TexasGirl86

I usually ask the server to hold the wontons and just bring the broth. I'm 2 1/2 years out, so I could eat the wonton, but then I don't have enough room for any of my entrée, and the broth satisfies my craving for the wonton Soup.
Susan

So a couple weeks ago I told my adult kids my decision to have surgery. Today I told the rest of my family. Brothers, Sisters, Stepfather, Uncle, and Aunt as well as a couple very close friends. To be honest I was expecting a lot of judgement. So far is has been nothing but support even from those that I was sure would judge me. I have the full support from everyone that means anything to me. I’m so grateful that I won’t have to hide this from the ones that count.
I was so afraid of them judging me that I didn't realize that I was judging them. Now I find myself asking "How long have I been judging them?" Perhaps many of the bad feelings I've felt towards some members of my family were ill conceived. I think if's fair to say that most of us "Fatties" feel that we are constantly judged and scrutinized by the "Normies". And I still believe that it's true but probably not to the extent that I thought. Is it possible that most folks are too busy in their normal day to day lives that when they see a "Fatty" they don't think twice? That they have more important things to think about than me? Why do I feel like everyone is staring at me and judging me all the time? So I ask you .... Who's judging who and who are you judging?

I look forward to having a photo of my husband and me taken! We've been married five years and have only two snapshots of us because of my weight issues--including our wedding day!

Not having to worry if the camping chair will hold me
Letting a boy give me his coat when I'm cold and it be too big (or at least fit)
Sit on someone's lap
SHOP WHERE ALL MY FRIENDS SHOP!!!!!!!
And not having to shamefully ask the flight attendant for a seat belt extender

Running my first 5k with my 11 year old daughter
Buying clothes in old navy, rue21,ross, etc
Sitting chair with armrest and not having my thighs hurting.
More full body pictures
Wearing a bikini for the first time in life
Going to great america and six flags and ride every ride.(haven't been since I was 18)
Ride a bike again
Just enjoying healthier living

Thighs that don't rub together so I can wear skirts without leggings or baby powder to reduce friction. Being able to wear shorts and sleeveless tops in the blazing hot southern summer without feeling self conscious.Good bye Lane Bryant. You were great for a long time but I will enjoy being able to go into a regular store and find something...hopefully a lot cheaper! Having a New Years resolution that doesn't involve LOSING WEIGHT!Being able to work out without so much discomfort.Skinny jeans with boots that easily slide over my calves.Being able to be picked up by my husband.Not feeling squeezed into airplane/theater/waiting room seatsMore energyNo more risk of developing T2DBeing able to play with my son with the abandon of a child.Fit into slides, fit on swing sets, be able to crawl around on the ground and get back up without feeling like I need to take a nap immediately. Get back into pictures without feeling the need to hide in the back.

I am looking forward to...
Being healthier
shopping a a wider variety of stores
Feeling more confident anywhere I go

Losing an entire person
Purse straps that go over my shoulder
Sky diving
Zip lining
Fitting in a booth
NO MORE LANE BRYANT!

I love the responses! My parents have sworn me to secrecy, and one of my siblings doesn't know because he's known for being a blabber mouth.
I've mentioned wanting to have WLS done before to close friends and they almost all discouraged it. You can just work out and diet! Been hearing it for years now. Quite easy for people who have maybe an extra 10 pounds on them/never work out themselves/ haven't lost and gained significant amounts of weight repeatedly to tell you all of that. I even told my psychiatrist and he was ANGRY with me. I was scolded like a child, but I couldn't of cared less. It really is a personal decision.
I don't have an issue with sharing, but I think I'll continue to keep quiet about it. Until and unless I run into someone who is considering WLS themselves and I might be able to offer them insight.

Omg I want to work out so bad. But the dietician at the hospital told me no cardio/nothing strenuous for 6 weeks! (Stomachs still healing)
I'll see my doc for 2nd follow up appointment on Thursday and I'm going to ask.
The only thing I do at this point is walk around the house, walk around the back yard. It's boring lol

At 2 weeks, my dr told me I could already start doing cardio and lifting weights under 30lb. It's different for every person! Just follow your surgeon's rules and don't strain yourself too hard early on.

