reree6898

Men suck.

Lol, well I have found there are good and bad of all kinds of folks but this one happened to make some really sucky choices.

Thank you all very much.

Thank you all for the kind words. I do appreciate so much the support that comes from this group of people on this site.

Sorry this is not really totally weight loss related but I have no real other outlet for this. Tomorrow is my wedding anniversary, or rather what should be my anniversary. It is a day I should be celebrating with my husband. But that joy and celebration was stolen from me by the person who promised he would never leave. Five months ago on what I thought was a normal Friday I went to work and my husband was taking our two younger kids to spend the day with their older sister. Well after he acted like everything was perfectly normal he came home from dropping off the kids and packed up everything of his from the house, he took half of the little bit of money we had and I got a text that said I'm sorry this isn't working for me anymore, I'm moving out. We had not been fighting, things had been fine or so I thought.

I try really hard to keep a happy face on for the kids but I am still grieving the loss of my marriage so much. When I first had surgery he was very supportive but it seemed as I got smaller he became more and more withdrawn. Things really felt like they shifted when I became smaller then him. He is a husky guy but has never been obese though. Thankfully I have never been really an emotional eater so through all of this I have still continued to lose weight and keep up with my goals but it is so hard.

I guess I don't really have a major point to this thread. I'm not really looking for sympathy or anything, just needed somewhere to vent for a minute. I don't have any real outlet.

Yeah I have to keep in mind that scales are all going to be calibrated a bit differently. Also time of day and how much you've ate or drank that day can make a difference as well. When I weigh at home at the same time every day then later go to the dr in the afternoon it can be several pounds different. My dr said that the true weight is the naked after going to the bathroom first thing in the morning weight so that is what I go by.

This is what I've been wondering, too! But I know no matter what happens, I will get to enjoy LIFE more after surgery.

@@reree6898 You are gorgeous! Inspiring pictures!

Thank you so much, that's very sweet of you to say.

My picture didn't post in my response for some reason.

I still do enjoy food but it's different now. I enjoy quality healthy food. I no longer eat the greasy fast food and fried things. I still enjoy a sweet treat here and there but I limit that to maybe one small treat every week or two and I didn't allow that till I was about a year out. I make sure that I don't allow trigger foods to stay in my home or I will want to pick at it too much. I am currently 15 months out.

HW 376 in 2011

SW 319 9/28/15

CW 146.8 today

172.2 lost since surgery and 229.2 overall.

Your doing a great job!

Awesome accomplishment! Love your constant positive attitude! [emoji106]????[emoji4]

15 months out from surgery now. The pictures below are from my heaviest weight at about 376 then in the white shirt is from October, I have lost another 12lbs or so since then and am at 148 now.

Every insurance is different in requirements. I would suggest that you talk to the insurance company and find out exactly what they use for approval. Have them email it to you so you have it in writing.

Sorry your feeling rough but gotta say your posts are always good for a laugh. You have a talent when you write.

Hate to break it to you but even though this is that you are sick it is possible to have dumping syndrome with the sleeve even thought it's not as common as with bypass.

Feel better!

I can understand the feeling. My husband walked out 5 months ago today with out any warning. I was at work and got a text that he moved out. My wedding anniversary is next week and the divorce will be final in January. I put on my happy face most of the time but really feel like I'm falling apart inside still. Just keep trying to stay focused on the positive and take it day at a time. That's all any of us can do.

To me I think I still look mostly the same but I have had coworkers that hadn't seen me in months say they didn't recognize me. Oh and the best one was I had to go into my sons school one day and while waiting my turn in the office the secretary thought I was my 18 year old daughter. [emoji4]

I had my birthday the month after my surgery. I went to Mexican and got a soft chicken taco and just ate the chicken and cheese out of it. I ate about half of the fillings and my part of the bill was less then two dollars!

For me I do save on eating out because we don't hardly ever eat out anymore because I prefer to cook more of my own food now so I know exactly what's in it and what oil is used etc. As for clothes I have had to buy clothes several times over the last 14 months but the smaller clothes are much less expensive then the plus size. For example before I could only really find jeans at plus size stores for around $50-60 a pair. Now I can find jeans for $10-20 a pair depending on where I go. I will say I am not one to care about brand labels though. I guess if you prefer the brand names it may be different.

I have wondered about these. Does it wear your carpet under where you use it?

food scale, measuring cups, yeti cup for ice Water, scale to weigh myself on daily, I have stuck to the basics and done quite well.

If by saying things are now physical you mean that he's become abusive then you need to first focus on getting you and your kids out of there no matter what. No one is ever worth things getting physical over. I know first hand that getting out can be hard and scary but it's not impossible.

I understand totally. I have gone from a 26/28 to an 8/10 and I still just see the old me in the mirror. Now if I look at a side by side I can see the difference of course but daily in the mirror not so much.

Just wait until you are 3.5 years out, maintaining beautifully, and are called all sorts of fun names for giving well thought out, sincere advice. It's actually quite funny.

And then when the story changes to justify the behavior and it's all you can do not to bust out into mad giggles. My favorites are the people who eat more than I can at at my stage 4 or 5 days post op, say they are too afraid to tell their surgeon when urged to, and then come back and say that they DID tell their surgeon he was OK with it. Uhm, Ok.

Another favorite is the people who say they can "feel" that they are healed a week or two post op. They feel great, they know they should "listen to their bodies" and have at the chips, the ice cream and the pizza. Unless they were given some sort of internal camera and a medical degree at discharge, they can't know that they are healed in the inside. As far as listening to your body? Listening to your body most likely got you to this weight in the first place.

But let me stop...

Just had to say I love you. Your posts are great. That is all.

You should not swim until your incisions are healed. It can set you up for infection if they are not healed first.

Your doing great. I know it's a wonderful feeling to say goodbye to the 300's. [emoji4]

I freeze all the time, I literally have been wearing gloves to bed and I bought an electric blanket for my office at work. I spread it out on my chair then sit on it and wrap it up around me like a cocoon. Not much help in your line of work though. I have heard cuddle duds are very good though and can be worn under other clothes for warmth.