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Go with your gut! Serve the papers, and explain that you will allow visitations no problem as long as you are present. You have to do what is best for your son. My son has not seen his father since he was a baby and I intend to keep it that way. No example is better than a bad one. Keep your son away from the alcoholic. JMO

I don't like my dad very much, but I would invite him. He is my dad afterall. I would not let him walk me down the isle though! Thankfully I have my son for that Your mom is helping pay for the wedding, and her feelings should be considered more than your dad's.

Ok girls, I need your opinions. My period hasn't come around in months. SInce July 05, I have had only one period, that was in September. I am not pregnant. What do you think it could be? Just some info to help me figure this out: I'm still very young (23) I have given birth before, my son is 7 years old. I am pretty heavy, but I have regular excercise and eat good. Not too little, not too much. I am not banded. I am not going through additional stress. Life is pretty normal, except for not having a period. I'm starting to miss having it. Girls, please help me! Any advice will be great!

A few years ago I went on a big diet and lost over 70lbs. During that time I was such a happy person, had so much confidence, great self esteem. I wanted to be with my friends all the time, had fun being a mom, felt I was deserving of romance in my life. I wore adorable clothes, short skirts, sexy shoes, did my hair cute every day. I was hot, and I was happy. Then I was so dumb and gained it all back, plus another 50! Oh another thing, after losing lots of weight, I got a cute tattoo on my butt. Maggie

I hated my job so much that I started my own business on the weekends. I started with just 1 client. Now I have 2 employees and we clean about 70 houses a month, plus some commercial accounts.

Alovelylady, Hope your procedure goes well. Don't forget that you can gain back lost pouds as soon as you go back on solids. Don't feel guilty about it, it's time for healing, not losing! Good luck!

Here is my best friend and I.

Hey guys, I'm pretty new here on LapBandTalk and have not been banded yet. I looked deep into the lap band, into the problem sides as well as the good sides and I decided to do it. I found a place where I will have it done. I found the doctor. I found out if my insurance will cover it. I called the place where I will get it done and they told me that I have to go get a psych evaluation and some blood work. I got the paperwork all ready and for some reason it's just sitting here in my room. I think about it every day and I think about the lap band daily but yet I haven't seen a doctor yet. What is wrong with me? I'm not afraid of surgery. I'm not afraid of the possible problems. I am not afraid of the liquid diet. I'm not really afraid of dieing. I'm worried that I'm afraid of the change. I don't like being fat and tired but I don't think I will look that great with loose skin everywhere. I know that I need the band. I know I can die of heart disease. I knwo I can become diebetic. I know that being fat is very very bad for me. I need support in getting my fat booty off the chair and going to the doctor for my blood work. BTW - I love this board! Maggie

Oh guys thanks so much for all the replies! I'm so glad I found this forum, you guys are a wonderful team and I'm very thankful for each response. I'm going to call the doc today and make an appointment!

1. Bread 2. Mayo 3. Milk 4. Bananas 5. Tomatoes 6. Granola 7. Plums 8. Carrots 9. Apples 10. Rice (would make a fire and cook it that way) I think that in order to keep a healthy body it would be best to bring foods that offer most nutrition. Now, the 10 men I'd bring with me on a secluded island. 1. George Clooney 2. Vince Vaughn 3. Vince Diesel 4. Owen Wilson 5. Jake Gyllenhaal 6. Brad Pitt 7. Matthew McConaughey 8. Hayden Christensen 9. My sweetie 10. And ofcourse my son!!!

wow that's cool! :glasses

Wow DeLarla! Those are great pictures! You look very sexy. I know I don't post much but reading a lot of your posts I became inspired to dress sexier. Last night I went to a new Italian club and wore the cutest sparkly top. Showed off my shoulders and neck, really sexy. I had a man ask me to dance, and one guy was all over me! He kept asking me to see him next weekend and to come to his housewarming party. He later asked my friend if he thinks I'm interested! How cool! I danced my ass off too! You are a beautiful sexy woman DeLarla! Maggie

NJChick, oh my gosh! That is so funny! I remember freaking out over sock lint (black socks) once, no one other than my son was around to see it thank goodness! That's the problem with having bad eyes. LOL Man, that was a great laugh at 8am! Maggie

What is a DS?

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Well my boyfriend and I were having one of those tease each other days. He kept trying to kiss me in a gross way, licking my face, slobbering all over me etc. Well I got really fed up with him and decided it's payback. I leaned in really close and started giving him a nice romantic kiss and suddenly stuck my tongue as far in his mouth as I could, really fast. I knew he was getting grossed out because I felt him try to escape and that made me laugh really hard. I didn't want to laugh because I didn't want him to escape so I laughed through my nose... only my nose was full of snot. With a huge nosey laugh, I left a huge blob of snot on his face. He was so grossed out that he ran into the bathroom, and I locked myself in my bedroom and said I am not coming out ever so he might as well go home. I avoided seeing him for a while, but soon we were both laughing about it. I was horrified though! Another embarassing moment was when I worked as a temp at Motorola. I had these black work pants I usually wore and as I was sitting at my station I felt them split in the thigh. I was so scared to move that for half an hour I sat there hoping someone I can trust will walk by and let me borrow their sweater to wrap around my waist or something. No one came though! I ended up having to find my supervisor and explain that I needed to go home. I was new so it was not a great way to start our relationship, but she ended up being a really sweet lady and understood completely. I know that people noticed, even when I was walking to my car, I felt people's heads turning. Once I was in my car I felt so relieved!