I'm 2 weeks post op. Feeling great and want to start ramping up my exercise. How soon did you all start vigorous exercise or running? Am I doing this too soon?

Exactly what happened to me.
Monday (6/22) was surgery day
Tuesday was released from the hospital, just sore, no pain or nausea
Wednesday I felt like the life was sucked out of me, no energy
Thursday I felt like what little life I had on Wed had been sucked out
Friday, I felt like I had returned to the land of the living.
Saturday, I can honestly say I was at 85-90%
.....and it's gotten better every day
Hang in there!

This is very very normal! Your body is recovering, and I don't know about others, but the residual pain meds from surgery had me sluggish for a solid week. I would wake up, and feel like I could nap for 3 more hours (and I did that a few times) but don't forget, although it's a chore, get yourself up and walking every hour for about 10 minutes. This will definitely help with energy. Other than that, you'll start gaining your energy when you have Protein Shakes and Soups. Totally normal to feel depressed and out of it, just don't let yourself cacoon in bed for weeks. Your body is recovering from the shock of surgery, so you have to put in the work to stay hyrdrated, get the Protein shakes down, and get enough rest. Hope you feel better soon!!

Totally normal. For about the first week and a half (I'm three weeks out now), I felt "blah," too. Just no energy, couldn't concentrate on anything. By the time I went back to work at the end of the second week, I was feeling much better, though still tired.

I agree! That's the first time I've ever heard of that. Shows great affection.

.@@TexasGirl86 @@VSGAnn2014 I definitely lucked out with those group of girls. It's great to have that support.

I can't wait to start exercising. I want to start now, but the dietician at the hospital told me no cardiovascular/heart rate up/jumping around until 6 weeks.
I'm only at like, 1 1/2 weeks now.

Your co-workers are so sweet.

Your co-workers are so sweet.

I don't talk about it unless someone asks then I say I had surgery and if they want to know more ok I'll answer any questions I feel I made this decision for myself I don't need any approval from anyone whoever doesn't agree well they don't have to get sleeved or bypassed etc everyone who knows me though knows that I don't give a shit what your opinion is about my health and that I'd say so to their face if they tried saying anything like that to me or about anyone else and anyone who thinks it's the so called easy way out they should try following the guidelines we have to do wonder how long they will last eating only a few bites of food at each meal ?

I haven't really told anyone other than my family. Now I'm down 70 pounds and everyone wants advice on how I lost weight. I hate lying but I do feel like there is weight loss surgery shaming.. So instead I tell a version of the truth and speak as little as possible. I've told people I only eat small amounts of Proteins several times a day. I did, however, come across a client who is in the same physical shape I was before and was desperate for help. I told her the truth. I can't hide the best decision of my life from someone else who could benefit from it. I fight with myself just to come out with the truth... But honestly I'm a bit embarrassed that it took surgery for me to get here. There are also some very judgemental people, my brother for instance, that will never know.
P.S. The "easy way out" thing angers me. This is anything but easy. In many ways it is the toughest thing I've ever done, especially mentally. But putting on my size 18 skinny jeans today reminded me it was well worth it!

I am really very open about it. I have pretty much told everybody. Most people ask questions about what I can and cannot eat, how often I can eat, how much I can eat. Everyone has been supportive.
I have only had one person who sorta tried to talk me out of it. However, she had lost her husband unexpectedly due to a massive heart attack at a fairly young age only a few months before. She was genuinely concerned about me having the surgery and the risks that come with anesthesia and major surgery. She was the first one to offer to be my walking partner once she understood I was not changing my mind and that I had done the research.

Honestly you already know who will be supportive and who won't be. You know who is in your life and can hopefully accurately gauge their reactions. I told my immediate family because I knew they would supportive, I told a handful of friends and there are 2 I knew would be against it and of course I was right. I told only 3 co-workers and no one else at work they were extremely supportive even getting me a card on my first day back to work with a gift card for all the new clothes I will need. So all that to say go with your gut, you know who can depend on and who you can't.

@@TexasGirl86 sounds like time for a new shrink to me;-)