JupiterinVirgo

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I only recently started making moving my body a daily priority. Nothing too strenuous. I would say that four to five days out of seven I meet my personal goals for exercise. But sometimes, life becomes strenuous. There are times that I feel so exhausted, but I feel like I can barely stay awake let alone walk a couple of miles. What do you do when you're too tired to move? Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

Thank you all so much for your replies. It's very helpful to know that it is normal. I am a year postop so I really don't have any problem getting in enough calories. But I do sometimes exhaust myself mentally, and my work can be very taxing. Sometimes I think I just need extra rest depending on my stress levels. Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

I could not imagine what you must of been feeling. What you are feeling now. But sister, let me tell you something: sometimes the best thing someone can do for us is get out-of-the-way/make space and it is always a sign of imminent expansion. That is, life is about to change/is changing. You are about to change/are changing. Life is about to get bigger/is getting bigger, even though in this particular case your body is actually getting smaller! A whole new world is opening up to you. He wants to stay in the world he is used to. Let him. Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

Great idea! Thank you. Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

I think the preop liquid diet was the worst part. Those two weeks I was so weak I thought I was going to pass out on a daily basis. There were times when I didn't have the physical strength to walk across the room. At over 300 pounds, simply drinking three Protein shakes a day and cutting my caloric intake down the 600 cal was absolutely irresponsible in my opinion but required by my surgeons office. Every three or four days I had to eat a salad with chicken on it even though it was against the rules. It was not about head hunger, it was about physically staying upright. And yeah, you feel like **** during that time. The first four days were headaches for me. Then after that I just kept getting weaker. Then I would eat a salad with chicken on it and I would feel much better for a couple of days. And I just went on like that until surgery. I made a point to stick to liquids those last couple of days before surgery no matter what. This is supposedly to shrink the liver so that it is not in the way of the surgeon. However I have read that the truth is that the shrinkage is extremely small-almost irrelevantly small- but you know Western medicine: once they decide on a policy they do not update it despite evidence that disproves it for at least 30 years. One more thing: postop it's much easier. And no matter how miserable you are during the preop phase remember that it's only two weeks of your life. And then exchange, you get the opportunity for a completely new life experience with a healthier slimmer body that allows you to live the way that you want to. Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

Judgments about drinking and weight loss aside, I was not able to drink for a while. My first couple attempts to enjoy an adult beverage or met with a burning sensation in my belly. I am now a year out and have no problem having a drink or a beer, but I would say that if the alcohol burns your stomach then it's probably too soon. After all, basically one whole side of your stomach has been cut and resealed. Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

To be honest with you, I made it a point not to use the scale. After my surgery, I didn't weigh in until my first check up at the surgeons office 30 days after. Then I stayed off the scale till the next one two months later. And again for three months. Now, many people feel that they should weigh themselves weekly to keep themselves on track. For me, I knew I would just take myself on crazy head trips and become obsessed. I still have a policy to never weigh myself more than once a month. I know when I am eating true to what feels good for my body and my life and when I'm not. That said, there's a scale that is put out by fit bit that syncs up with your fit bit and your app and it supposedly helps you keep track of not only of body weight body fat. I know a lot of people on this forum think highly of the measurement of body fat as opposed to using weight alone as a measure of success. Me: I am just trying to fall in love with my body regardless. And too much quantifying disrupt the process. Best of luck! Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

For the first few months not much does settle well. Just go slow, pay attention to what pisses off your belly, and do your best to eat the things that create the least amount of digestive turmoil. Over time, you really will be able to eat almost anything you want. But I'm a year out, and if I eat too fast-almost anything too fast-and I still get nauseous. Great reminder to be mindful about food. Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

I'm from a big Italian family and to socialize means to eat. What helped me was shifting my focus from the food to the people I was there to be with. And even on the occasions in which I have fallen off the wagon, damage was minimize it on account of my beautiful little sleeve. The first year post up almost doesn't feel like real life for a lot of people. But it is. This is the rest of our lives. We need to be able to be around food without letting it own and control us. For me, focusing on how grateful I was to be with my family even when we were all out eating out a big Italian restaurant maybe not miss gorging myself at all. In fact, I love just having a bite or two of a few different things. Lord knows that since I've had the sleeve I don't do much cooking because it just doesn't pay to cook a complete meal for myself alone. I would have to eat it every day for the entire week. And I never do that-it ends up in the garbage! Enjoy your loved ones. Let food just be the punctuation mark not the star of the show. Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

There is a for him somewhere nestled in all of these rooms on this app for a post up vegetarian diets. It is not the busiest for him but there are a few people down there who are really good at this and can help you with specific ideas. I think being vegetarian in the first few months is a little difficult because the restriction is extreme due to swelling, but I think down the road it's much more realistic to have a vegetarian diet and get everything you need from it. Good luck! I have considered this myself. Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

First of all I think it is so amazing that you lost 72 pounds before you even got the sleeve! Congratulations! I think you have every reason to be excited and optimistic and you're going to take it all the way baby! May you have the most peaceful possible experience moving through your surgery with the most benevolent outcome possible. Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

