1212bella

This is a soup maker it works like a kettle. Place all your ingredients inside with water. And it boils up and cooks everything. Then you just choice to have your soup smooth or with chunks. Thinking this will come to good use

I have asked myself this question also. And have decided that I am only telling my other half and my older sister. Both I believe will be supportive. I am not telling my mother. My mother would stress me out. Try and talk me out of it. My mother has always been over weight. And doesn't think I need to loss weight. She would be on the phone and at my door every two minutes. And if I was having a off day she would be all "I told you you shouldn't of gone ahead with WLS! Like you I am also having a sleeve November 2nd. I have come to the concision after thinking about it. That I don't want to answer a million and one question. Or be judged by other for my choice. I think it's a personal journey and like you said it's a tool. So when people ask how have you lost weight? I will telling people i have cut down on my food intake and started to excise. I am not lying to anyone because I will be cutting down on my food intake and excising. I am just not telling the whole truth! It's just my choice not to tell people every aspect of my life.

So I am all book for my sleeve 2nd November and since the date had been confirmed I have gone into mission mode. Every day is like a military operation. By that I mean ripped the house to bits. All my kitchen cupboards are sorted anything high in calories has been donated to food bank. My freezer has been defrosted. The garden has been closed down for winter. Every draw, cupboard & wardrobe has been emptied de clutter and re organised. I have arranged for a cleaner to come and clean the house the first two weeks post op and for a family member to come in and cook for the rest of the family the first few days I get home. I have started logging everything I eat using my fitness plan. To get in to a good habit of logging everything down. My dogs have started hiding from me because they don't want to go for any more walks! Again I am getting into a routine of walking a lot more. I have even been to costco to buy a Soup maker. Ordered a portion control plate from Amazon and started making a list of things to take in my hospital bag. Suggestions of what I should pack would be great! My other half can't understand why I am doing so much around the house. I think I am trying to create a positive atmosphere. Clean home clear mind and all that for when I come home. The cleaning and clearing out stops me from over thinking things that leads to me having doubts or questioning why I am about to have WLS. Is any one else feeling like this or did you go on a mission before your WLS?

May be your husband is feeling insecure. He may feel like your changing the way you look and your going to be more confident. And he is scared that when you get to a slimmer sexy you might feel differently about him. My friends husband got really insecure. when she lost a lot a weight she starting going out more. She felt more confident going out dancing and socialising with friends. The husband admitted that he felt insecure with her new look because it made him feel he wasn't good enough or sexy enough for her. And he worried she would leave him for someone fitter and slimmer than he was.

24 months ago I starting looking into WLS. And after 12 months of different appointment to talk over Lap bands and never felt comfortable with how quick I was told yes we can do a lap band, pay your deposit and you can be in next week. It felt like all the people I went to see was more interested in getting my cash than my health. I stopped looking into WLS and tried to diet determined I could do it. So the story started again lost and gained. lost weight again then gained more than I started off with! The final straw was three months ago when I was on a holiday in Sri Lanka and Dubai and I found myself deleting all the photos of myself because of the way I was looking. And also when swimming with dolphins I was to heavy for them to push. It was embarrassing in front of everyone. And From then I wouldn't take part in anything else. On top of being embarrassed was the Chubb rub! The pain and blistering from my thighs rubbing was painful. Now defeated and weighting nearly 200lb and a BMI 38 depressed I know it's time for change. I have found a surgeon I am happy and comfortable with and after meeting three times to talk over options and time to do research I have decided to go a head with a gastric sleeve instead of a lap band. Tomorrow I am booking my operation for 2nd November. I am feeling mixed emotions on all kinds of levels. Happy I have made a choice and can move forward. And make the change I so want. Excited to final made a decision and getting help. Then Angry I have got to this size and not been able to lose the weight via diet and excises. I am also questioning do I share this decision with family and friends or just keep it between myself and my partner! I come from a family where everything evolves around food. And most of my socialising with friends is food or alcohol driven. My friend will be so supportive I know that. I am just not sure they will understand why I have choice to have WLS . My friends are all size 6 and never put weight on. Even after having children. when I have spoke to them in the past about my weight they think there doing good by tell me I don't need to loss weight and I am fabulous the way I am. I know there only trying to make me feel good. Every group has that one fat and funny friend. That's me! Did you tell people right away? Did having the WLS effect your friendships or social life ect?