Hi Vines. Thank you for your post. I appreciate what you wrote very much. When I read my post I decided to look at it like I would look at someone else who said those things and I do see something I have been blocking in my mind. Vines, I do have moments of weakness where I feel sad and depressed, but it is not a danger to me. I wouldn't ever consider leaving my son behind. My thought of suicide aren't 'gee I wish I was dead' but more like 'death doesn't seem so bad'. Maggie

Wow becky, seems like you have it really hard. Don't worry though, people who make dumb comments only make them because they are ignorant.

Oh Alex! I absolutely HATE it when someone comments on my eatign habits. I am 23 years old and when I have ONE cookie (not 10), how dare someone come and tell me I shouldn't be eating it. My mom does this all the time and sometimes I am just about ready to throw the food at her and tell her off. Thank God none of my friends do this, but I can only imagine what comments they will make once I am banded. I have to say, on a side note... since I made the decision about gettign the band, I started eating a lot healthier. I feel so relieved that I found something to help me control my weight that I am no longer stressed about being fat. The stress was what caused me to overeat! This is already good for me and I don't even have it yet.

I read my post several times and I see something too. Let's see what Vines says and we'll compare our thoughts.

LOL, you ladies crack me up!

I don't think I follow what you're saying. Or trying to say?

What's important, why?

I'm not the anorexic 17 year old girl anymore, and I realize that losing weight isn't going to fix my problems. Actually, my only problem with my weight is that I feel ugly. I don't expect it to fix other things, maybe give me more energy to work more. I'm self employed and a lot of the time I just feel too tired to work. So other than looking nice, feeling healthy is the onyl thing I expect. I'm realistic and this is exactly why I chose a healthy goal weight. 150 is a goal I can accomplish if I eat healthy and dont cheat. Thank you for your concern ladies, I agree with everything you're saying. I do need to love myself more, and this is exactly why I am getting the band. I am tired of falling into bad eating disorders and feeling like a failure when it doesn't work. I'm happy with my decision and best part of it all, I am in no rush to lose. One problem with being anorexic was that I ALWAYS wanted it to happen NOW NOW NOW, never had the patience.. which is why I ate so little. I am soooo ready for this band, but I understand and accept that it will take well over a year to lose all my weight. Maggie

I've been through my share of eating disorders, from purging, to starving, to overeating. It started with a boy who said he likes when a girl is really skinny and he can see her ribs. I don't know why I cared so much because I didn't like him so much. I just knew I was not pretty enough for him so I went on a diet. I ate next to nothing, worked out 14 hours a week and took diet pills. At some point I was taking 36 diet pills a day. After this boy broke up with me because I was too fat, I stopped completely. I didnt work out, I didn't starve, and I didn't take my diet pills. I piled on so much weight that I became depressed. Later on I met the wonderful loving boyfriend of mine who is with me for the past 5 years. I was fat and so embarassed of it in front of him that I never wanted to see him. Our relationship was mostly on the phone. I kept promising him that I will see him soon, I just want to lose some more weight first. That's when I became anorexic. 600 calories a day is all I ate, plus phentermine. I worked out too. I loved the quick weight loss and continued for months. Sometimes I would give in to temptation and grab a baked potatoe chip and run home to take exlax. It was sad but I felt good because I was losing and I love how controlling I was over my body. Unfortunately my boyfriend and I broke up due to the stress of my weight and I went off my 600 calorie diet and gained 80 pounds within a few months and slowely 5 lbs a month since then. We are together again, my honey and I.. but I still feel ashamed of my weight. I cant handle being naked with him so I ask himt o keep his eyes closed when we make love. I make him wear a blindfold or just refuse to go see him. I get so hot in the summer that I cant wear big clothing, so for the whole summer I hide in the airconditioned house in long sleeves. It's a distructive lifestyle, but unfortunately for me it is exactly that. It's a lifestyle. I hate that I am fat and that is why I want the band. I told my boyfriend that I am gettign it and he isnt sure if it's a good idea, but I insisted. I can't see him and can't make love to him without feeling so bad I cry after he goes home. I don't understand why he loves me so much if we can't have a normal relationship. Maybe he is just waiting for me to lose the weight and be normal. That is what I keep promising him... when I lose weight everything will be nice. He is buying a house and wants me to live with him. I told him that I wont move in with him until I weight 150lbs. So that is my goal, get the band and slowely lose the weight. I don't want anorexia to be a part of my life anymore. I want to be healthy and weigh 150lbs. I can live with 150. Something most people don't consider is that having anorexia doesn't mean to be skinny, it means to starve yourself in order to lose weight. I've been there, and no one ever knew because I was fat.