Suzeee

I was admitted into the hospital on 12/30/16 the day before I was so undecided on whether I wanted to go they with it or not. What really made me decide to go thru was my 1 year old son. I know that I have to be around for him while he grows up. I have had congestive heart failure for the past 3 years and 3 heart surgeries too follow so I figured one more surgery would be a breeze. But I'm just 4 days post op and it's a struggle. My mind is telling me that I'm hungry but my stomach is saying something else. At times I feel like I regret going thru it but I have to look at the big picture and just realize I did it not only for my son but also for myself. I'm only 29 years old and have had 3 major heart surgeries. I was limited to doing certain things before surgery and I feel once I start losing weight I will be able to be more active. I am so glad that I found this App for support and questions because it feels like I am in this alone. Can't wait to interact with other Sleevers!!
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I had my gastric sleeve done January 11th. I weighed 333.1lbs.
I'm 10 months post op now and weigh 144.2lbs.
I've set new goal weights as I've gone along...first was just to get under 200lbs, then I thought I wanted my goal weight to be 180lbs. When I got there, I made the crazy goal of 150lbs never thinking I'd make it....but I did. So then I figured my goal would be 145lbs which puts me at a normal bmi...which I haven't been since I was around 10.
Now that I weight 144lbs, I've decided my final goal will 133lbs, which will mean I will have lost a total of 200lbs....and I'll do it, I know I can.
I never thought when I had surgery that weighing in the 130's would even be possible.
I've gone from wearing sizes 5-6x, and 28-30, now I wear smalls and mediums and am a size 8....I would be around a 6 if it wasn't for the large amount of skin I have around my stomach and thighs....but it's a price I'm more than happy to pay.
I've been extremely disciplined this whole 10 months. I can honestly say I've never put a bad food in my mouth...not once. I follow a very low carb diet still, drink about 85oz of Water every day and get in around 80oz of Protein. I take all my required Vitamins daily.
The gym has become a big part of my life. I workout around 5-6 days per week doing a variety of exercising....spin class, step  class, yoga, cardio machines....I like doing different things so I don't get bored.
Anyway, because I'm so close to goal, I just wanted to share this. And for the people who have a lot of weight to lose like I did....remember, you can do this! I'm living proof!!
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Welcome to "The Boards", friend. You certainly have walked a twisted and complicated path so far.
Ask any questions.
Express your concerns/opinions
There probably will be a member on this site that has experienced whatever you questions about.
But:
Please know ahead of time that is what we are offering to you. We can certainly offer our support. We can share with you our personal experiences. We can share our thoughts and opinions.
We can not and certainly should not ever offer medical advice.
Mostly, personally speaking I want to tell you that I am here and I am always willing to listen.
Again, Welcome, Friend.

It is not your desire to 'educate' others that offends me; it's your frankly baffling treatment of well-meaning people that were sincerely trying to lift your spirits and give you another perspective.
I have a niggling feeling that self-awareness might not be a forte of yours, so I'm not going to waste my time trying to put up a mirror for you see what you're doing (like others have tried to do, in a much more articulate and decent way than I can muster).
I wish you well.

@@GinaCampbell I've read all the posts on here and am impressed with how masterfully and swiftly you managed to dilute the goodwill that has always been extended to you on these boards. Bravo.
People showed up to support you yet again on this thread and one by one you slapped them away, picking on words that were never meant to attack, harm or 'bully' you. Perhaps you should have prefaced in your original note that you were not looking for compassion or support and that might've effectively kept any love coming to you, at bay.
What's been phenomenal to see however, is the continued decency and patience showed by most of the responders on here, even in the face of serious vitriol spat out by the person you were doing your best to support. I thank these people for showing that nastiness can be responded to with grace - that's what I'll taking away from this mess of a thread.

Today my weight dropped to 75kg (165 Ibs). I was told that at 74kg (162.8 Ibs) I'd be a success. I am now 10kg (22 Ibs) away from my goal weight, and 15kg (33 Ibs) away from my stretch goal of 60kg (132 Ibs).
It is amazing to see how sugar caused few stalls, and even a little gain in the past.
Since I stopped eating ice-cream and frozen yoghurt, and sticking to the food plan, suddenly my weight is peeling off again.
It is like my body can't process sugar and stores it as fat instead.
So, I have to be mindful constantly of what I put in my mouth.
The sugar and its bad effects will never change. If I eat sugary food, I put on weight, if I don't eat it, I lose weight.
So this will be lifelong process for me ....
Happy to say though that melons and frozen berries satisfy my sugar cravings after dinner, and are a much healthier substitute.
Funny, I never used to eat much of rock melon or honey dew, now I love them
It is good to see the scales moving down again! I swapped ice-cream for frozen yoghurt because I thought it was healthier and lower in calories ..... alas what started with a small serving of frozen yoghurt became larger and larger servings. It was emotional eating for me, as I had lot of stress recently, so I felt I needed a reward..... Thankfully I realised what I was doing, and went back on track, back to basics. Basics work for me, and I have to be mindful of the Sugar Demon!

