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Oct 20th!

I was just scheduled for 10/27.
Anyone else getting theirs next month?
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My daughter is against the surgery, and I have had to stand firm and tell her that it's going to happen, no matter what her opinion on the matter.
My mother, who suggested that I get surgery has suddenly decided not to answer my last two emails about my info being submitted to the insurance company, and then 10 days later, my email telling her that I'd been approved.

​My take on this is that I am doing this for ME. I want to get healthier, as I have several health issues that are exacerbated by my morbid obesity. I'm not doing it to find a lifemate, I'm doing this so that I don't end up with diabetes (I'm pre-diabetic right now, and on metformin for it), that I can chuck the CPAP machine, that I can walk more than half a block without having to stop to rest, etc., ad nauseum.

​That's how I'm handling it. Yes, it's hurtful that I'm not getting family support, but I do have friends who are being supportive, and as long as I have them to support me, I'll survive it.
Plus, if and when my daughter sees how well my own weight loss journey goes, she might decide to have the surgery, too, as she is dangerously obese, and also has severe chronic obstructive sleep apnea.
Good luck to you.

I am scheduled for surgery on October 3rd!
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I'm lucky that my husband and daughter are 100% supportive of my surgery. My daughter came to stay while I was in the hospital, and when she was here she made 2 weeks worth of dinners for my husband, so I won't have to cook or be in the kitchen while I am on liquids. They are my rocks!
I had a "goodbye food" week. I ate my favorite meals at my favorite restaurants, but I didn't go overboard, ordering appetizers and Desserts in addition to my meals. I went to 50 cent buffalo wing night at the local pub, and we had a beer and pizza night (wood fired- yum!) another night. I had Mexican food one night and Chinese another. We went to Olive Garden, (where I didn't order Fettuccini alfredo), and to a local restaurant where I had prime rib and baked potato. I ate all my favorite foods, not because I won't ever be able to et them again, but because it's going to be a looooooong time before these things are allowed in my diet, and because I won't be eating what I like in the quantities I used to. Actually, I think I had more issue with knowing I'll be limited in quantity that in worrying about "never" eating something again. I LIKED being full. I liked eating 10 chicken wings, half a small pizza, a big cut of prime rib with a baked potato (only butter, no sour cream, not loaded). I know that's how I got so overweight, and I am ready to make the change, but while I know I'll be able to have the foods I liked, I'll never eat them in quantity again (thank goodness!)- so I was happy to make that little food pilgrimage, sort of like closing the door on my old habits and opening the door to new ones!

Just got my date today: October 26
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I think of a food funeral as your last chance to have those special foods you really enjoy before you can't have them again, as some people's tastes change post-surgery, or their bodies decide they're no longer on the menu.
It's a farewell to food, an Irish wake of sorts, but without the hangover the next morning.
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Hi Just read your comment and you just spoke to me!! I am worried about post op pain too but hey I am looking at things now I am in pain everyday, every step I take so a few days of discomfort is going to be worth it, My surgery date is 10/14 I already started to do the pre op diet on my own just to get a head start and to see how I can cope with stress and head hunger so far so good. . I know I can do this and G8rg you can do it too. I will be praying for you and a safe and speedy recovery, keep us posted on how it goes.

