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I am being bypassed and I know it isn't peaches and cream but I'd give it all up to be healthier and able to walk without needing a break every 6 steps!

When I was going through my pre-op classes, one of the things they discussed over and over, was the regret you may feel after having the surgery. I went through this for over a month! I'm 14 months out and I know that this was the best decision of my life now! I couldn't have said it better than Torri, you can pretty much eat whatever you want, but now I'm very diligent about limiting those cheat days as she mentioned. You've been given another chance, take advantage of it, you'll be fine, you got this girl!

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Hi dear, the first 6 weeks or so are very difficult, we've all been there, just hang in there it will get better I promise. Isn't a few weeks of suffering worth improving the rest of your life? Regarding having your favourite food again, eventually you will be able to, but instead of eating large quatities of it, you will be perfectly happy with a small bowl. It's worth it to be able to enjoy your food again (even though it's in smaller quantities) than the constant guilt you feel now everytime you eat something you know you shouldn't. The health benefits alone from the weight loss are so worth the early suffering. Within 1 month I no longer had sleep apnea, didn't have to wake up multiple times at night to go to the bathroom, no longer needed heatburn medication and was able to walk without pain. It's so worth it, but like any operation , it takes time for your body to recover.

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Hang in there, it really does get better! I am 4 months post op and have lost 92.7 lbs. Some days are easier than others, but believe me it is so worth it! Once you are through all the stages and are eating real food, it does get better. Just keep telling yourself that loosing the weight is better than anything you could eat. I am already moving around so much better and feeling amazing! Though I am only half way to my goal, I already feel like I have my life back. This surgery is the BEST thing I have ever done! 2 months after my surgery, my husband was scheduled to have a back fusion, and during the pre op physical our doc noticed a slight change in his EKG, and sent him for a stress test. The stress test caused a heart attack, and they ended up discovering he had 5 blockages around his heart. One was 80% blocked, one was 90%, and three of them were 100% blocked. He ended up having open heart quadruple bypass, and then a few short weeks later, he had to have 3 stents put in the bypasses. The surgeon said if they hadn't caught this before his back surgery, he would NOT have survived it. My husband is a firefighter and is very active. He had no high blood pressure, no high cholesterol, or any family history at all. He has to get a physical every year for work, and they never found anything. My point in telling you all of this is to remind you just how important your health is, and that the things you eat every day really do have an affect on your life. Yes, we all did this to lose weight, but even more importantly we need to be healthier. We only get one shot at this life, and once it's over, there are no second chances. I nearly lost my husband, so if we need to restrict our diet to keep him healthy and alive.....honey I would do ANYTHING! I know it's not always easy to think positively about your surgery and how it has changed your life, but what it will do for you is much more than weight, it will save your life
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Its not over it all takes time and those foods u like u may be like alot of us and once u taste them u wont like them anymore.

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Honestly who ever told you you'll never be able to eat your favorite foods again lied to you. My husband and I are 10 months post op and we eat normal. And still loose weight. You just can't have it as often as you'd like. We have 1 cheat day a week but we work out 3-4 days a week. You were blessed to be fortunate enuff to have the surgery. Is some that people out there who wish they could accomplish this goal. I'm praying for you, stay encouraged, be Blessed!

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What he said to you was true. If you can't deal with the point of view from other forum members, don't post. We should be able to be open and honest about all things relevant to this lifestyle we ALL laid on the operating table to commit to. Perhaps you should seek more individual therapy or group support to fully explore why you wanted surgery in the first place and what you expected to gain and contrast the inner discovery you make with the reality of what this new life really is. #DoNewThingsForNewResults

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Im not going to pretend to speak for everyone but it got easier for me. I had a lapband and now ive been revised to the sleeve but the diets are pretty much the same. I felt hopelessly depressed at first. I reminded myself why I did this to begin with. Its an addiction. Remember to treat yourself kindly as you work through it. Its just as much,if not more, mental than physical. Your thought process changes with your body over time. Good luck. I hope youve started to feel a bit better.

