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I am in Raleigh too - same group as you just different surgeon. Let me know how it goes!!!

Thank you!!! Found it!!!!

Hello all and please excuse if this question is in the wrong forum.... I'm relatively new to the process, have had some appts and have 3-4 more to go. When I initially met with my to be surgeon, he said I would probably qualify for all the procedures (BMI 48 with few other medical problems). First, I thought the sleeve was the best, seemed less invasive, etc. But, now I am understanding that I will need to take Vitamins with both ( one or two more doesn't seem like a big deal), major dietary changes with both and the recovery time doesn't seem that much longer with the bypass PLUS the overall success rate seems better with the bypass. I do understand the bypass comes with additional risks. But, as this is a long complicated process, I want to make sure it sticks and long term success is my overall goal. What made you select the bypass over the sleeve? Thanks in advance for the feedback.

You make 3 I've seen here so far (4 including me) who are all on for the 14th!!!

I have the 14th too!!!

Hey, I have the sme date as you!!

I am still pre-op but LOVING this thread cause I work with some nosey witches!!!!

Boss? Sounds like a pain, it happens and I've dealt with same. A couple of people at work, my Mom. They don't offer me anything or if they do it's a very small portion compared to everyone else. Makes me more self-conscious about my weight. I might not "need it" but that's my cross to bear. Hurts my feelings too, so I'm sorry you have to deal with insensitive a******. Truth be told, great big stomach, overweight people should get the biggest portion. I'm sure, everybody here knows, fat folks are always safe targets for discrimination. Sucks. For all the love and kindness people bestow, there are always some that spread sorrow. NUT? That is surprising from a professional. Mine was a skinny little man, but he was nice/understanding. Maybe he's afraid if he is crappy to big girls/guys, we'll eat him

Excellent point!

That is outstanding! Quite an inspiration! Thanks for the post.

I agree! Ur hair looks great!

Hey, I've had mine a while and trying to get back on it! Will send you a team request, I'm gonna be slow going too for now! So we can be in the bottom together! Same pic of my little dog on both apps!

Thanks a lot. I appreciate the insights.

Curious, what made u choose the bypass over the sleeve?

Thanks for sharing, it was a really informative post!

Mine seemed a little involved as compared to some of the responses, so I guess it varies a good bit. There were questionnaires to complete before the appt. Mostly about my weight history which it was a little difficult (impossible) for me to remember all the times I have lost or gained over 10 lbs and why...because I'm 51 and have been a yo yo dieter for most of my life! At the appt I had another 457 questions on the computer (MMPI-2). My copy of the report says they used the following assessment instruments: MMPI-2, clinical interview, Shipley institute of living scale, beck depression inventory, state trait anxiety inventory, 3 factor eating questionnaire and a wt and lifestyle inventory. It all took 4 hours which included about 30-40 mins sitting in the waiting room. The psychologist said they are looking to see if you can understand the risks/benefits of surgery, have some type of support available, current or hx of addiction, etc. The surgeon let me choose from several providers in the area. I looked for someone close so if I need to see them again in the journey, I could. I don't think I will, but you never know. The article they gave me to read before the appt recommend asking the psychologist what they thought might a challenge for me after we talked, etc. The article also recommended asking for a copy of their report. I asked about the challenges and she said she thought I was a good candidate for WLS. Said, in general, people sometimes struggle if they have complications or if they did not fully understand the dietary restrictions/requirements. Fair enough. She offered to send me a copy of the report. It came in the mail about 2 weeks later. It seemed to be a good reflection of what we talked about at the appt. I guess it's human nature to worry a little about a "psychological" evaluation, but dont sweat it.

You look fabulous! Be proud.

Please excuse if this is a stupid question, I am still working at getting my head around all of this. ???? And I am hoping someone has struggled with same. Ok, I get that I can't untell anybody at work and I understand the wisdom of that stance. Truth is, I am generally very quiet at work and I don't talk to my larger work family about lots of personal business. My supervisor who is also a dear friend knows all about my plans and she agrees its nobody's business but mine. I plan to say simply that I have changed my diet and increased activity to explain the wt loss. But, when people are out of work, it's always a topic of conversation - even if you don't want it to be. What are you doing while off, where did you go, etc. Compounded by the fact that I am rarely out of work. I plan to take about a week and 1/2 and in over ten years, I have never been out of work that long. How have other people explained their absence without creating some big lie? ????

Sorry hear they aren't supportive at a time you could really use it. People aren't always right about things and I guess it is what it is. I don't anticipate my family would be supportive either, that's why I didn't tell them. My husband, I had to tell and I thought he would be the biggest naysayer of them all. Turns out, he took it well and said it seemed like a good decision. But, that doesn't mean he's been positive about it since that initial conversation. I've learned over the last couple of weeks to not discuss it with him. It's when I bring it up that he starts with the negativity. It's such a big deal with me, I could talk about it A LOT....but have learned to keep it under wraps at home. Thanks for sharing, I hope the situation improves.

Sending good vibes your way!

You look great! Fabulous dress too!!

Wow! That's great. You must be thrilled!

Hmmm. 1. Somebody said not sweating as much, amen to that. Once I started menopause, it's been on between hot flashes and regular sweating re: being 300 lbs. If I could just get to "regular" hot flashes, that'd be good. 2. Being able to hook my sandals without it being a huge production because I have such a problem touching my feet. 3. Walking up a flight of stairs without feeling like I've run a race. 4. Hating going shopping for clothes and not going somewhere just because I think about not having the right clothes to wear. 5. Recognizing the person in the reflection is me and not avoiding shiny surfaces!

ms. Lharmony, Thank you for the share. I hear you on taking the environment into account. The climate at my work can be dicey, while most are okay there are several people who love to gossip and back bite more than life! (Seems to me.) If it was a nice supportive place, it'd be different. While I don't like the idea of creating some grand lie or putting more bad out there, I'm also not someone who is comfortable with lots of witches up in my business. I hope you are well since your surgery. Ms. Livvsmum, I appreciate the notation about pesky co-workers. I have many who I believe will hound me to near death on a daily basis about the to be wt loss! They do it now with other people when it's 30 or 40 lbs. To make matters worse none of them (with one exception) are not really heavy. They complain about an extra 10-20 lbs (and I recognize it's all relative....one day I hope to be within 10-20 where I want to be) and will be all over me like a cheap suit about wt loss. Thank you too for the reply!

I agree with some of the other posters, I can sure tell a huge difference in your appearance. Congrats on the loss. Good job!