Or maybe people are tired of you starting or going into every thread complaining about how much you regret the surgery? We get it. You regret the surgery. Move on. What the hell can you do about it now??
And how short sighted does someone have to be to realize it's not always going to be this way? When you have a 2 year old child, do you say they are still going to be throwing tantrums and not be potty trained when they're 20? Of course not. Things change and progress. Just like with this surgery. Yes, there will be a time when you will be able to eat more. Yes, there will be a time when you can eat whatever you want without feeling like sh*t. Yes, there will be time when you can pretty much ignore the fact you've had surgery and do whatever you want again once you've healed up. Yes, even your fairly normal complications will get better with time. I barely even know I've had surgery now at 2 years out with the amounts I can eat. Yes, NORMAL amounts if I really work at it. I feel completely normal. You're frikken 9 weeks out. Give yourself time to heal up and you can move on with your life like nothing ever happened.
Jeez.

"Feeling Better" !does not begin to cover the changes in the last 9 months:
1 - OFF of Metformin immediately after the surgery
2 - My knees don't sound like gravel when I get up from a chair
3 - I can sit in a Booth at a Restaurant
4 - I have lost 1 FOOT off my waistline. Think about what that means to my major organs and my back.
5 - Underwear is cheaper once you get to a 2X (4 per pack instead of 3) and smaller. I went from 3X to XL in 8 months
6 - My feet don't hurt when I walk more than 100 yards.
7 - My daughter says "I got my Dad back!"
The list goes on and on, for all of us! This is the BEST decision I have made since I proposed to my wife. Congratulations on your New Life! Enjoy your new self.

The only regret I have is that I didn't have it sooner. I was also very nervous before surgery. I regretted my decision quite a bit the first few weeks because I thought I had ruined my life. You might feel that way too. As time passes though and you move back to regular food and you start losing weight, you realize that you made the right decision.
I am about 6 weeks short of being 3-years post-op and the person I am today is such a much healthier, happier, better person than I was 3 years ago.

This of course is no serious topic, just totally random. I often times wonder what my dog is thinking as she stares at my huge bubbly body naked. Im starting to think she likes it as she's always front and center for the show. Lol.
My dog is my number one companion she loves to be on me, under me, near me...whatever. It proves to be a challenge when she tries to sit on my thighs but my stomach pushes her off. Lol! I wonder if she too will note the changes that my body is about to take on. I wonder if she'll give me a break from toy throwing when I come home from the hospital. And maybe be more cooperative on her leash. Ahhh one can dream.
Sorry yall, I just love my dog....5 days till surgery and the pressures getting to me.
It's never too late, until its too late

I've been dating and having sex since losing weight and haven't mentioned the loose skin or weight loss. no-one else has mentioned it, either. Honestly, they just seem to be in to the having sex...i've walked around naked and my loose skin is on full display. I'm 36:)

I am not sure why all the negativity seems to prevail here, and that people constantly say "well I'll just leave the group, then". Expecting respectful and civil behavior from adults is not unreasonable! No one should be treated poorly because they lack information or describe an experience that differs from another. I don't think being a "veteran" should be an excuse to be mean or condescending. It's not that hard to be supportive or simply ignore something that you find offensive or ignorant. If I have ever offended anyone with an insensitive remark, I readily accept responsibility for my comments and offer my apologies.
Just *another* opinion.

