mrs.blanco

well tomorrow is the big day!! a bit nervous and excited at the same time. Can't wait to be on the other side of this journey to a better me. see you guys on the losers bench

He sounds like he is insecure with your relationship. he is afraid if you lose all your weight you will get your confidence back and not want to be with him. Thats why he is trying to sabatoge you. girl do this for you and your kids and dont let anyone stop you from getting healthy and happy.

I'm scheduled for Jan.6th please let us know how you all make out. I am so excited for this to happen.

Good luck!! my surgery is on 1/6. I am excited too.

He sounds like he is insecure with your relationship. he is afraid if you lose all your weight you will get your confidence back and not want to be with him. Thats why he is trying to sabatoge you. girl do this for you and your kids and dont let anyone stop you from getting healthy and happy.

He sounds like he is insecure with your relationship. he is afraid if you lose all your weight you will get your confidence back and not want to be with him. Thats why he is trying to sabatoge you. girl do this for you and your kids and dont let anyone stop you from getting healthy and happy.

pre op testing tomorrow. Surgery on the 6th of January. so ready for my my new journey to start.

First off, congrats on your surgery! Hope you are feeling well and healing comfortably. Its difficult when your family is not as supportive as you would like them to be. My husband does not really want me to have the surgery but he is going along with it because he knows its important to me. My Mother and brother are in the same camp as my hubby but there's no other way I feel I can lose weight successfully and keep it off. God knows I've tried.
As far as telling people about my surgery my immediate family knows and I'll happily chat with the health professionals at the Lab or Dr's office about it. I'm not gonna shout it from the rooftops but if someone asks me how I've lost weight I will be honest. I think doing this takes a lot of courage. I have an extended family member who the rest of the family has speculated had bariatric surgery because of a drastic weight loss and she hasn't admitted to it. We all think its kinda silly but ultimately its her business who she tells. Although it seems pretty obvious to us what has happened.
What people seem to not get is that this is a health issue not a vanity one. If we were not dangerously overweight we could not be eligible to get this surgery in the first place. Obesity is not a moral failing it is a disease; one perpetuated by a food industry that puts profits before people and the production of healthful food products.
Good luck to you and hopefully you can educate your family as you move though this process. I know I am sure gonna try

Just reading your story. Congratulations on going through with the operation. It is a huge deal for all of us but feeling unsupported by a loved one does make it that much harder.
I am 58 have 3 adult children and 3 grandchildren. My children support me but my husband doesn't really. We have been married 35years but he has always sabotaged every diet I have been on because he likes to win.. I know this sounds strange but he thinks if I loose weight and get fit I will be able to walk faster or even jog faster than him. That I will get the attention..to tell you the truth I think he is jealous.. He comes from a highly competitive family I dont...The thought of me loosing 12pounds or more in one month horrifies him because it's not him!
I have been to see a shrink because I wanted to make sure I was doing this op for me and not to annoy my husband.. Odd thinking isn't it..but honestly all our married life has been competitive from jobs and salaries etc.. Weight he has always won..nervous energy skinny..
I am having this operation not to annoy him but to prevent my joints getting so bad he has to push me around in a wheel chair or I have to use a mobile walker.
I could become diabetic and my Hashimotos could become uncontrollable. I am having this op for me and me alone He can either support me or get lost.. But I like you am determined to prove to myself and him that I can put myself first and put my health first.
As far as exercise goes I found swimming and bike riding so far don't hurt..post op not sure.
It's hard being married to an A hole isn't it! Just keep a sense of humour... Just to really p him off...lol...

He sounds like he is insecure with your relationship. he is afraid if you lose all your weight you will get your confidence back and not want to be with him. Thats why he is trying to sabatoge you. girl do this for you and your kids and dont let anyone stop you from getting healthy and happy.

@@4MRB4PHOTO said what I was going to say.......call his bluff. This sounds like a one-sided relationship to me, where everything is done for his benefit, the way he wants when he wants it.
My mean ol' rotten ex husband fought me tooth and nail on going back to school. "What am I going to do while you are in class. Maybe I should just wait out in the car."
He fought me on driving myself to work. He followed me to work and back.
He fought me on medical care and impeded any effort to get care. He constantly minimized my health concerns.
He fought me on healthy eating, and I gained fifty pounds in the ten years I tolerated that sham of a marriage. He was always bring sweets home and told me that I ruin every meal with vegetables.
My father-in-law would rather have starved to death than go in the kitchen to get his own food.
My dear bariatric sister.....it is time to set some boundaries. Bariatric surgery has a way of exposing the dynamics of our relationships. The people around you will quickly reveal what value or purpose you are to them, once you take control of your own life.
Thank goodness you are a grown woman who can make her own health decisions without anyone else's approval. I wish you good luck and good health.

To quote Dan Savage, "DTMFA."
(Dump The Mother-F****r Already)

If you were to go to your family's house because you can't handle cooking, how was he planning on having his meals cooked?
Maybe you should take him up on his offer and leave him. He doesn't sound very supportive.

pre op testing tomorrow. Surgery on the 6th of January. so ready for my my new journey to start.

He sounds like he is insecure with your relationship. he is afraid if you lose all your weight you will get your confidence back and not want to be with him. Thats why he is trying to sabatoge you. girl do this for you and your kids and dont let anyone stop you from getting healthy and happy.

pre op testing tomorrow. Surgery on the 6th of January. so ready for my my new journey to start.

Good luck!! my surgery is on 1/6. I am excited too.

Hi everyone. This is my first post, but I have been lurking for a while. Surgery January 6.