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I would sit on them if that ever happened.
Seriously.....that would certainly provide us with an ironic setting to speak up.
I'm fairly certain I'd go the sarcastic route, "Dessert ? Are you serious? Those people......wow. Eating dessert. Can you even imagine?...........what ever will they do next? Now that you mention it, Tuesday week ago.....get this.......We saw the pizza delivery truck pull up to their house........for real.......it was Pappa John's.......not even the diet pizza place, but Pappa Freakin' Johns. What about you guys? You and your wife appear to be the picture of health........What brand of chewing tobacco is that? Really? Does your wife chew, too? She looks like the Skoal type of gal............just a pinch 'then her cheek & gum.....hmmmm mmmmm sexy"
From there it'd get crazy.
My most aggressive weight loss attempt shaved a nice chunk off.....had me going from 6x down to 2x shirts. I never had this happen.
I can honestly say that since middle school I have never heard anyone fat bash.

is it possible that you aren't excited because you are afraid of getting your hopes up and failing? I know how you describe feeling is how I feel now about diets. Like you want it to work, but you have just been burnt so many times you cannot allow yourself to do that again...to hope. It's hard to get past that experience when that's all we have to go on. I hope for you, that this is the one that works and that you've got the right amount of support and people to kick your butt when you need it(I need butt kickers when I feel like giving up).

This week's marks 4 months since my gastric bypass was done. So I figured it was time to do a side by side comparison and boy was I wowed at the result!! Pic on left was me at my highest of 278...day of surgery I was 256, the pic on the right was this past weekend at my Bachelorette party and I'm at 216! Seeing the difference is really shocking and I can't wait to be able to post goal pictures!!!

is it possible that you aren't excited because you are afraid of getting your hopes up and failing? I know how you describe feeling is how I feel now about diets. Like you want it to work, but you have just been burnt so many times you cannot allow yourself to do that again...to hope. It's hard to get past that experience when that's all we have to go on. I hope for you, that this is the one that works and that you've got the right amount of support and people to kick your butt when you need it(I need butt kickers when I feel like giving up).

is it possible that you aren't excited because you are afraid of getting your hopes up and failing? I know how you describe feeling is how I feel now about diets. Like you want it to work, but you have just been burnt so many times you cannot allow yourself to do that again...to hope. It's hard to get past that experience when that's all we have to go on. I hope for you, that this is the one that works and that you've got the right amount of support and people to kick your butt when you need it(I need butt kickers when I feel like giving up).

i don't actually have to dump, just knowing it is a possibility is enough! LOL I had horrific dumping like symptoms after my gallbladder surgery every time I ate dairy or spicy foods and that was soooo horrifically painful and miserable that I keep telling myself that sugar will be the same after surgery! It's a great motivator!

My NUT is a gem! She's been specializing in Bariatric surgery prep for over 20yrs so she really knows her stuff. She doesn't insult me with the basics of how to be on a diet. She's seen my extensive history and knows I know that crap. Usually we sit down and chat and talk about what's going on in my life and at home and then she mentions little ways to sneak in stuff. Like I used to skip breakfast because my bedroom is upstairs and I hate going up and down multiple times so I do all my upstairs work before heading down. That's getting the baby washed and dressed, cats fed, laundry collected, get the kids up and on their morning cleaning, make the beds, take a shower and THEN go down stairs and feed the kids first and then myself if there was anything left over. Sometimes it's nearly lunch time before I make it to breakfast at this rate, so she suggested a 20+gram Protein Bar. I keep them in my upstairs cabinet and have it for breakfast when I get up and it revs my metabolism up to start burning. We also talked about easy to do exercises that don't cost anything and we set goals on what we want to accomplish like Protein first, at least 20 grams of protein per meal, only eat 25-30 mins and not more(I'm a slow picky eater and can drag a meal out over an hour eating peas in single file) and we set a goal for exercises and that was it the first appt. the second appt we did a lil more and I'm already down 12lbs so that's pretty cool! The best part for me is that I don't feel like I'm dealing with a carb nazi. I mean, we talked about donuts and the various kinds and what makes them all so great even. It's just really friendly and helps make the process a lot easier than saying "go home and lose 20lbs over the next few months somehow".

