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@@shriner37 I hear the same things from guys on the dating sites. Also, that when they do meet a woman, they realize the pics are at least 10 yrs old. Apparently, @having a job is also a rarity. I had been telling them pretty quickly about the WLS and find that no matter how gently and carefully I explain it, the guys vanish. I wonder if they imagine the excess skin, etc. I dunno. I did just have my 3rd date with a guy that I thought had disappeared. I told him about the surgery before we met and he is still hanging in there. I am not sharing it as soon in the future (kinda hoping things work out with this guy and there is no future on the dating sites). @ Creepy serial killer geezers....LOL

I have an old analog health-o-meter scale that weighs about 5 lbs less than my new Taylor digital scale. I keep it around for when I am in a stall or having a bad week, lol

I have been on dating sites since I got divorced in 2010. I refuse to pay for them or for the enhanced versions of them. I have had 2 relationships that went past a few dates, but didn't work out for one reason or another. Since my surgery, the number of messages I get has increased dramatically, although the number of viable prospects has not. I have decided that there is a reason most of these guys are single... I have gotten pretty good at weeding out the weirdos and scammers, but occasionally, one slips through to a coffee or lunch date. I have little pet names for them. In the last couple weeks I have met: "Naked Skype Guy" ... chatting on the POF site is cumbersome, so he wanted to skype. I said ok, since he didn't have a pic on his profile and I was curious. So, after talking on skype for a few minutes (he seemed so normal), I walk away from the screen to let my dog out, and come back to...yep, full frontal nudity. I suspect he only had a shirt on to begin with. He wants to meet for coffee or a drink, LOL (maybe if he had looked better naked...) "The groper" Talked and texted with a guy for about a week. We seemed to have some chemistry and decided to meet for coffee. So, 2:30 in the afternoon, at Tim Horton's, after talking for a few minutes, he suddenly takes my hand, kisses it, and moves it to HIS thigh. I pulled my hand back and laughed at how forward he was being. He tries it again. I finally crossed my arms in front of me. Then I felt his hand on my thigh. I don't know what this guy thought was going to happen in a coffee shop. "vanishing engineer" Chatted online for over two weeks, finally met him for drinks after work. We talked for well over an hour. He's my age, intelligent, has a job, divorced, etc. When we left, he walked me to my car and we kissed good night. Messaged me the next day to say that he enjoyed our date and wanted to see me again. I said I would like that too..... never heard from him again. I have found there are people on the dating sites that just want to talk online or text forever. I suspect they are married or have some other issue they aren't disclosing. I have also had a few "nice" dates that I had no chemistry with. I don't mind those. I learn something about myself with each one. I recently had 3 dates with a guy I met on POF. He's my age, attractive, funny, highly intelligent, financially secure, etc. I am cautiously optimistic enough to hide my profiles. There has to be a reason this guy is single.....

@@CowgirlJane I date in my age range too, but I am only down about 70 lbs. I am going to be very hesitant to tell the next guy, if there is a next guy. I hid my profiles for now.

@@bellabloom Awww, sweetie.... that is horrible. I have dated a few guys lately. Went out a couple times with each of them. They vanish when I tell them about my surgery. The last one was a physician. I told him before we went out. Second date ended with him telling me what insurance usually covers for skin removal, etc. ( I knew this already). Then, he also vanished. So....to tell or not to tell???

@@Desmond Longbottom Simply Awesome! You look Great!!!

At 2 wks, I would feel very full on 1/4 cup of cottage cheese. Even now, I don't think I can eat more than a half cup, but the true liquids aren't restricted anymore. Once my swelling went down, I could drink fairly normally.

Check your documentation for what constitutes a "full liquid" I was surprised that it included puddings and Jello, yogurt, etc. Those might stick a little longer.

The only carbs I eat are the ones in high Protein foods.... Greek Yogurt, cottage cheese, etc. I really have a difficut time getting all my protein in, so there isn't room for alot of carbohydrate. I do try to occasionally eat vegetables of some sort, but I stick to lower carb veggies. I also found that increasing my carb count for a couple days helps to break a stall.

I was told for over 10 years that my hip pain and symptoms were bursitis. I had my right hip replaced in 2013. It was severe osteoarthritis. I would get x-rays so that you know what you are dealing with.

I was sleeved 9/23, my daughter's wedding was 10/18. I went for my first post-op check-up and we discussed the transition to whole foods, etc. She warned me about alcohol and that from now on I would be a very cheap date. I started a sentence with... "My daughter is getting married in two weeks..." and the doc cut me off, smiling while she said "Of course you can have the champagne toast." She went on to warn me not to drink a whole glass, as I would be uncomfortable, but a few sips of champagne would do no harm. It turned out that a few sips were all I wanted.

