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Your energy is pretty low but you should be able to go back to work in a week or less I would think as long as your surgery goes well. Hopefully some band to sleeve people respond, they would know better what that recovery is like. You might want to post in that forum.

I love the update!

I have had alcohol maybe 4 times since sugery. My tolerence is the same. When my weight gets lower that might change, but i am not in the liquor hits me fast camp. If you have your mental issues worked out before surgery, you shouldn't have to worry much about transfer addictions. This is a lifestyle, not a diet banning things forever is unrealisitic and makes them too tempting to people. My plan was alcohol allowed after 3 months.

Find Protein shakes that you like, that don't seem like punishment. So many people have surgery and hate Protein Shakes, that just makes your life a lot harder. Find other sources of protein you like. Try yogurts, etc. It is better to know what you like now, than wait until you have a small healing stomach and have to guess.

Had not read the book, but what you are saying is accurate. First hand experience. Very deep dating pool and many options (more if you are not picky about conversation). I like the point about the man paying. That is one area I am highly old fashioned on and I think a woman has control issues and is not ready for a relationship if she insists on paying (and that test has been proven correct every time it has happened). I make roughly the same as my girlfriend, and while I pay for the meals and buy tickets she makes up for it in the long run by picking up occasional big ticket items. So neither of us feel dependent on the other nor used. But I always consider it a privilege to pay though I know she could. Very interesting point about trying to float several guys at once. BTW guys know when they have been put in a holding pattern by a woman who is juggling several. If we stick around consider it a compliment because we think you are worth it. They totally know they are competing after a while and that makes them compete. That is a better way to learn their interest and intentions than trying to make them wait for sex.

I know exactly what you mean. I just want some simple companionship. I met someone we hit it off and I focused all my energy on the even though I knew better, because I don't have a ton of free time and dating is exhausting. When I start dating again, even if I end up dating one person at a time, I am not going to see them more than once a week for a while, so things don't accelerate too fast. Seeing someone multiple times a week accelerates the whole thing and creates false intimacy. Then after I met this guy, I deleted all my dating profiles too soon. I should have kept seeking people longer. I don't have the solutions more than anyone else, but I know dating one person at a time is a recipe for disaster.

Awesome results for 5 months!

I wrote my reply and the app updated and so I'm writing it again. The app update is awesome. Anyway, it used to be that men only had access to women they could see or touch. Now they have access to thousands of women, real or imagined. All the women they may think they have access to may not entertain them. The prevalence of porn does not help either but that is even a longer topic. So this whole concept of withholding from a man and dangling your self in front of him as some special prize won't work. There are plenty of women with no standards for them to choose from so you have to work harder to make yourself seem more appealing. Withholding sex is pretty meaningless at this point, this isn't the 60s. The 90 day rule is ridiculous and out dated for this reason and it is the whole premise of the book. And a guy who is seeing more than one woman can easily wait you out for 90 days on sex, it will just be a game for them. That isn't the way to weed out players. It takes more work. Sent from my SAMSUNG-SM-N920A using BariatricPal

Think good thoughts before you go to sleep. Don't buy a ton of stuff. 7 months later I still have stuff from before surgery. Rest, even if you feel awesome, even if you have a ton of energy. Rest.

My tastes are not different. I still love food, food is still delicious. The only thing I will is that things I was lukewarm about before surgery I hate now. That I think comes from just having so little room for food, things I don't like really seem like a waste now. Also if you don't have sugar for a really long time. When sugar hits you in something it's a huge shock surprise. I got a salad from the deli. I asked several times if it had sugar, I was assured it did not. Took a bite and I was like OMG Sugar!!!!!!!!

I took a luxurious soak in the bath tub the other day. I remember the last time I got in the tunnel over 100lbs ago and I was wedged in the tub with barely any water. It wasn't on my weight loss bucket list but it was a nice surprise.

At least you get 960 calories a day, that is a feast!

I had a lot of fears, but I ended up losing 100lbs in 6 months without being hungry. Getting over my fears was well worth it. Just think about seeing your 13 year old graduate college and get married and you are healthy and a help to them instead of a burden because of your medical problems getting worse because 10 -20 years from now you are just more obese and sicker.

These insurance requirements are ridiculous. When people lose too much pre-op, then they deny them. What a hornets nest.