My NUT is a gem! She's been specializing in Bariatric surgery prep for over 20yrs so she really knows her stuff. She doesn't insult me with the basics of how to be on a diet. She's seen my extensive history and knows I know that crap. Usually we sit down and chat and talk about what's going on in my life and at home and then she mentions little ways to sneak in stuff. Like I used to skip breakfast because my bedroom is upstairs and I hate going up and down multiple times so I do all my upstairs work before heading down. That's getting the baby washed and dressed, cats fed, laundry collected, get the kids up and on their morning cleaning, make the beds, take a shower and THEN go down stairs and feed the kids first and then myself if there was anything left over. Sometimes it's nearly lunch time before I make it to breakfast at this rate, so she suggested a 20+gram Protein Bar. I keep them in my upstairs cabinet and have it for breakfast when I get up and it revs my metabolism up to start burning. We also talked about easy to do exercises that don't cost anything and we set goals on what we want to accomplish like Protein first, at least 20 grams of protein per meal, only eat 25-30 mins and not more(I'm a slow picky eater and can drag a meal out over an hour eating peas in single file) and we set a goal for exercises and that was it the first appt. the second appt we did a lil more and I'm already down 12lbs so that's pretty cool! The best part for me is that I don't feel like I'm dealing with a carb nazi. I mean, we talked about donuts and the various kinds and what makes them all so great even. It's just really friendly and helps make the process a lot easier than saying "go home and lose 20lbs over the next few months somehow".

I'd just ask her, "exactly which part is so easy? The liquid diets? The getting your body cut open and having major surgery? The fear of severe stomach cramps if you eat sugar? The fear of choking on a piece chicken because it's too dry? Please enlighten me and tell me which part was easy, because (and this is where I'd drive the point home with a mean glare) it isn't easy and you need to shut your mouth!"

I found Splenda sweeten Jello online recently. I bookmarked it for later, but since I'm on my phone I won't remember that. I just typed in Splenda Gelatin into google and it popped right up. Amazon also sells some Splenda sweetened pudding by the name of loving spoonfuls I believe. I looked it up awhile back because I can't have aspartame because it causes severe Migraines.< /p>

You know you are ready for surgery when you just can't take another diet that not only doesn't give you a weight loss but ends in a gain. Then you sit in the floor and cry, because you know your weight is going to kill you and there's no way out of it(except weight loss surgery) and the idea of surgery and never being able to eat your favorite foods, or eat birthday cake frosting, or drink Mountain Dew doesn't bother you! The first time I looked into wls I was in my 20's and when they mentioned no mt dew for life I was like "F that!" And walked out. This time around I'm
More like "GOOD! I think I've already had my lifetime quota!" LOL that's how you ultimately know.

I have Aetna as well, my surgeon's office says they're to quote that it's a 2 week turn around for approval, but it often takes less than the 2 weeks for approval. Most people receive their notice in a week.
My paperwork will be submitted at the end of September. I pray that all goes well. I have a date for October 12th. Yaaaay! ????

I haven't spent $30K on my clothing in my lifetime and I'm 54.

Jeez Louise! You spent $30K on new clothes in two years?
That's a helluva bigger problem than not being able to figure out your "personal style."

Are you getting enough sunlight? I have a D deficiency and if I don't take supplements and get enough actual sunlight on my skin I feel tired- like my butt is dragging the ground tired. I also wonder if you are getting enough overall calories or if your body is perceiving a starvation period and trying to conserve energy to make up for the famine it feels it's in. Have you looked at your food diary(assuming you have one) to see if you are tracking enough overall or if you maybe need to punch it up or bit with some good sources to see if it helps.

Only you can really answer this question, but it depends on so many factors.
Have you seen your psych and feel that you are in a good place in your head or so you feel like you still have unresolved issues?
Remember this surgery will only cute your stomach from being hungry, it won't cure your head so if you are an emotional eater or a depressed eater or whatever, that problem is still there and needs to be addressed. Whether you address the problem before surgery, directly after surgery, or all along the way is up to you, but if you don't take the time to fully address the problems you already have to weight loss, don't expect surgery to fix them.
I was originally planning on a Christmas surgery because my hubby would be off work for a few weeks and I thought it would be the best for him, but as I'm going through the process, and talking to my husband about it, it's come to my attention that I ought to be thinking about me during this. Isn't it harder on me to wait when there's no reason instead of just getting it done and maybe making some visible progress by then? Will it really hurt him that much to take a couple days off to help with the kids while I attend to MY needs for just once? What would I gain from putting it off? Nothing. So as soon as I've completed my requirements I'm picking a date and doing this thing. I don't see any positives to waiting.