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The say. No pain no gain. You want to lose the weight?

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First off.. STOP, BREATHE.. RELAX... okay.. Ready.. I'm going to be as real (and nice) with you as I can.. I'm not saying I'm a veteran but I am almost two years out, and hit my goal on my 1 year mark, and have maintained...
It gets easier!!! Stop living in the past and start living for your future.. Yes, its scary that world (past) you know so well, your comfortable with it. This new journey is scary and unknown. But I promise you its a better life.. With that being said, we HAVE to remember this tool isn't a fix all, miracle worker. You dont get it and all of a sudden your urges go away. NOT EVEN close, its a constant battle, choosing not to go back, choosing the better life style.. You're friends who truly love/care about you will get it, you guys can find new ways to have fun that doesn't revolve around food. And if they aren't willing to change or meet you half way, are they really you're friends again...
On to the "foods" you can NEVER have again.. I was told no carbonation so soda, energy drinks ect... But really after time you don't even want those no more. For me carbonation hurts, but if I want a coke I will open it. let it sit out, go flat then have a drink or two.. I see go to bars and drink.. I will have vodka with Water, and bring my own crystal light, or on fun occasions I with have an Angry Orchard, its very lightly carbonated so it doesn't hurt.. However, you will feel the effect of drinking faster.. Lol so bound bc bar tap will be lower..
There is beauty in it, you just have to go through the dark phase to see the light... Don't ever doubt your decision, on bettering your life. You know its worth it, by how hard it is.. [emoji7][emoji7][emoji8]

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I can sympathize with this feeling you have. At 3 weeks post, that is pretty much how I felt too. I couldn't eat anything... And just ONE BITE more than I should and I would be so sick!

Its been 6 months now, and I can honestly say, its gotten so much better. I'm eating between 1000, to 1200 calories a day. Small portions, but pretty much whatever I want. I avoid GREASY like the plague, but otherwise, I do pretty well.

I cried for the first few months quite often. It HURT to eat. I would almost survive on the Protein Shakes rather than try to eat. It was so slow going, I thought it would NEVER be any better.

This will get better. Believe me. Right now, just allow that your tummy is still healing. It takes a while. But you will be OK. I promise.

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When does the regret stage hit? I'm wondering if I got to skip out, I'm a month out tomorrow and don't feel any regret. I'm also dealing with incisions that have reopened and having to scrub them out while I shower with a toothbrush 🤢 I feel grossed out by it but not regret. No tears here thankfully.

Eating is very important. I've heard great things about Smooth Moves tea for Constipation, also I've had good results with Benefiber and sugar free Fiber gummies. All bodies are different, sometimes diabetes is completely resolved after surgery, sometimes not, sometimes only after a certain amount of weight has been lost. My friend was insulin dependent for 10 years before surgery and was completely off it and any other meds within 6 months of surgery.
Try to get your walking in, it will help prevent muscle atrophy (you need your muscles to process glucose properly) and help move things along in the downstairs as well.
Have faith, follow the path, and trust that a healthier you is going to be the result. Getting on meds now does not mean you'll be on them forever, and ending up on less meds in a healthier body is not a bad option for a result.