The book is terrible. Steve Harvey uses his relationship with Marjorie as the blueprint, totally glossing over she was holding on out giving him the "cookie" to get him to leave his current wife at the time. The book also revolves around the premise that men don't have a lot of dating options and that is flat out not true. Even though you are older than me and this book and the advice would apply more to people in your age range, it doesn't. It is totally outdated. The fact that men can date on the internet changes everything. Even the old and not that cute or financial stable men have options far beyond whatever they would have had in the past, that makes it harder to get them to act in any sort of normal predictable fashion. Which you already know based on what you have posted about dating guys on this site. I would say never go dutch until you are in a serious relationship and you need to make things fair and balanced. In the beginning you can learn a lot about a man by what kind of date he takes you, how he pays, how he tips, and how he feels about you never finishing your food (learned that the hard way). If you are dating 3-5 people at a time. I used to do it a lot when I was in my 20s and I dated a lot, they weed themselves out. You don't usually have that many ball in the air in the same week. Someone is going to eliminate themselves this week, and someone else is going to rise in the rankings and you might meet someone new that week. It doesn't take a lot of time from a female point of view because most men, especially the ones you meet online are full of it. Keep the text light basic and simple and move it to meeting in person ASAP. This helps weed out the married ones, the fakes, and the ones just looking for penpals, and lastly the cheap ones. If you are meeting them online the first "date" is going to be coffee, that doesn't take long. At most you have probably 2 guys to go on dates with in any given week. One you are going to like more or click with more and that will be a long date, the other one will be short, you lower the shorter dates ranking in the rotation, or never see them again and look for a replacement. If a guy is willing to see you on a Saturday night, that can mean something. Saturday night is the bigger party/going out night. If a guy is out and on the prowl, they are less likely to give up a Saturday night for date, when they can use Saturday night for more prospects. It is a huge time sink even if you date like you are creating a fantasy football team. I decided to chill on actively seeking someone until I get past goal. If I meet someone on accident that is fine, but I don't have the time to dedicate to weeding through men looking for a unicorn.

Any chicken salad recipe you have can be greatly improved with fresh baked chicken breasts or a rotisserie chicken. The taste is completely different. http://www.foodnetwork.com/recipes/ina-garten/chicken-salad-veronique-recipe.html Replace the mayo with Walden Farms mayo few grapes, cut in 1/4s not in halves.

actually first and second i lost 44 , and you can totally see a difference , why would I get new clothes I feel like you can see a difference wearing the same outfit before and after, your comment was a bit rude!!You posted a picture with no comments. I thought you were asking if you could tell the difference because you couldn't. That is usually what people mean when they ask if we can see the difference, because they can't see it.

@@bettyboop2088 Get an attorney in your area familiar with the hospital and the Drs, No one on a message board is qualified to answer your question or help you.

Between the first and the 2nd picture you lost 40lbs but had the same pants on. You will never see the difference if you keep wearing the same clothes. Get NEW clothes.

Here is a good thread on the topic, with lots of answers. http://www.bariatricpal.com/topic/360332-what-made-you-choose-this-surgery-vs-others/page-3?hl=sleeve+bypass#entry4078075 like @@betterlife7 I felt the sleeve was less risky, more straight forward, made more sense and had a better recovery time. In the end you have more control over your weight loss with the sleeve than with the bypass. It is a personal choice, so you need to go on what your Docotor says and what is comfortable for you. The weight loss difference between surgeries is not that different. http://www.obesitycoverage.com/weight-loss-surgeries/gastric-bypass/how-much-can-i-expect-to-lose

I still spend time with, my friends. They do not know I had surgery. They do not see anything different really about how I eat. They know I am cutting back, that's it. I don't really have relationships based on foods. I do think I will have a problem with one friend. The last time we were together I was still bigger than her. I think by the next time I see her I will be smaller than her. She has been supportive of my weight loss so far but the next time we go shopping. I doubt I will be wearing plus size. She is going to flip out. I was the fat friend that made her feel slim. Those days are over.

No lawyer worth anything is going to talk to you over the Internet. If you are thinking about medical malpractice, then find an attorney that specializes in that in your area. They don't have to be a Dr to sue the hell out of one.

My doctor said the reason they don't have you take them the first 2 weeks is because people are struggling with getting fluids in and some are struggling with nausea. If you are not struggling, you can take them sooner. I started mine the day I came home.

When you don't lose weight you usually lose inches, so start measuring.

The sad thing is a lot of men under 30 are more grown up than the middle aged ones going through their mid life crisis.