I started the BariatricPal forums to create a safe place for everyone in the weight loss surgery community. It is for pre-op and post-op patients, for patients of all types of WLS, and for anyone who supports the WLS community. I want you to be able to come here for advice, encouragement, support, and information without worrying about being judged.
I have a zero-tolerance policy for rudeness, and you can see the guidelines in the Forum Rules.
Recently, there have been several instances of members being disrespectful or downright rude. Examples include:
Stating or implying that a poster is doomed to failure or not ready for WLS because he or she asked a certain question or is engaged in a certain behavior. Telling people that your way is the only way, and any other way means the member deserves WLS failure. Discriminating against “newbies,” such as letting a newbie know that you don’t think he or she will succeed, or asking only “vets” to reply to a certain thread. (Reminder: you can always choose not to follow the advice of someone you deem unqualified to give it). The vast majority of BariatricPal members do a phenomenal job making BariatricPal the warm, friendly community that I dreamed of when I started it. Thank you! Besides being sure to be polite and respectful, here are some additional ways to help.
If you see an offensive post, please consider the following.
You do not need to respond. Instead of giving a rude answer and escalating the situation, you can simply choose not to answer. You can report the post by clicking on the “Report” option under the post. A forum moderator will look into the situation and may delete the post or ban the member if the member continues to post inappropriately. You can send the member a private message explaining that you felt the post was inappropriate, and explaining why. In many cases, you may be surprised that the member did not even realize he or she was being rude. Please also think twice before you respond to any questions or other posts. It is possible that you could write a post that is genuinely meant to be helpful, but the person could accidentally interpret your post the wrong way. Try to remember that:
It is very difficult to communicate a specific tone in writing. You may write something that you think is helpful and understanding, while someone reading it might take it as bossy or judgmental. Emoticons such as smiley faces can help. You can also add a sentence to explain that you are only offering a suggestion or sharing your own experience and that you are not trying to judge the OP. The OP might be in a vulnerable situation. They may be panicking about a worrisome symptom. They may be in turmoil about whether to get WLS. They may be freaking out about a stall. When they’re upset, it’s easier for them to misinterpret your well-meaning post. Thank you for doing your best to keep the environment at BariatricPal positive, encouraging, and open. We all need a place to go for help and support, and I want the entire weight loss surgery to feel comfortable using BariatricPal for advice and encouragement.

She's 14 years of age and I believe that she is dyeing. she is having trouble breathing normally, collapsing in her own pee (I've gotten her a reusable dog diaper and some pads for the floor.)
This weekend she's got some antibiotics and it's 'wait and see' if she turns around she just might. But she is 14 and the average lifespan is no more then 15 in britney spaniels.
She's been through my 20's which were awful (I used to self injure, but went away to http://mercymultiplied.com/2016/03/hannah-2013-graduate/ Mercy for seven months in 2012-2013.)
I sobbed into my pillow last night and wasn't able to place why until this morning (when you're half asleep sometimes things are not clear.)
In short she's been in my family for the 2000's and 2010's and it's just hard to see her suffering. Even if she does improve this weekend she's nearing the end and none of my family or myself want her slowly shut down breathing wise. It's inflammation was all the vet said we ran some tests and she's perfectly healthy xray wise and blood work wise.
Inflammation in her case could just be her little organs not being able to function any longer. End of life is difficult in humans and in animals.
It's hard in the sense that I have high functioning autism and she has been such a companion for me. She's a very affectionate dog, and has been able to see my sister's two children up to age one in a sense she got to mother later on in her life there are some funny stories related to the kids (she sat on both of them when they began to crawl and they were like 'wut' so they didn't get into stuff that'd harm them it was so freaking cute. )
At any rate, I'm sure there are folks here who've had pets pass on and know how heavy emotionally it is.

It took me a few weeks after surgery to not feel like I ruined my life, but I am fully on board with the idea that my only regret is that I didn't do it sooner. I am 21 months post-op so I'm past the honeymoon point, but I'm maintaining under my goal. I got "lucky" in that my sleeve pretty much hates almost all types of non-healthy food so I'm not overly invested in eating anything bad for me because I just puke it back up. I am very happy with my decision, especially now in the long term when I see the type of life I will optimally be leading the rest of my life.