@@Desmond Longbottom Cheese is not your enemy! It is a good source of protein and fine in moderation. My biggest challenge over the holidays was desserts. It would be so easy to just have a bit or this or that...and graze on treats all day long. I sent as much home with my kids as I could, and although the scale didn't move much last week, it has resumed its slow descent. Happy New Year!

I am not sure I would call it "major", but I am definitely losing some. Hopefully, it won't be too much. I have a lot of hair, but am definitely feeling more "scalpy".

Just starting to notice that my hair is thinning. So far, it isn't terrible, but I do feel more "scalpy". Hopefully, it won't get too much worse.

Definitely get the sleeve. I would go with where you will get the best care... people you know. My son is an ER nurse at a large local hospital. He advised me to go to a doc that operates out of a different hospital because he felt I would get better care and better results. Chances are that word will get out anyway. They will find something new to talk about after a couple weeks. Will having people know, that you see daily, motivate you after surgery? I didn't really care who knew I was getting surgery. It isn't a cosmetic procedure, it is health related. If you were having your gall bladder out, would you be worried who knew? In my mind, I was having my stomach fixed to work better for me. However, I realize everyone has their own mindset going into this. Can you talk to the doc about your concerns when you go for your appt? Or would that be too awkward? Would your co-worker be insulted if you went somewhere else?

I had mild to moderate reflux daily before the sleeve. Around weeks 3 and 4, I had some mild episodes, but nothing since.

I tolerate rice and most other food. However, "Protein first" is the rule and I rarely have room for anything more than the protein.

The largest one is the one they pull the stomach, etc. through. My surgeon said that one is the only one with a stitch in it. It looked sunken for a couple weeks, but is more flat now.

I was in a stall just before Thanksgiving. I went to visit my son, his wife and new baby. We all stayed at his in-laws' house (not part of the original plan). I didn't feel like there were alot of allowable food options.... and they are Italian. I was getting carbs offered to me constantly. I did okay, though. I got back and hadn't gained, but more importantly, it seemed to break the stall. As soon as I got back on track, the scale started moving and hasn't stopped.

At the very least, a lawyer would be able to give you a clear picture of where you stand and what your rights are. I was a stay at home mom for 25 yrs. When he had his first affair, I consulted an attorney. Finding out what kind of settlement I could expect was empowering and gave me enough peace of mind to stay and try to work things out. Seven years later when he was still screwing around, I finally left. At that time, there was only one child left at home, and I knew I would get support for her and alimony for at least 8 yrs (I negotiated it to 10).

I was married for 25 years...5 kids. My sex drive was always higher than his.... until he had an affair. Then, suddenly he wanted it all the time and yeah, started to work out, etc. We seemed to fix things after the first affair, but I don't think I ever really got over it. We have been divorced 5 years and I still have mixed feelings. Should we have tried harder to stay together? The dating scene when you are 50ish, is scary. Spending your birthday (today, btw) alone isn't fun either. My advice is to explore why your marriage isn't working. You might have to be very direct with him, but you two need to get talking.

Before surgery, I purchased 4 giant containers of powdered shake mix in different flavors. They went down ok prior to surgery and for the first couple weeks after. Now, they taste wayyyy too sweet and I just choke them down to get the protein in on the days I need it. I still have 2 containers left.... cappuccino and orange cream....blehhh.

In order to keep him in your life as a BFF, there has to be ground rules. Guy pals are great. However, he has to know that you are not interested in being his lover, only his friend. Compliments from guy friends are huge ego boosters. So, I am sure it is tempting to keep him around. Is he looking for an excuse to leave his wife? Some people won't leave a bad relationship until they have something better come along. I would keep this one at arms length. Don't answer his texts for a while. His BFF should be his wife.

I am down 50lbs. My kids say they can see it in my face. My clothes are looser, down about 1 pants size. Yesterday, I noticed that a couple of my favorite jackets fit me differently. The arms are too long!!! It has to be that I have lost in my upper arms and shoulder area.

When I was first contemplating surgery, I spoke to my sister-in-law who also struggles with her weight. She told me to touch base with our cousin, Dee because Dee had weight loss surgery. Apparently, she didn't tell many people. I texted her saying "I'm thinking about having bariatric surgery. Linda said you might be a good source of information." The response I got from her was: "I've heard some people have great success with that." So..... I didn't push any farther as I assume she doesn't want to discuss her surgery. It was strange being on the other side of the fence. I think this is a big reason why I have been an open book about it.