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Randi, that article is awesome.

My advice is, your sister should be exposed to happy relationships. If she sees other men who treat their girlfriends or wives with respect, love, romance, etc, she will start to compare her boyfriend. This is how I realized my ex was kind of a jerk. I didn't realize that the things he didn't do, other men did. It took a while, but I finally realized that I want more. I want someone who thinks I am worth his efforts.

I collect coffee mugs. I don't like the traditional straight ones you see everywhere, and I don't like writing on them. I like round ones, which also need to be short. Don't like tall ones. I only have a few, and I use them alot. Some day I will really get into my collection, but I first need to live on my own. My mom gets mad at me for filling up the cupboards with useless mugs.

I also have many bottles of perfume. I love to buy more and more, even though I don't use them a whole lot. I use perfume every day but usually it's the same one over and over, while the other bottles are mostly just collecting dust.

Now that I think about it, I also collect books. I love to buy books and fill up my room with a lot of them, even though I don't read as much as I'd like.

Poor Anna Nicole. I hope she gets through this somehow. I have a child and I can't imagine how I could ever pick myself up after such a tragic thing.

So I gave this some thought.

1. We understand that being fat does not mean that we are dirty, smelly, lazy, gross, or slobs. Sadly it is how we are judged by some people, but not by fellow plus size floks.

2. We have a lot of compassion for others who are not considered 'cool' or 'beautiful' by society standards.

3. We can show our true beauty through our actions and words, rather than misleading looks.

4. We have a great online board that is full of wonderful, helpful and compassionate people.

5. Most people will not start fights with us in fear of getting their butt kicked.

6. Big girls have smaller chance of getting raped.

7. We are better cooks.

8. We don't gain attention from men by dressing like sluts, well most of us anyway.

I think a bunch of drama a couple months back caused her to lose interest. Not sure of that though. I loved reading her posts too!

Some complications I can think of are:

The real parents might come into your home and demand to see the child.

The other family memebers of that child might butt in ALOT, argue your parenting methods and never accept that child as yours.

If you want to move away someday it might be difficult and the child's family might try to stop you.

The mom might consider kidnapping.

The family of the child will never let you have your space/

etc...

Just things I would be concerned with.

Having said all that... I think being a parent is the most incredible and rewarding experience a woman can ever have. Being a mom is a blessing like no other. I guess you have to figure out if you can provide the best home for that child given the circumstandces. Maybe this baby would be better off with parents that don't know the biological family. Or, maybe this is exactly what this baby needs. You have to do what is best for ths child.

Thank you Elisabethsew

All this spider talk made me afraid now. I'm terrified of spiders, there is nothing worse....

I'm 23 and take propranolol daily. What exactly is it for? Can it prevent heart problems related to weight?

I started taking it for feeling dizzy and having Migraines, but the pharmacists always say its heart or blood medication.

Maybe once she died she got to be with her daughter and found out who the killer is. Maybe her spirit stayed around to guide in finding the killer. Maybe I just haven't had coffee yet.

I can't offer advice, but putting myself in your shoes I would be very devestated. All I can offer is compassion.

I truly hope you find a way to overcome this.

Mags

Some people can't eat anything then have to get unfilled or take the band out.

Hey, anyone have hooters wings after banding????

Sounds like a Migraine to me.

Try Excedrin Migraine for the pain, I hear good things about it.

If that doesnt help, go see a doctor and get Imitrex. It's pricey but it works.

Also, might look into the cause for the Migraines, sometimes they can be prevented with a beta blocker.

Good Luck

Having the love of my life cheat on me is my biggest fear. I can't imagine the hurt I'd feel. My world would fall apart.

I can't explain how horrified the idea makes me. I would rather be single for ever than to have my love break my heart.

If he ever does, I hope to god he will learn his mistake, stop, and never tell me.

The girls at torrid usually are very helpful whenever I go in. Maybe it would be easier to have someone who can see you try on the clothing to go help. Have any girlfriends that would be willing to go with you?

I will definately Celebrate my new body and will destroy or burn my old ugly undies with people I am closest too and they all can bring me new ones as gifts!

I also decided that when I reach my goal weight I will throw a huge party to celebrate.

Mags

Telly what brand did you use? Can you give a little more detail of the process? Thanks!