Worrying is normal, especially during this time right before surgery. But ask yourself these things: why did you go through all of this in the first place? What are the reasons you even began this journey? Do these reasons still exist? Is it worth dealing with possible complications/difficulties for the chance to lose weight and be healthy/happy?
The reality is, if you're anything like the rest of us here (and I suspect you are. You're here for a reason), then you've tried and failed before, probably many times. You know what you want, and you know how to get there. Of course this process is scary. It would be silly not to contemplate the very real issues that could arise. Might you have trouble in the beginning? Yes, you probably will. Might it be painful right after surgery for a week or two? Yep. It definitely will. But are you willing to deal with a short period of pain and discomfort for many years of health and life that would not exist without this surgery? Only you can answer that.
In the end, this is a huge, terrifying, and sometimes horrible process. You're probably going to have crappy experiences with food/drink, gas, weird metabolic and hormonal changes that make you a little crazy, maybe even some deficiencies that you're going to need to work at to fix. Maybe even some of your "friends" and loved ones will act strangely towards you as you change and become closer to society's expectations of beauty and normalcy. But you're also going to have an entire new life, and entire new you. You're going to have times when you're so overwhelmed by the amazing changes you'll be going through that you'll just break down in tears out of pure joy and disbelief. If you do this, understand that as monumentally difficult as this is going to be, it's going to be a thousand times better than where you are. In a year, when you're completely healed and living your new life (probably loving the way you feel and look), these fears will seem silly to you. You'll look back at this and realize that everything has been worth it and that you'd do it again in a heartbeat.
By the way! I'm a little over 13 months out and I've lost almost 200 since surgery and over 250 overall. I went from a size 34 jeans to a size 10/12 jeans. I followed the plan obsessively, and as such, have not suffered any dumping or Vitamin deficiencies. My one-year check up last month proved I am perfectly healthy. Now that I am healed and have entered maintenance, I've added some good carbs back into my diet. I can even treat myself with a bite or two of something yummy and naughty (i.e. my friend's birthday cake) and then move on with my life. My relationship with food is now healthy and normal, something I never really believed I would ever experience. I feel... normal. Yup... I would do this all over again a million times if it would get me here every time.
Only you can choose, but it seems to me that you already know what to do and why you're doing it. Don't let your fears conquer you. I wish you nothing but the best of luck and health moving forward.

My daughter is against the surgery, and I have had to stand firm and tell her that it's going to happen, no matter what her opinion on the matter.
My mother, who suggested that I get surgery has suddenly decided not to answer my last two emails about my info being submitted to the insurance company, and then 10 days later, my email telling her that I'd been approved.

​My take on this is that I am doing this for ME. I want to get healthier, as I have several health issues that are exacerbated by my morbid obesity. I'm not doing it to find a lifemate, I'm doing this so that I don't end up with diabetes (I'm pre-diabetic right now, and on metformin for it), that I can chuck the CPAP machine, that I can walk more than half a block without having to stop to rest, etc., ad nauseum.

​That's how I'm handling it. Yes, it's hurtful that I'm not getting family support, but I do have friends who are being supportive, and as long as I have them to support me, I'll survive it.
Plus, if and when my daughter sees how well my own weight loss journey goes, she might decide to have the surgery, too, as she is dangerously obese, and also has severe chronic obstructive sleep apnea.
Good luck to you.

It's a lot nicer when you can do what others do to get rid of the weight and be healthier again, but not all people are that fortunate.
We are some of those less fortunate people, but we're taking the step of getting a tool to help us become healthier.
I think that takes a LOT of bravery.
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I've only told a few people, for similar reasons. I'm about 12.5 hours away from being on the operating table, and I'm planning on telling most people after the surgery is done.

I'm in Salinas, ca. 15 miles to Monterey
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I was just scheduled for 10/27.
Anyone else getting theirs next month?
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I expect to have my surgery in October. By Friday (Sep 30) the surgeon's secretary is to call and schedule the surgery. I had my endoscopy on Friday and according to my surgeon all is well. I have completed all my prerequisites except for a 'pre surgery class.' I had hoped to have the sleeve but following the endoscopy Dr. says I will have to go with the RNY. Just as well considering all the morbidity issues. I just had my 69th birthday so I am more than a little nervous.
My husband, son and daughter are all very supportive. I do have Type II Diabetes, high BP, sleep apnea so I do need this surgery if I plan to hang around for a while. I pray a lot and seek guidance from the One who created me. There have been zero stumbling blocks medically to this point. Every time I get a little discouraged something happens to remind me why I am doing this. Like trying to pick something up off the floor or tie my tennis shoes.
Today I have tried to do one day of liquids only and I have been miserably tired! I am so afraid I won't be able to do the 14 days required by the program. Not being able only hurts me I know! That hunger hormone works overtime for diabetics to begin with. The surgeons PA told me it is near impossible for someone on Insulin to lose weight.
I wish us all well and a healthy blessed life on the other side of this surgery.

