magicalwoman

Great conversation! Y'all have no idea how much I appreciate the view points, it really makes you take a look at your comments or how you describe a certain situation.
I meant NO offense at all. Women and men are beautiful creatures and we each hold such power, wisdom, warmth and spirit.
I hope everyone knows that I simply meant that the BMI scale is certainly tainted.
Large or small, tall or short, we all love and deserve love in return.
Blessings to each of you.

@magical woman. I understand your position, where you are coming from and what you wanted to convey by or through your post.

I can appreciate that the BMI chart is problematic because it doesn't take into account a lot of things, however I am right in the middle of my suggested weight and I am by no means a twig. If you are happy at 160, then more power to you, but someone who is my height (5'3) and weighs 125 is not anorexic, bullimic or a twig and there are plenty of people at the low range in the 110 region who simply have a body type that is very small. I am not a really small girl and yet I fit into extra small clothing, which really makes me wonder...how do Asians dress themselves? Our society has gotten to a point where people can be just as rude to small people as they are to big people, and I don't tend to find either extreme acceptable. I used to roll my eyes when a friend of mine who is exactly the same height and weight as I am now complained about having a fat day or cellulite and yet there are plenty of days where I feel a little bloaty and my butt looks like cottage cheese. Just because I weigh within the required BMI does not mean that I am too small and I honestly wouldn't mind weighing about 5 pounds less because I prefer to be smaller. We all have different understanding of what it means to look good at our own size and the only person who has the right to judge us, is us.
So, while I don't tend to get offended by comments posted online because I don't think that in the vast majority of circumstances offense is the intended objective, keep in mind it is just as rude to call a woman who is at a healthy weight (as defined by BMI) a twig as it is to call someone who is over the BMI overweight, or fat. I do not know a single woman who wakes up every single day and feels like she is hot. Every single one of us has insecurities, so I believe that if you are thin, if you are average, or if you are fat, it's up to you to be happy in your own skin, not to judge someone else as being anorexic, bullimic, or a pig, simply because of your own preconceptions. Men and society are mean enough to women...there is no need for us to be mean to each other.

Oh man. That sounds horrible. I was also sleeved on the 9th. Hate to hear all the problems you are having. Are you on pepcid? I take it twice a day. I am praying that things go back to normal and you start feeling better.

I have to chime in here. After being the wife of a cheating husband (three times) I can say if you don't want to be in a committed relationship then LEAVE.
My husband and I have been to years of therapy, I told him early on LEAVE, DO NOT DO THIS TO ME.
It has been years since that all happened. I love him dearly, completely trust him, yes, but there are times the devil's child perches on my shoulder and puts thoughts in my head.
An open relationship will only lead to vast problems down the road.
In my opinion you are in or out. Nothing wrong with being out, but don't deceive!

I have to chime in here. After being the wife of a cheating husband (three times) I can say if you don't want to be in a committed relationship then LEAVE.
My husband and I have been to years of therapy, I told him early on LEAVE, DO NOT DO THIS TO ME.
It has been years since that all happened. I love him dearly, completely trust him, yes, but there are times the devil's child perches on my shoulder and puts thoughts in my head.
An open relationship will only lead to vast problems down the road.
In my opinion you are in or out. Nothing wrong with being out, but don't deceive!

My husband as well he reminds me to look at the big picture when I was depressed

I have to chime in here. After being the wife of a cheating husband (three times) I can say if you don't want to be in a committed relationship then LEAVE.
My husband and I have been to years of therapy, I told him early on LEAVE, DO NOT DO THIS TO ME.
It has been years since that all happened. I love him dearly, completely trust him, yes, but there are times the devil's child perches on my shoulder and puts thoughts in my head.
An open relationship will only lead to vast problems down the road.
In my opinion you are in or out. Nothing wrong with being out, but don't deceive!

I am coming up on 3 weeks post op. I have not had a problem eating foods, but really stick to my Soups, Protein Shakes and Water, water, water.
Next week I can begin puree foods which will be heavenly.
My biggest problem is gauging how much is just right. I always seem to take a spoon or two too much.
Typically I find a pound a day gone.

I am coming up on 3 weeks post op. I have not had a problem eating foods, but really stick to my Soups, Protein Shakes and Water, water, water.
Next week I can begin puree foods which will be heavenly.
My biggest problem is gauging how much is just right. I always seem to take a spoon or two too much.
Typically I find a pound a day gone.

