I are in a postion where we have to reevaluate our relationships, for our own happiness.

LOL! Yes I am glad you said the correct way. I see plenty of women some of whom are not neccesarily that big do a great disservice to hip huggers. :wink_smile:

This is a great forum for women who have underlying issues that contributed to weight gain. I didnt have emotional related weight gain, so like myself I leaned toward thinking all overweight people were similar to me just fat and lazy, but I thank you women for sharing your stories, I think it will open a lot of our eyes(especially me), as well as encourage other women to evaluate themselves and grow.

You look great lexy. Beautiful family

Wow! SIze 10 from 22-24 is really great. I can only imagine how that feels. It's funny you siad that about thinking the pants were cut big, because that has been me at size 16. The first 16's I thought were just cut big, because the last time I went shopping I was buying 22's. Once I brought 16's in different sizes the denial wore off. lol! Congratulations! Good job.

Anywhere, where I can get just one pair of painted of designer painted on jeans. lol

If you buy it let us know how it works. I am gonna try to go to Penny's and check it out. I have three smoothies books, and not one blender, bullet or anything in the house.

I know this is bad for me to say, but by Thanksgiving you will probably be able to eat. I hear that you still shouldn't over do it because you can still stretch the stomach, but you will probably be able to have a very small scoop of most things. Only because it seems there are many things the band just won't tolerate.I would just stay away from anything with bread like biscuits, cakes etc. Ok ladies please don't fuss at me I said it was a bad thing for me to say:thumbdown:.

Thanks! She's a little to thin, but I would love to have her hair. LOL. They put 3 cc's in your first fill? That seems like a lot. I'm up to 3 cc's now, and this is the most I am very restricted. I think the weight is going to fly off you know. So be prepared to tell everyone how wonderful weight watcher is. LOL!

Welcome to bandland. I'm not sure what realize is, so I think I have it. lol.

WoW! From 24 to 16 Congratulations. At one point I was holding on to the little clothes, and now I'm holding on to big clothes "just in case". A 14 is my goal size, and I started at 24, so I'm feeling inspired.

Good luck, I think the fills will help a lot. I just recently started consistently losing after my last fill in September. It's great for us that it comes off slow. For the most part we don't have to worry about hanging skin.:eek: My arms however were very fat, so theyre flappy already.

Congratulations ladies! The hell doesn't last too long. I keep looking at an old picture of myself when I was a fox, so I can remember what it's all for, and what Im aspiring too. I know I'm slightly delusional. lol. I wish you both luck.

I think we should all get back to what we are her for and stop giving this person attention. Somewhere a village is missing an idiot.:eek: (Sorry, I tried ration) april apple thanks for the link. I'm definatley am going to try the Shea butter. I've been told that you have to find a product where the Shea is at least listed as the first 4 ingredients, or it's not as effective. And many of the prodcuts that I have seen at the local places, contain all types of chemicals. I also have an appt w/ my surgeon to see if it is necessary to have it cauterized. I've had this scar for a year, so I know I'm past the ovet the counter stage right now.

If I can get greens down, It will be a very Happy Thanksgiving. I won't need any meat. LOL!:tongue2:

I really am going to try to focus on being with my family. Some of whom I haven't seen in a year or more. As far as them noticing, they definately will. I am at a real high restriction now, so most of the time I have trouble with turkey and chicken, and all vegetables. I can imagine my family actually thinking I'm anorexic. lol. But I am looking forward to the Holidays Thanksigiving and Christmas are my favoite times of the year.:tongue2:

Not eating 2 at least two hours before bed should do it. If I eat anything close to bed time, I burp it up and then I have o jump up and run to the bathroom. Same thing happens if I recline and eat. I have to completely sit up.

Funny!!!! I think. I have a serious Coldstone addiction. Founder's Favorite in the Gotta have it size to be exact. I gave it up:confused_smile:, well cut back when I was doing weight watchers, and was amazed at how many points it added up to be. So I'll have it about twice a month in the like it size. Plus it's an expensive addiction. I think drugs would probably be cheaper.:biggrin:

When can you go for your first fill?

I have tried the assests at target, and like them. The only thing I can sau about them is that after a few hours of the day the panty that I had on would roll down and move out of place. :biggrin:. Could have been the wrong size. I hear a lot of great things about Spanx however, and I am looking forward to trying them, if I can use my coupons from Lane Bryant. :biggrin:

Welcome to bandville!! It's a wonderful place to be.

Congratulations Miss Rach!!!, and welcome. Wish you all the best meeting your weight goal. This is a really positive forum and you can find a lot of information for many different issues on fills, restriction, etc. Please share your experiences too.

Wow. Personally every forum that I went to before this one was a white only forum, It just didnt have that label. It ok for me to post in a forum, where I am the minority, that doesn't address some of the cultural issues associated with obesity, or even the physical healing which is drastically different with monirity womenm but as soon as I come to a forum where I can share experiences about keloids, and have someone related. Then were are in so many words racist. I gonna leave this alone because I think april apple responded appropriately, and I may do be so eloquent in the face of ignorance.

[ Oh also I am finally going to use by spa gift certificate that I got for my birthday back in June! I am going today and maybe going to catch a movie. If you see the secret life of bees, let me know how it was. I amd definatley going to take this challenge. I'm gonna join LA Fitness since they are running a special now of $0 down.:biggrin:

This is my first Thanksgiving with restriction. Now traditionally, Thanksgiving is one of the two Holidays were not only is it accepted to eat like a pig, but it's expected. I don't want to have to explain to room full of people, wht I'm eating a spoonful of mashed potatoes and a slice of turkey. Has anyone yet handled Thankisgiving, where every one is stuffing themselves to oblivion?