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Basically, even low quality men think they are a catch now just because they have access to thousands of women at their finger tips. I like just meeting men in person, it saves a lot of time, I can get a feel for them right away.

She already said carbs are her weakness. She hasn't posted what she eats in a day probably for good reason. You can't help people who won't help themselves.

The pain meds cause more pain than they fix. Those narcotics were making my intestines like clinch/freeze and it hurt like hell. Stopping the pain meds ended most of the pain.

There are some threads here you can search for where we had some long convos about this. Specifically about that biggest loser study. I am almost 2 years out and my metabolism is normal to high. You aren't supposed to stay on ultra low calories forever. The sooner you get your calories up, the better. Over 1000 a day ASAP.. I don't know how many calories @BigViffer eats but he is a guy that works out a lot and I think he eats around 2000 calories a day if I recall correctly. A lot of us eat normal levels of calories and are able to lose or maintain. The people that hang out at 800 calories forever even though they are stalled are the ones that ruin their metabolism.

I mean finding someone that loves you for you, weight loss surgery isn't going to help you with that. The only thing WLS did was give me a wider variety of men in more quantity to choose from. Losing weight you trade one set of problems for another. Men are visual. I know a lot of men ask me out because of how I look and how that makes them look when they are out me. That is just life.

Your calves are probably always going to be bigger than other people, they got bigger carrying all your weight around. They will get smaller but they probably won't be the size of a person your same size that was never as obese. I have lost 4 inches off my calves but they are still larger than most people my size. I wear an 8/10 and my calves are still pretty big and give me trouble in some skinny jeans. My calves aren't fat either they are just muscle.

I low carbed for a long time. I had great health benefits from it but because of lack of portion control I never had the huge loses. There is a lot of things that WLS does to your body besides provide restriction and smaller portions, there is a lot of science to it. https://www.nytimes.com/2017/02/13/well/why-weight-loss-surgery-works-when-diets-dont.html Honestly I feel like if you have to question your decision and need other people support you are not ready for surgery. You have to be all in, 100 percent committed to this and think it is your only and best option or you will be miserable, tempted and full of regret like 80% of the people that post here.

My Dr said vitamin E oil, I used that and bio oil.

Yeah, weight loss slows. It won't stop, but it isn't as fast. That is normal. Your body can't lose 10 to 20 pounds a month forever

Honestly dating and online dating and issues, is bigger than surgery. I had an easier time dating as an 28/30 than I do as an 8/10. When I was larger I was more approachable, now men are intimidated. With the internet, everyone has a lot of options and it is hard to pin someone down. Losing weight isn't a magic ticket to getting a man, at least not a quality one.

Without knowing what complications you had, yes. Just keep eating and you will have more capacity as time passes.

Try laying on your stomach very carefully rolling over. That pressure really helped me a lot. I have a high pain tolerance, so I was never miserable like how a lot of people on forums claim to be. I stopped taking the pain meds when I got home because I wanted to drive. So I was only on pain meds the 26 hours I was in the hospital.

I'm not quite 2 year yet and now I know exactly why Vets stop posting. Pre-op it use to really puzzle me that so few long term people were active in WLS communities but now I totally get it. 1) New people ask the exact same thing that people have asked 1000 times before them. There is nothing wrong with them asking but it is tiring. 2) Personally I don't feel like a WLS surgery patient anymore. I eat normally, although in proper portions (the portions we eat are not small portions they are actual proper portion sizes). I can't really relate to post of the posts. There are things I could talk about with other people at my stage but none of them post, so, the site has little to offer me. Without getting too far into it. @bellabloom you told a lot of tall tales, admitted to them, and backtracked a ton of times. People calling you out on not being truthful is not bashing. I guess since everyone that used to post that remembers you left or was banned you feel like you can pop back up playing victim. I haven't forgot. If I get banned for saying it or my post gets edited. Whatever.

All the rewards I was supposed to get myself, diamond earrings and a fur I haven't got. Honestly there are so many little NSV every day I dont feel the need for erxternal gifts. Not having to worry if a chair is wide enough or can hold my weight is a gift that keeps giving every day.

I didn't take a stool softener every day in the beginning, I wish I would have it would have made life a lot easier. Fluids and walking really helps with constipation. I'm glad you found a solution and shared. Good luck with your recovery.

Water with drops. The only artificial sweetener I like is Stevia http://www.sturdrinks.com/ Orange Mango tastes great, almost like orange juice, almost These are good http://sweetleaf.com/stevia-water-enhancer/ I like the lemonade The nice thing about drops is you can keep them in your purse and you can turn any water into a tasty drink. Comes in handy at restaurants.

When you reheat things in the microwave you remove some of the moisture. So leftovers become denser and harder to eat. I never had anything like this on soft foods I had soft baked fish. Call your Dr, you should not have pain when eating.

Something for over stretched RNY patients. I thought all reputable Drs had stopped over stitching.

Are you going to Northwestern, University of Chicago or Loyola? I would go with DS over Bypass. At this point DS still makes the most sense and since you didn't react very well to the sleeve the first time, it seems like you need DS or SIPS. If you are going to have another surgery might as well go all the way with DS, it has better weight loss than RNY and the Sleeve. Who did your original surgery? Did anyone off you any reason why your sleeve stretched? A properly formed sleeve should not stretch. Have you reached out to that Dr? And yeah being pregnant probably affected your sleeve. If I have high waist pants on, I can hardly eat with my sleeve. I can't have any pressure on my mid torso to be able to eat. I can only imagine what a baby would do. There are fewer long term people that post here as of late and I can't think of any regular poster that went from sleeve to DS but I know there has to be some. Good Luck!

Handsome guy before and after. Starting with a great face makes it easy to keep one Congrats on all the hard work, keep it up.

It is scientifically impossible to gain 5 pounds of fat over night. Water weight...

Not wanting to tell your co-workers or your nosy sister in law is not the same as selling It Works Wraps and claiming your weight loss is because of the wraps. One is lying and deception and the other is personal privacy issue. People are acting like by not telling you are advertising yourself as a personal trainer and a fitness guru.

I would say for people that keep eating well, and are dedicated to the process. 3 years. At lot of people will get to a point at year 2 stay there for a long time and just lose a few pounds without trying. Then some people bottom out, gain a little and they stay there. I think 3 years though, if you aren't regaining is where you really see your final results. Even with people with lower BMIs. People say 1 year just because most of the first year is healing and adjusting. You have the most restriction and eat the least. I think people lose the most rapidly in the first 6 months, 6-9 is pretty fast, then it start slowing. It just depends on the person.

I take regular high quality soft gel vitamin, not sold in most stores. I think giving WLS patients vitamins that taste like candy is counterproductive and stupid. Do any of these Drs ever think about that?!?!?

It's a good choice, just weigh it. The amount you get is going to vary a lot by the size of avocado, eye balling the measurement won't work.