I was sleeved in 2012. It took me about a year to lose 102lbs. So within three years of my sleeve I gained 30lbs back. I did it by eating Around my sleeve.
That first year after my sleeve I had developed such good habits, logging my food, being more active. At some point I decided I didn't need to do that anymore and I started gaining weight.
Back in April of this year I decided to buckle down and get back to my lowest weight, which was still 9lbs from my goal weight. Today, June 20 I am only 8 lbs away from my lowest weight. I went back to basics, starting logging my food in myfitnesspal again, Protein first, eating at a caloric deficit, weighing and measuring my food. I'm feeling really good about me again. I'm not a big exerciser, I hike on the weekends, go to the gym when it's raining. I've been able to lose almost all the regain all by eating in a caloric deficit for 2 months. I plan to log my food forever! Lol
I know our situations are different as to the regain, but it does happen. You just have to decide to get back on track. You can do this!
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Really, funny, shows a response on the 22nd, that's hardly makes it a stale thread by this forum's standards. It showed up as one of the more recent threads in the forum list as well. But, no worries, I will add to the list of the rules perpetuated by the Flaming Forum Trolls: no responses to threads after. . .sorry, how many days before we aren't allowed to respond? I'd hate to make another mistake. Maybe you can add to your forum overlord duties to post "CONVERSATION CLOSED" on threads you deem closed. That way it's clear as an unmuddied lake to the rest of us who are just here to engage in pleasant conversations and mutual support

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I wouldn't trip about that! I was able to eat 1 egg and cheese the very first day I was allowed! I'm now 4 months and can eat more. If that freaks others out? Oh well... it's a nice normal amount and that's what we are supposed to do! I've seen the people say "oh my! that's to much"
"I only eat a bite and I'm stuffed for days"
That's not me...
Now if you came here and said girl I can eat 1 whole layer cake then we would be talking problems!! But you are eating normal.

very proud
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I like the night life....I love to bougie....on the disco rooooouuuund yeahhhhh Sent from my SM-G930P using the BariatricPal App

I have lost about 40 kilos since mid-December, mostly hair [emoji23][emoji23][emoji23]. Im almost 6 months out and it keeps falling...

I think it's a fun thing to do, here is mine:
Married to my high school/college boyfriend for 20 years
I have two kids and my youngest saved our married
I can be very shy until I get to know you
I am extremely loyal, like help you bury the body in your back yard
I watch almost exclusively reality tv, it's a train wreck that I can't stop watching
I love to read but primarily read trashy romance/erotica books
I am a classically trained pianist
My "second job" is marching band as I am "parent A" for my daughters activities
I LOVE sharks and am going shark cage diving with great whites in July. I have seen Jaws probably 200 times
I hate to cook and WLS has reinforced not cooking since my meals consist of Snacks that my family doesn't consider meals
I love to workout, I crave the endorphins that I get from strength training.
I can do a forward bend with my forehead touching my thighs but I couldn't run a mile if you chased me
I have ADHD that I control with exercise and supplements
I have two rescue Chihauhaus; the first one I got as a support/grief dog after my Dad passed away
I have hiked 6 14ers and did those before WLS

I love this! I think it's really cool and really fun to think of who we are outside of WLS. It's a big part of our lives, but nowhere near all of who we are. Honestly, I think WLS has just helped me uncover more of who I am.
Shortly after I learned to write, I knew I wanted to be a writer when I grew up. I'm thankful I could turn it into a career.
I love my two rescue dogs like no other. I used to foster dogs and my oldest is a "foster fail."
Being in nature has always brought me a sense of peace.
I'm shy at first, but warm up quickly.
I can't remember not knowing how to swim. I love anything involving Water, but not boats. I get seasick easily.
I'm in no rush, but I look forward to having children one day.
My sense of humor is really dark and I like it that way. It helps me deal with some of life's harshest realities.
I'm terrible at keeping in touch with people, but I'm still thinking about them often.
I love to read, but I also probably watch more reality TV than I should.
I'm a decent driver, but I can't parallel park to save my life.
I value science above all else. It's the only way I can truly know anything.

I'm actually a pretty dull person, but here goes:
I love animals (yes, even cats) and would hoard them if given the chance. I have 3 Basset Hounds, 2 cats, and 2 grand Corgi's.
I volunteer at a local animal shelter walking dogs and doing adoptions.
I've been married for 27 years but we've been together for almost 30 years. That product of the marriage is 2 great kids who have grown up to be pretty darn decent humans, if I do say so myself.
Although I may seem like a big mouth, I can be quite shy and introverted sometimes.
I love anything to do with true crime and serial killers. Movies, books, TV shows, etc....One of my favorite books is about Ted Bundy. (EDIT: I don't CONDONE serial killers, I just find the concept fascinating)
I helped my parents breed, raise and show Arabian horses in my youth.
I graduated in a class of 16 people in a town of 1100 in Eastern Oregon.
At 45, I decided to change careers and have been fairly successful with it.
I'm honest to a fault sometimes.
I like big butts and I cannot lie. (Okay, just threw that one in there to see if you're paying attention)