Stretching is a myth unless you had a bad surgeon, which from a lot of the posts I read here is seems very possible for a lot of people.
RNY pouches can definitely stretch though. and they can make extended stomachs at the top of the intestine. A properly formed sleeve does not stretch. Healing is not stretching.
My capacity at over 2 years is exactly the same as it was at 6 months. 4 ounces of dense Protein, is the max I can eat comfortably.
That is if I follow my post-op eating instructions which are to eat protein FIRST. If I eat protein alone/first. I can eat 4 ounces maybe 5 if it has more fat, but honestly 5 is uncomfortable. If I eat it alternating bites with veggies I can eat 6 maybe even 8 ounces of protein. Which is why post-op instructions are to eat protein first. If I eat meat with veggies and take sips of Water, I can eat as much as anyone else (because I am turning dense protein into a slider).
If I eat something that is not dense protein, like a burger, I can easily eat a 6 ounce burger with cheese.
If I eat something that breaks down easy like a crispy thin crust pizza, its a slider. I could eat a whole large thin crust pizza in an hour. That is grazing though, so that doesn't count. Eating sliders and grazing are breaking the rules but I could.
What people call stretching is really just bad food choices and poor eating habits. I have never seen anyone say they pounded down a 16 ounce ribeye, except that one dude that claimed he ate like a 20 ounce steak at 6 weeks or something.
Dr Wiener tries to educate people on proper eating habits for life. If you are not eating correctly all the sleeve tightening, and revisions will not save you. People can eat around any surgery. The best thing is to eat properly, in the correct order.
Prior to surgery I would go to Steak N shake and eat a double, a triple and 2 orders of fries. I used to be able to consume massive amounts of food. I really just can't eat like that all, IF I FOLLOW THE RULES. If I don't follow the rules I can totally eat a ton of food. I could easily eat 1/2 a double layer cake if I wanted to, in 30 minutes to an hour, nothing will stop me, it is just mush.
This is why following your post-op eating instructions for the first 6 months are really important. Not only are they a prescription diet to prevent complications but those instructions also re-train you on eating like you are a baby so you can learn new habits. With your surgery restriction, metabolic reset and rapid weight loss as tools and motivators to help you learn and stick to them. When people are a week or two out, sneaking food and talking about their body knows it needs and all that other drama, they are just cheating themselves out of their chance for an easy reset.
And yes it is easy, losing weight immediately after weight loss surgery is the fastest and easy weight loss you are ever going to have in your life and you only get one real chance at it, revisions don't lost as fast as first timers. So don't blow it.

@OutsideMatchInside Beautiful post and So. Much. Important. Perspective!!!! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!!!

I'll be 3 years post op I'm November, 170 lbs lost.
I still can *barely* eat 4 oz of food. Most of my meals are 3 oz and I'm stuffed. This is of anything - Protein, veggies, salad...anything.
In the early days before my swelling fully went down, I could eat maybe 2-3 bites of anything at a time. Now it's more like 5-6 bites - and it has been 5-6 bites for over 2 years now. Call that "stretching," if ya want? Lol
I never push it. I made this a lifestyle. I've experienced zero regain and have been maintaining under goal since 16 months post op.

I would be seriously worried about a blood pressure that high? Are you taking BP meds? What did your pop say about your BP?
Sorry you feel like you are not getting the support you need. I hope you get to feeling better.

Yes to this! Some just have large organs. My stomach was huge and it took more time to remove, also my liver was large but he didn't think it was diet related (I did milk diet for 3 weeks and cheated 1x in week 1).

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Oddly, my sugar is always higher when I don't eat. It's much more stable when I eat low carb and consistently.

I've been on them a very long time...I was diagnosed in 2003. Was able to go off for a few years but then had to go back on so lately about 7 years

How long were you on insulin before having your surgery? I have read research that says the length of time you were diabetic and on insulin has a big effect on whether or not you are able to stop your medication completely. Less than 5 years seems to be the cut off point.
Our livers store glycogen which will be released when our blood sugar goes down. Maybe you have not gone through all that your liver has stored yet. I was able to get off my diabetes meds right away, but maybe you just need some more time.
I don't have any advice on the BP meds as I have never had high BP. Good luck and I hope you are able to get off the meds eventually.

Ok, I see now. In order to lose weight, I must turn it loose, but when I do, my skin becomes loose, which makes it a loser in my book. So now I need to lose the loose skin, and after I do that, there is no way that I want to have to re-lose the weight that I already lost.

Apply it can't hurt one is Bariatric Advantage you can get 90 days supply free. The other one is Celebrate again 90 day supply but for a year. Just my 2 cents...

I just need help with a food plan and nobody ever responds to my post I just want to get back in track

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