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Sometimes it's an honor, lol.

Wouldn't that be cool? ?

Mix it up with a bit of colder liquid first before you're adding it.

Absolutely. Change can be hard to cope with if one doesn't like the change. Doesn't even need to be insecurity involved, but of course it can be. I would hate having a husband all of a sudden that wants to go out partying every Friday and Saturday evenings because I'm usually tired and only want to cuddle up at home. And Billy Bob is obviously having some kind of tic right now that enforces hitting the "haha" button under several postings in a row, lol.

The interesting thing is that it didn't feel like much of a struggle. Sure, quitting smoking was a pain in the a**. And so was the regain. I lost the regain when I discovered that intuitive eating is a thing one can do after WLS. So the weight came off quite easily and I didn't restart smoking so far. All of that is long ago. About 17 years or so. To lose the second regain was also not much of a hassle eating wise because the MGB took care of it. The year between the unfill and making up my mind to really get a revision was a pain in the a** as well though. I was scared as hell and postponed for almost a year. I'm facing another revision now and I won't wait a whole year this time. It's been about three months now that surgeons recommended it (hiatoplastic, gastropexia and revision of the anastomosis) and I've finally made up my mind and hope I can schedule surgery at the end of February or begin of March.

So far you're maintaining an excess weight loss of 100 lbs two years out of surgery (if I read one of your previous posts correctly). In the eyes of a WLS surgeon that makes you still a success. Wherever you'll go: don't take the road to self-hate and "feeling like a failure". Believe me. A lot of people on here do understand. They might not post much or at all, most of them are not even on here but they are out there. No one can question that who've looked at the many papers dealing with long term success rates. Many patients regain weight, some lose it again, some not. I had a temporary regain years ago when I stopped smoking and then again when my band had to be unfilled because of worsening reflux/GERD. It does feel horrible but "feeling like a failure" gets you nowhere. On the contrary, extra self-care and self-compassion seems to work way better than scolding yourself. And even if it doesn't - at least it feels better.

Of course it's ok. It's also ok when people say that they don't want to get to a BMI of below 25. However, there are also quite a few people complaining about losing "too slowly" and some of them act like it is some kind of evil magic that prevents them from losing faster. As long as there are people bitching about how it's not fair and how they should be losing faster on the minuscule amount of calories they eat there will be people trying to explain to them why they're maybe not losing weight as fast enough as they think they should. And there should be people making clear that there is no evil magic that prevents people from losing weight faster and hopefully they won't stop pointing this out. Nobody is telling you how to lose or how fast to lose.

You ladies are all wearing nice dresses also when going to work. My husband's comment on the gear I wear in the picture I posted was "Looks somehow like a Power Ranger!". I was like ROFL.

It's a bit like labelling yourself a poor man when your yearly income is a million bucks.

Neither did I or most likely not any or at least not much of the women you can find on here. Most people do seem to have unrealistic expectations how fast the weight should be coming off or not. That's why many people say one shouldn't compare the own weight loss rate to that of others. (Ok, mostly it's more like a "I know I shouldn't compared, but...") I don't think that people are lying. However, they're overestimating what their TDEE is.

Most people who think they're slow losers still seem to lose weight pretty fast. The WLS universe seems to be kind of warped in more than one way, e. g. - what "losing weight slowly" means. - what constitutes a "high calorie diet".

Maybe I'm getting Fatboyslim wrong but I don't think he denies these things. He just seems to say that the TDEE Serengirl claims/thinks to have is too good too high to be true and therefore she's losing the weight not as fast as she "should" according to the calculations she made. When people are losing weight rather slow it's because their TDEE isn't very high - for whatever reason.

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Interestingly enough not. Most people don't have a clue and ask some questions like "Does it work?", "Are there things you can't eat anymore or can you eat anything?", "Do you feel still hungry?", "Does it feel somehow weird or something?"

You will burn fat when you're in a calorie deficit.

Me at work.

This has nothing to do with "being in a coma" or not. Do you e. g. know how much LBM you have compared to fat mass? "...balling". That's the important word here. There is no way to really calculate how many calories your body needs in a day. All of these supposed calculations are really estimations. If you're not losing weight at the rate you're expecting to lose it's because your body is 1) not in a high enough energy deficit and that's that. 2) not a machine but a living organism.

As long as you don't know how many calories you burn in a day you still don't know how high your deficit is. Energy needs vary big time between individuals. If you're not losing "enough" weight on the amount of calories you eat, your deficit is smaller than you think. Why your energy expenditure is what it is... who knows. You seem to have a lot of medical stuff going on that have effects on your energy expenditure.

Weight loss is fairly similar with sleeve and RNY (don't know about the MGB). You can do a search on pubmed yourself regarding regain rates. Yes, a lot of patients gain at least part of the weight back within the first years. Unfortunately there are usually quite high drop out rates when it comes to studies so nobody knows what's up with these patients. One could assume that everything is fine and dandy and therefore they don't want to bother anymore. Another assumption would be that they don't want to be scolded because of regain and don't make follow up appointments because of this reason. Maybe drop out rates are evenly distributed between the two groups, maybe not. On WLS boards the selection bias is way too high to draw a conclusion, plus there usually aren't that much "long timers". If you're out two or three years and still posting - that's already a long time when it comes to being active on a board but it's a really short time when it comes to lifelong maintenance of the weight loss.

I doubt that since all of these TDEE calculators and resting metabolism calculators neither take body fat/lean body mass ratio into the equation nor interpersonal differences aside from gender and maybe age. For obese individuals these calculator usually spit out values that are overestimating energy expenditure since body fat to LBM ratio is usually different than in a normal weight individual.

Wishing you a speedy recovery here.

Thanks. ❤️ Maybe I should look at my back more often. Ah, gotta keep a sense of humor here... ?

Bull crap? You know what bull crap is? The amount of calories burnt your tracker shows on the display at the end of your workout and unless you really had your resting metabolism rate tested and know how many calories you're burning at rest, everything about your daily deficit is guesswork.

They simply don't have this kind of deficit, even though if they sometimes might think they have. To have a 3000 kcal deficit a day one must have a really high TDEE. People usually have much smaller deficits than this and therefore of course don't lose 7 lbs a week. Even if one is eating only 500 kcal a day that means a TDEE of 3500 kcal minimum a day and we're usually not talking about the 186 cm tall, 25 year old very active male on this board. Most people overestimate the amount of calories they're burning and underestimate the amount of energy they're consuming. Even if people are "measuring everything" - how do people measure? Cups and spoons or gram?

Tools can break, Mr. Handyman. ?