I am coming up on 3 weeks post op. I have not had a problem eating foods, but really stick to my Soups, Protein Shakes and Water, water, water.
Next week I can begin puree foods which will be heavenly.
My biggest problem is gauging how much is just right. I always seem to take a spoon or two too much.
Typically I find a pound a day gone.

Surgery 09/09/15...I return to work on 09/21/15
I AM NOT looking forward it at all.
I work at a community college and our new quarter begins on the 21st. Lots of confused freshmen.
I don't have a lot of contact with students, I work on special projects for a Dean so my job is primarily at my desk.

I am coming up on 3 weeks post op. I have not had a problem eating foods, but really stick to my Soups, Protein Shakes and Water, water, water.
Next week I can begin puree foods which will be heavenly.
My biggest problem is gauging how much is just right. I always seem to take a spoon or two too much.
Typically I find a pound a day gone.

I am coming up on 3 weeks post op. I have not had a problem eating foods, but really stick to my Soups, Protein Shakes and Water, water, water.
Next week I can begin puree foods which will be heavenly.
My biggest problem is gauging how much is just right. I always seem to take a spoon or two too much.
Typically I find a pound a day gone.

My surgery is Monday and I'm nervous and excited.

I didn't expect my extreme hunger (I've always had ridiculously bad hunger pangs) to return after 30 days. I've been following the program with few exceptions, have not been drinking coffee or soda at all, but my churning stomach and acid feeling is back. I can drinking Water (don't have to sip sip sip) and worry that maybe I stretched my stomach out by not sipping instead. My stomach just hasn't had that "full" feeling since about two weeks after the surgery. I just ate Breakfast an hour ago and I'm already super hungry. This is my worst nightmare post-surgery -- well, not my worst. I had a very easy surgery and recovery and I'm grateful for that. I just really thought and hoped I would not be hungry like this again, especially not so soon. :-(

I have to chime in here. After being the wife of a cheating husband (three times) I can say if you don't want to be in a committed relationship then LEAVE.
My husband and I have been to years of therapy, I told him early on LEAVE, DO NOT DO THIS TO ME.
It has been years since that all happened. I love him dearly, completely trust him, yes, but there are times the devil's child perches on my shoulder and puts thoughts in my head.
An open relationship will only lead to vast problems down the road.
In my opinion you are in or out. Nothing wrong with being out, but don't deceive!

I want to keep learning about obesity. I want to help, encourage, and mentor others.
I am going to get involved in the support group at my Weight Loss Center.
Oh and I want to ZipLine! Oh yeah

I want to keep learning about obesity. I want to help, encourage, and mentor others.
I am going to get involved in the support group at my Weight Loss Center.
Oh and I want to ZipLine! Oh yeah

Over the years I've called him other things, for sure.
My husband loves big women, he never once said I looked bad or should lose weight. He does agree that health is at the forefront, so weight lose is paramount.
I had my surgery on September 9th and he has not left my side once. He is my rock and my primary cheerleader. He tells me several times a day how well I'm doing and always encourages me.
Now there are the messes in the kitchen, OMG, and the smelly dog, OMG. And he loves to sleep in, but with everything going on, he is by my side and rubs my back.
My husband, My Rock, My support.
Thank you baby.

I have to chime in here. After being the wife of a cheating husband (three times) I can say if you don't want to be in a committed relationship then LEAVE.
My husband and I have been to years of therapy, I told him early on LEAVE, DO NOT DO THIS TO ME.
It has been years since that all happened. I love him dearly, completely trust him, yes, but there are times the devil's child perches on my shoulder and puts thoughts in my head.
An open relationship will only lead to vast problems down the road.
In my opinion you are in or out. Nothing wrong with being out, but don't deceive!

Blessing to everyone having surgery today.
I feel like a Momma Hen!

I have to chime in here. After being the wife of a cheating husband (three times) I can say if you don't want to be in a committed relationship then LEAVE.
My husband and I have been to years of therapy, I told him early on LEAVE, DO NOT DO THIS TO ME.
It has been years since that all happened. I love him dearly, completely trust him, yes, but there are times the devil's child perches on my shoulder and puts thoughts in my head.
An open relationship will only lead to vast problems down the road.
In my opinion you are in or out. Nothing wrong with being out, but don't deceive!

Just checked in waiting to be brought to OR. See you in the other side

Thank you everyone, I'm here now,all prep and just waiting, it was a Emergency so my surgery was postponed from 10 am till 1230/1pm , hope everyone that just had surgery or has a upcoming surgery, has a speedy recovery and best wishes to everyone