Victoria Mora

@@Sajijoma I always had a boyfriend so the only time I really ever had a "date" was after I had talked to this guy on the phone for hours. A mutual friend of ours thought we would like each other so he called after a few weeks and we talked for days. The first night I ever met him I had him come to my besties house. I was a single mom at the time so there was no way some strange man was going to know where I lived. He came over dressed in tight-ish pants, round glasses, a black turtle neck, with checkard shoes. He sat on the couch with his legs crossed. My friend Christina was like 'ummm no, I'm pretty sure he's gay". Nice but gay. I was nice. He drove in a ice storm to come meet me. After about an hour of chatting he left. I didn't think I would ever talk to him again after that.....5 years later we got married! It definanly wasn't "love at first sight" but we connected on all other levels. He got me with his thoughtfulness and communication skills. Now 8 years later I just wish he'd shut the hell up. Oh and we got rid of those clothes....except for the shoes, they are tokens in my closet.

Talking about loosing weight in strange areas. What about feet? I use to be a size 9 but since putting on weight Im an 11. Has anyone done down in shoe size since loosing weight?

You've only got 5 months invested into this relationship. And don't you have kids? Why would you want to get even further into this and subject your kids to a drunk?
Why don't you just concentrate on raising your kids for now and not worry about dating until you feel you are ready for man worthy enough for you and your kids? Because this drunk isn't.

I am so sorry you are going through this....
As a daughter of an alcoholic father....I feel your pain. However, he is responsible to fix his own problems. My dad had a reason to drink for every day of the week. If it wasn't tragedy Monday, it was joy Tuesday, or boredom on Wednesday, or that his boxers were too tight on Thursday...Friday...well that's the weekend...drinking so much he never got a hangover because he never truly sobered up. Never took ownership of his problem. It was torture growing up with that. I watched my mother for 25 years make excuse after excuse for his behavior and actions...while he but inhaled booze. She thought it was alright because he still provided for the family. Yes it is a disease and only one curable once they are convinced they have a problem. I prayed for years my parents would split because of the damaged it cause us all as a family. But she stayed, until the day he died an old age of 55. In my opinion, she enabled him to lead that life for never setting boundaries for herself or for us kids with him and never forcing him to choose booze or us. It took me many sessions in therapy to state that I resented her for that as much as him. Ok...wrong path here..this iss about you
It is hard as hell watching someone you care about decline like that...but once it starts to be YOUR problem it is time to say, "you've got a problem, get help and I'll help you too...or if you don't I'm gone." You can help people mend, but you can't do it for them. They are always sorry after the fact, most are sincere when they say it. But sorry doesn't fix it...recovery does and if he is not willing to do that, then you honestly should move on.

@@Babbs - "Dear does my labias minora look fat to you?"
Umm, no dear it's your dress

@@Victoria Mora, I've noticed that since losing weight I don't have to buy wide fit shoes anymore, but I've never heard of people's feet actually going up a couple of sizes lol I've been a size 8 (uk) since I was 14.

Talking about loosing weight in strange areas. What about feet? I use to be a size 9 but since putting on weight Im an 11. Has anyone done down in shoe size since loosing weight?

Hi Everyone,
I had my band put in on the 29th September. I really had hardly any idea what I was doing. I went to my doctor told him I was sick of my yoyo diet and he recommended the "LapBand"
Even with my surgeon who has been rated one of the best, I could not think of any questions and actually thought. Yes the "LapBand" I will have a small appetite.
Was I in for shock at all that comes with it and the work that needs to be done to maintain this little piece of equipment that I have adopted. Its really hard work!!! I so admire all the of you during your courageous journey to health.
My next review appointment is next week so that will be 2 weeks and 1 day since my OP. Seems like its been months!!
Its sites like this that have given me so much more information and help than all the medical team that comes with the "LapBand"
Thats the surgeon, dietician, anaesthesia (sorry can't spell that one) and the heart and sleep specialist etc.
Just like to say Hi. And go on to reading more through all the posts and joining in as well asking questions.