Funny Duddies your hair is so gorgeous, and your face too! you're beautiful

Telly, you're HOT girl! You're way prettier than Kimora.

Am I the only one who thinks 400 kcal, no matter how nutricious, is still not enough?

What are you doing to get Protein?

12kg in 3 weeks is bad for you and if you're excercising and (hopefully) building muscle mass, I am seriously hoping you will consider eating more. Your body needs Proteins and Vitamins to keep you healthy.

Holy Mozes! Stoned?

Ok ok I'm not judging, just surprised.

Croatica, honey first of all, put the drugs away and second, what?!?! 400kcal a day? Are you insane? Thats VERY unhealthy. If you want to consume less than normal amounts, bring it down a couple hundred, so say eat 1000 kcal, but 400? That will put you in starvation mode, and if you start eating you will GAIN weight. Stop it before you end up in the hospital with severe anemia. Your 100kg body needs a lot more than 400 kcal a day hun, and even thin girls need more than that. You are harming yourself more than anything.

Now I know why they need psychiatric evaluation to get the band, some people use it as an eating disorder tool.

Hey, obviously nobody is perfect and I'm not saying you have a disorder, but after reading your post I think that is a possibility and if you really are only consuming 400 kcal a day, I think you need to think about how you can do this in a healthier way.

I like the idea of just getting a few things from Target and being done with it, but I think it might be very hard to go from having everything I ever wanted from Nordstrom, to having a few things from the pharmacy.

I have 10 bottles of perfume alone, which say costs average about $70, thats already $700. There there are all my fancy shampoos, conditioners, hair masks, styling products, all from Bumble & Bumble or Kerestase. Ah and cosmetics, Chanel and ShiSeido makeup. The skincare is the most, I have all these face peels, scrubs, cleansers, masks, creams, toners. Just a whole bunch of everything and it's all money down the drain because as much as I love to buy the stuff, I don't use it all the time. Every products gets used for 2-3 weeks then it goes to the side because I want something new. I'm not even old looking but I already use anti aging because I have this fear of looking older. I'm paranoid or something.

I do get compliments all the time especially on my skin, but it doesn't matter because it's never enough. I think I might have some kind of a weird addiction.

I hope I didn't sound like a jerk naming all the brands I use, I just wanted you guys to get an idea of what kind of money I'm spending, all the money I need for a normal life. All those things are things that I can not afford and should have never bought them in the first place

Thanks for the responses, keep them coming.

Koala, I admit that I did misread your original thread and I apologize for writing a response that might have sounded like I was not being too nice. As you see, at the end of my post I too said I wouldn't date someone who is prejudice to fat, just in different words.

Yoda, your thread about the recreational sex, if only I could get over myself and just do it I am pretty sure I'd be a happier person. I don't tie emotions to sex as much as other do, but I do feel embarassed to go to bed with someone who I am not super comfortable with. Plenty of men have been interested and I turned them down even though I really wanted to do it, I was just embarassed of my body.

I know how great I feel after the first time I sleep with a man, I feel sexy and happy. My self esteem sky rockets because I know there are men out there that desire me just the way I am. Fat and uncomfortabel in my own skin.

The funny thing is, I went through this amazing phase where I actually felt ok about being fat and told myself I look good anyway. Then the day came that I was going to go on a date with this amazing guy and I realized that I had serious self image issues.

Ok, so I am going through some big changes regarding taking care of myself as well as my wallet. After removing all my cosmetics and counting up how much it's worth I realized my cosmetics are worth (alot) more than I make in a month.

It's scary and it made me cry because I am really broke and am struggling to pay bills. I've been so broke that lately I haven't been going out at all because I couldn't afford $10 to pay my way.

I think I've been trying so hard to make my skin and hair look good because I've felt uncomfortable being fat. Now I'm losing weight and feel better about myself than any cosmetics ever made me feel and don't feel the need to use them as much.

I made a decision today that I will no longer buy products that I don't need. I'll stick to the basics and will try to switch to (some) pharmacy brands.

I have to do this in order to get my financial situation under control and keep it under control.

So I will use up what I have, return whatever I can, and from now on only buy one great product instead of 30 so-so ones.

What I need is mostly advice on how to get my life in order. Sticking to a diet is SO HARD when my financies are a big mess.

Please help. Oh and also, if you know of any great inexpensive beauty must haves, share!

Thanks in advance!