It's like they try one tack, and when that doesn't capsize the surgery boat, they try another.
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My daughter hasn't flipflopped, but she's been unsupportive. She's afraid that something bad will happen and that I'll die because of the surgery, which is scheduled for 10/27/16, a week after my birthday.

​MAN, what a birthday present!

​For a long while, she was nagging at me, grabbing any negative statistic she could find about the surgery, but I didn't let it obviously get to me.

​The nagging has stopped, and now she's doing the whole "well, we won't be able to eat together now" thing, which you all and I know isn't the case.

​My Mom, who, a couple years ago, told me that I should look into it, as I am morbidly obese, and have several serious health issues as a result, hasn't responded to my last two emails to her, where I first told her that my information had been submitted to insurance for surgery approval, and then my email to her last Wednesday, telling her that it had been approved.

​Family is weird, I suppose. We just have to find a way to deal with it.

Thanks everyone! Yes I will be eating that for sure!
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I'm always amazed at how much more confident the 'after' pictures are! You look fantastic! Congratulations at a job well done!

Congrats! Those first months are wonderfully magical. You will have many more celebration days coming your way. WLS is for me, the closest thing out there to the fountain of youth. You expect to feel better, but you're completely overwhelmed by how it will positivity affect so many other aspects of your life: your mobility, stamina, confidence, belief in yourself and so many others.
WLS isn't just a cold sterile procedure. It's your life 2.0 reboot and a second chance to get it right this time around.
It's just going to get better and better!

Today is exactly one month since I had WLS. I don't normally weigh in mid week (I weigh in and do my measurements on Monday mornings) but since it has been a month since my surgery I weighed myself.
I started my journey at my all time heaviest 280lbs. During the preop diet I lost 13lbs so on the morning of my surgery I was 267lbs.
Today I weighed in at 240.2lbs.
I am down 40lbs!!!!!!
I'm finding my way through the new diet and feeling more confident by the day!

@onega128. In had RNY Wednesday sept 14. I am 62. No complications. I prefer to live the rest of my years a normal weight as I had been fat all my life. Hope this answers your questions. s

Too old my foot! I had my sleeve surgery last year when I was 59. I was 60 a couple of weeks ago and I am loving every second of my journey. I have lost 68lbs and my BMI has gone from 36 to 24. I walk five miles a day with my dogs. I'm back doing ballet classes having not danced professionally for 25 years and I feel great! A girl is never too old to enjoy life, wear fun clothes and shoes and behave like a much younger version of herself. I intend growing older disgracefully!!!!!! Tell your mum to go for it. It is SO worth it!
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LOL. My sis had VSG about 4 years ago, and my parents were worried about my having it. At first they were telling me how they were concerned that all of her health issues seem to be related to the VSG. When I let them know that they are not related (I'm a nurse), they backed off that track. The next time I saw them, they were worried that I'd become a downer and no fun to eat with anymore because my sis is one of those people who has to tell you about everything and how things work (even if she doesn't really know). I let them know that as far as I'm concerned, I'm not the food police so I don't speak about what other people are choosing to eat, and after a few months I'll be able to eat whatever I decide to just in smaller portions. And unless you ask me, I'm not going to go on and on about why I'm eating smaller portions or what you should/should not be eating. They finally decided to quit hassling me about it. LOL

In less than 24 hours it will finally be my turn to join the Loser's Bench! I'm starting to get scared! I got this! It's been a long time coming and it just seemed like I was going through the motions, now it's real! My life is about to change forever, yet I still can't wait! See y'all on the other side.
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