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I'd love to see any before and after pictures of people who have lost around 100lbs, give or take. I can't even picture myself down 100lbs. I could use the motivation as my surgery date approaches. Thanks!
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Exactly one year ago today I got my sleeve.
As part of my process of losing weight, I have decided to post my story. Warning, emotional dump below. Thank you to everyone who reads. I am so grateful to BP and to everyone who has the courage to share as I learn and am inspired by your stories – so I decided to post my own. I cannot imagine going through WLS without BP and you all.
Figuring out why I got fat – and how to heal myself
I have literally spent the past 30 years in different types of therapy trying to figure out why I do not take care of myself, love myself or feel worthy of love. Through the process, I have learned a lot about myself, done some hard work yet was still very overweight (high 421) and struggled daily with basic self-care.
I am a social worker and have also spent the past 25 years working in the helping profession, yet I was not helping myself. I am so grateful to be able to say now that I am taking care of myself, really for the first time in my life of 44 years. Thank you WLS.
I have been in talk therapy on and off since I was 14 when I tried to kill myself because of nightmares and flashbacks from childhood trauma that scared the hell out of me. I was in a group for sexual abuse survivors for many years because of the sexual abuse from my grandfather - a known sexual perpetrator that my mother moved into our house for free babysitting. I have done focused healing work on my abuse from him and the immense abuse and neglect from my mother. I have done somatic body work and EMDR for trauma, couples therapy with my husband to work through how my trauma and his trauma trigger each other, a formalized emotional eating disorder program for my binge eating (and of course Weight Watchers numerous times, nutrisystem, South Beach, Optifast, you name it) and copious amounts of psychoanalysis, CBT, solution-focused therapy, hypnosis, acupuncture, psychotropic medications, self-reflection and journaling, self-help books etc…
And I weighed 421 pounds.
Enter my decision to get the sleeve. I had been resistant, buying into the myth that if I tried hard enough, I would figure out how to take care of myself and not overeat. After struggling with enough energy at 421 pounds to run a non-profit, take care of my family and go to school for a masters in social work, I took a year off from school and signed up for the weight loss program at Kaiser. I always heard that in order to take care of others you must take care of yourself, but for some reason I thought I could be the exception. I was finally motivated enough for WLS.
A year later I got my sleeve at 385 pounds, and today, exactly one year after my surgery I am at 253 pounds with another 100 to go. I could never be here without WLS and my learning to finally and truly start taking care of myself. I realized that the solution was inside me the whole time – realizing that at my core, I felt I was a bad person and had to show everyone else this by my weight. I was using my weight as a boundary because I couldn’t say no or take care of myself.
In addition to WLS, I have started mindfulness training, worked hard on self-compassion (based on Dr. Neff’s work) and letting go of the shame that kept me big (Brene Brown’s work). I still have a long way to go, but today I wanted to honor how far I have come from the scared little girl who was traumatized to the adult I am today who finally is not scared to be healthy and take care of herself. Happy one-year surgiversary to me!

Wow!! All of you are so inspirational! Amazing!! I started this thread when I was still thinking about having surgery, no I'm 12 days post op and 25 lbs down altogether. I am looking forward to being able to post my picture here. Thank you so much for sharing your transformations.
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Wow!! All of you are so inspirational! Amazing!! I started this thread when I was still thinking about having surgery, no I'm 12 days post op and 25 lbs down altogether. I am looking forward to being able to post my picture here. Thank you so much for sharing your transformations.
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It's not a lie when it's none of their business!!!! Your allowed to keep your medical business or any personal business for that matter private.
But if it's bugging you try A truthful response that still protects your privacy.
Have you lost weight.... Yes thanks
Is that all your eating ....Yes thanks
How are you losing all that weight....lots of hard work thanks for noticing
What is your secret....no secret just a lot of hard work
What exactly is your diet... Lots of Protein it really fills me up
I call it creative honesty... And it kinda makes me laugh. Just don't let people derail you. In most cases they really do mean well.
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Wow!! All of you are so inspirational! Amazing!! I started this thread when I was still thinking about having surgery, no I'm 12 days post op and 25 lbs down altogether. I am looking forward to being able to post my picture here. Thank you so much for sharing your transformations.
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I'd love to see any before and after pictures of people who have lost around 100lbs, give or take. I can't even picture myself down 100lbs. I could use the motivation as my surgery date approaches. Thanks!
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I'd love to see any before and after pictures of people who have lost around 100lbs, give or take. I can't even picture myself down 100lbs. I could use the motivation as my surgery date approaches. Thanks!
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I'd love to see any before and after pictures of people who have lost around 100lbs, give or take. I can't even picture myself down 100lbs. I could use the motivation as my surgery date approaches. Thanks!
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I've lost about 76 pounds in 6 months. I went from a 3x shirt, size 22 pants to a size large shirt, 13 pants. Still have a ways to go but I am happy with what I've lost

I'd love to see any before and after pictures of people who have lost around 100lbs, give or take. I can't even picture myself down 100lbs. I could use the motivation as my surgery date approaches. Thanks!
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Not quite a 100 pounds yet....but 83 at 7 months out. I did lose about 15 of those pounds before surgery. Super happy with progress thus far.

This is just around the 100 mark and was approximately 6 mos post-op. I am now just over 9 mos and down 125 & counting. Good luck!

I'd love to see any before and after pictures of people who have lost around 100lbs, give or take. I can't even picture myself down 100lbs. I could use the motivation as my surgery date approaches. Thanks!
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I'd love to see any before and after pictures of people who have lost around 100lbs, give or take. I can't even picture myself down 100lbs. I could use the motivation as my surgery date approaches. Thanks!
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Wow!! You look amazing! Way to go!!
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Wow!! You look amazing! Way to go!!
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Here you go! Lost 94, but close enough!

I lost 150 in 14 months. Most importantly I am still at goal. My sleeve surgery was Dec 2011

First of all, I'd like to thank everyone that has had the surgery and posts here. It has been so helpful and cemented my commitment to getting the gastric sleeve. My surgery date is April 7th! Eek! Anyway, I have a bunch of random questions, and I'd appreciate your help!
1. For those of you who are married, or in a serious relationship, how did the surgery effect your relationship. (I am married to an amazing man who supports me 100%, but I worry how our relationship will change as I change)
2. Did you tell your work, friends and family? If not, how do you explain your diet and weight loss? (I am only telling my husband and two close friends. I am telling everyone else I got my gallbladder out)
3. Do you have very saggy skin? (I'm 264 lbs, 5'6, 44 DDD and 31 yrs old. I am super nervous about my stomach and breasts. The nurse told me many people regret having the surgery because their skin is so saggy)
4. How much hair did you lose? (It seems so vain, but I have super thin hair as it is and I don't want to be bald! I've already started Vitamins, including Biotin, and I will start using Aveda thinning hair treatment after surgery.
5. For those of you who have active jobs, how was returning to work? (I am a first grade teacher and am planning on returning to work 11 days after surgery.)
6. What is the worst part of the recovery process? What is the best part of having the surgery?
I have a ton more questions, but I'll wave it at this for now!! Thank you so much!
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Thank you so much for taking the time to respond!!! A lot of good things come from the surgery . I'm most looking forward to crossing my legs! (And easily painting my toe nails, and shopping in normal stores... And so many more). Thanks again.
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Thank you so much for taking the time to respond!!! A lot of good things come from the surgery . I'm most looking forward to crossing my legs! (And easily painting my toe nails, and shopping in normal stores... And so many more). Thanks again.
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