You know you are ready for surgery when you just can't take another diet that not only doesn't give you a weight loss but ends in a gain. Then you sit in the floor and cry, because you know your weight is going to kill you and there's no way out of it(except weight loss surgery) and the idea of surgery and never being able to eat your favorite foods, or eat birthday cake frosting, or drink Mountain Dew doesn't bother you! The first time I looked into wls I was in my 20's and when they mentioned no mt dew for life I was like "F that!" And walked out. This time around I'm
More like "GOOD! I think I've already had my lifetime quota!" LOL that's how you ultimately know.

You know you are ready for surgery when you just can't take another diet that not only doesn't give you a weight loss but ends in a gain. Then you sit in the floor and cry, because you know your weight is going to kill you and there's no way out of it(except weight loss surgery) and the idea of surgery and never being able to eat your favorite foods, or eat birthday cake frosting, or drink Mountain Dew doesn't bother you! The first time I looked into wls I was in my 20's and when they mentioned no mt dew for life I was like "F that!" And walked out. This time around I'm
More like "GOOD! I think I've already had my lifetime quota!" LOL that's how you ultimately know.

You know you are ready for surgery when you just can't take another diet that not only doesn't give you a weight loss but ends in a gain. Then you sit in the floor and cry, because you know your weight is going to kill you and there's no way out of it(except weight loss surgery) and the idea of surgery and never being able to eat your favorite foods, or eat birthday cake frosting, or drink Mountain Dew doesn't bother you! The first time I looked into wls I was in my 20's and when they mentioned no mt dew for life I was like "F that!" And walked out. This time around I'm
More like "GOOD! I think I've already had my lifetime quota!" LOL that's how you ultimately know.

I hear ya on this one! My dad had a stroke last month and for awhile we didn't know if he was going to make it through or not and I haven't seen him in the past 13yrs because of my weight and cost of travelling with 9 of us. It was down to me having to take a plane to see him by myself, and I knew I couldn't fit in one seat, so I was literally going to have to drive 2 days by car to see him. If I had been a regular sized person I could have bought 1 seat and gone with no problems, but I couldn't afford 2 and there's no way I could comfortably fit in just 1. So I just sat here bawling because I was afraid I wasn't going to ever get to see my dad again. Luckily, he's recovered(mostly) and is home now, but I still haven't made it to see him. I'm hoping to go next spring with the kids in my new slimmer form.

I would just advise you to keep an open mind as you advance through the process, as well as remain open to change. I went into this dead set on one procedure, absolutely positive that that was it, the end all be all. No one would have been able to convince me otherwise at that point.
But I listened. I learned. I figured out that what's a perfect fit for one person might not be perfection for me at all. Had my approval process not been so long (took a year), I might have regretted my first choice, as I ended up switching to another. Never close your mind to a different path.
Good luck!

I felt like I didn’t have any other choices if I wanted to be happy. Diets did work for me, but they weren’t living. They were temporary, as was the weight loss. I couldn’t get past food as a hurdle. So what else was I going to do? Weight loss surgery seemed like a good idea, and I’ve never regretted the decision to get the lap-band.
Where am I in my lap-band journey? I got it 12 years ago, and am staying within a few pounds of goal weight. I still need to pay attention to what I eat, but food is not ruling my life. My life is fuller now – I can enjoy myself, my family, and my work.

I talked to my surgeon about what to expect from the recovery, because I have to have a plan in place with 7 kids. He told me the recovery will be very similar to my gall bladder surgery. So, what I had then was my abs completely were sore like the day after doing about 100 too many sit ups, and on the side where my gallbladder had been it felt tender like I had been kicked in the ribs, but I was up walking as soon as the anesthesia wore off. It was sore for a few days to the point you probably wouldn't want to get down in a floor, but I could take walks outside and less than a week after surgery we took a cross country trip and I didn't have any pain or discomfort at that point. I actually didn't take pain meds other than ibuprofen when I got home, because I was a new nursing mom and I needed to get back to her before I lost my supply so by day 2 I was basically pain free and doing well. So hoping lightning can strike twice and I can have a recovery as fast as that, although that was 13yrs ago at this point and I'm older so who knows.

You know you are ready for surgery when you just can't take another diet that not only doesn't give you a weight loss but ends in a gain. Then you sit in the floor and cry, because you know your weight is going to kill you and there's no way out of it(except weight loss surgery) and the idea of surgery and never being able to eat your favorite foods, or eat birthday cake frosting, or drink Mountain Dew doesn't bother you! The first time I looked into wls I was in my 20's and when they mentioned no mt dew for life I was like "F that!" And walked out. This time around I'm
More like "GOOD! I think I've already had my lifetime quota!" LOL that's how you ultimately know.

Then I guess I'm ready