I think in general, the bariatric industry has a very long way to go and understanding food and nutrition. I have read countless posts, and made posts like this as well, asking for direction because there was so little from the surgeons office. The bariatric gospel preaches high Protein and low carbs and for some that might be the healthier way to go, but I don't believe that bodies respond universally to lifestyle choices when it comes to diet. My surgeons office had these little photocopies-tiny CliffsNotes, and one of them said to be eating around 100 carbs a day. In the beginning I ate super low carb, and after a couple of months I couldn't think straight. I literally didn't eat enough carbohydrates to have proper function in the mind. As for speed of weight loss, I know that we all want to lose the weight as fast as possible-most of us anyway. But I think once we get past that point where everything hurts and it's hard to move around and we lost enough weight to start having our lives back there is less pressure to rush and get the rest of it off. At least that is been my experience. I am now at a wait where I can function physically, I feel much better, I look much better, overall I am fairly happy with myself even though I could still stand to lose 30 to 40 pounds. For the rest of my life, I have to watch my relationship with food. The sleeve does not change that. It just gave me a Headstart. It showed me that I could do this. And it will be a tool that I always have, but I ask myself what difference does it make how fast the weight comes off? At this point, it doesn't matter that much. If it takes another six months to lose 30 pounds it's not a big deal. Breaking my metabolism by starving myself, depriving my body of any single food group that it needs to function properly and restore itself to health and balance-I'm much more worried about that then slowing down my weight loss by eating a few more carbs so that I can think straight Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

Over the last year and a half that I have been on the site I have seen several posts from women whose husbands have withdrawn their loving support. I have always found this to be extremely disappointing, and I have always believed that it had to do with the insecurity of the other partner Who is in someway feeling in adequate and perhaps subconsciously figured that they are inadequacies can be overlooked on account of the physical issues of their wives. To put it simply, husbands are afraid to lose their wives when they lose weight, and some, who do not have better instruments of Communication and self reflection, turn to abusive tactics. I'm sure that most married women would love to think that their husbands love them. When a man turns to you and says he doesn't "like "something about your body, he is withholding love in an attempt to create emotional blackmail. Most men who do this are not specifically malicious, but themselves they are wounded. You have a right to be healthy. It's your body, you live inside it, and it is only your choice what you would have it be like. I can't imagine how discouraging it must be for you to be confronted by your husband this way, but I want you to know that you have every right to do what makes you happy! Maybe he should be worried. Maybe when your body is reflective of your glorious womanhood, you might realize she prefers something better or something different. But in the meantime, girl you go for it! Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

Stay off the scale for the first month. When you are on liquids and puréed foods, they kind of "slide" through your sleeve pretty quickly. Believe me, when you get to the solids phase you'll realize just how much restriction you actually have. That's why so many surgeons push the high protein/meat eaters diet postop. Three or four bites of that and you'll feel it! The first month after surgery your body is going through some serious trauma, you have been pumped full of opiates and fluids, and your body is not going to be either to let go of its resources until it knows by its own intelligence that it has regained some stability inside itself. I'm telling you-stay off the scale until you're 30 day check up! Weight-loss really starts to get a lot quicker after that and stays that way for at least 6 to 9 months more. A year from now you're going to be shocked at where you are! In a good way. Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

I would say I didn't start feeling significantly better with the aches in my belly until about 10 days out. Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

I noticed since losing all this weight that it hurts where my leg bones go into my pelvic bowl/hip bones. Overall, I have less aches and pains and they are less severe from the weight-loss but when I get a lot of aching in my muscles, like my calves or my toes or something like that I find that if I take a magnesium supplement even just a couple times it clears itself up. Not the joint aching but The muscular aching. I take natural calm. It's a magnesium supplement. Non-GMO. Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

I want to earnestly thank everyone of you from the bottom of my heart for being so receptive, and so kind in your responses. I read them all. And I am so grateful if in some small way my story helps you to claim the life you truly deserve. Aliveness has become my primary value. I am pursuing it with all my primal might. LOL Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

I had the same experience during the liquid phase of the diet before surgery. There were times I was too weak to even walk from the car to the store for more Protein shakes! During my preop liquid phase every few days I would eat a salad with chicken on it because I really was afraid I was going to die from starvation but it will truly was not head hunger. My body was very weak because at 300+ pounds, three Protein shakes a day wasn't enough to keep me standing upright. Postop was much easier in the sense that I definitely did not want to eat anything. I did not experience hunger. Only exhaustion and some pain which went away after about 10 or 12 days. The fatigue lasted for several months. Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

Wow! You look AMAZING! Great job! Don't look back, turn the page, and let your next chapter begin! Thank you! Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

You'll probably be tired for the next six weeks! Plan on taking naps LOL Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

I was a smoker before surgery, and I still am. I was required to show efforts of quitting smoking, which I did: I wore the patch, and I switched to vaping but because I did not quit of my own accord, I went back to smoking after surgery. I had no intention of permanently giving up my two biggest crutches: food and cigarettes at the same time. I maintain that as long as I am still losing weight I have no intentions to quit smoking. Nor will I be willing to quit and gain weight after all of this effort. I would love to be a non-smoker, but I don't know if that's ever going to happen. That said, I didn't let it keep me from getting the surgery and if your friend really needs and wants the surgery-if it is right for her-she'll do what she has to do. Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

Getting more calories is easy. Just replace that quarter cup of food with whole foods that have a higher content of fat and calories: avocado, nuts, seeds, nut butters etc Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

My high weight was in the 320s, and I had my surgery one year ago. At present, I'm about 190 and have another 30 pounds to go. I have seen many posts over the last year of people who have lost even more weight than that! Yes, it is very possible-likely, even! Don't worry. Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

It's your body. Only you will live with your choice. Don't let other people tell you what is right for you, if you know. I went with the sleeve, which was the advice of my family of nurses, Who explain to me some of the likely issues that occur with bypass and not with the sleeve. Particularly, long-term nutritional issues. For a long time, I thought any surgical procedure for weight loss was very extreme until I became so big that I was even more extreme than that. I am one year postop, down from over 300 pounds to 190, with about 40 pounds to go. Since either procedures a permanent alteration to your body, why not start with the less invasive action? (Sleeve)? But if you feel deep in your being that you really need the bypass, again only you will live with that so do what's right for you. Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App