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She works out with a trainer too. She has a ton of muscle under that layer of fat which is why she looks so tight.

I had to quote this because it illustrates how I feel so well. When I went on diets I would loss 30 to 50 lbs and it felt a little better and my clothes fit better but it never made a huge difference. Now 7 months out I am only 1/2 to goal but I have lost over 100lbs. Losing 100lbs has completely changed my life. If I never lost another ounce I would consider this a success. I want to keep losing and I am still losing and I am very hopefully I will make my goal. This first 100lbs has made my life so much easier and me more active overall, I have no doubts I can make goal. On my own it seemed impossible, because of constant hunger and rarely feeling satified. Also like someone else said now I know one bite of something can be enough for me. I never had that kind of control before. I was skeptical the sleeve would work for me. The first few weeks I felt I was losing slowly for my start weight and I was discouraged. When this happened in the past with diets I would just quit because I was hungry and deprived and not seeing results. With the sleeve, I couldn't quit. Not quitting forced me to push through stalls and "slow" results to ultimately get great results. Being sleeved isn't easy but it makes everything easier.

Well first it isn't a diet. It is a healthy eating lifestyle. You have to make that switch in your mind. A healthy eating lifestyle allows for occasional treats or indulgences. Your "will power" increases for most people because of the lack of hunger. It is easier to stick to eating healthy and eating very little because very little satisfies you and you are not hungry. Hopefully by the time hunger kicks back in for people (I am 6 months and still no physical hunger), they have learned healthy habits and are pleased enough with their results to continue healthy eating. If you follow your food plan you learn to eat again, just like a baby. Surgery is a tool to teach you healthy habits and help you by making those healthy habits easier. After weeks of Protein shakes, purees, and soft foods, a bit of soft baked meat tastes like heaven. You learn to enjoy simple pleasures in food because going without for a while retrains your palette. At least that has been my experience. If you feel like a food addict, you need to get to the root cause of why you eat. Once you can solve that root cause and find other ways to cope, it is a lot easier to be successful.

The only issues I have ran into is going out on dates, some guys feel you are wasting their money by not clearing your plate or something. I have heard this from other people too. It is a quick and fast way to weed out cheap jerks. If they are complaining about how much you aren't eating, they are probably terrible tippers too, and that tells you all you need to know. Other than that, I do just fine. I have a big personality and I talk a lot so most people don't pay attention or care. I have also always been a picky food snob so that helps to. If I don't eat something people assume I am just being me.

@@Daisee68 How do you track these bites? I wouldn't eat like that just because a "bite" isn't a scientific measurement. There would be no way for me to accurately gauge if I was meeting my Protein goals.

@@1Cor2:9 You are less than 2 months from surgery or just at 2 months. You are still healing. Don't be so hard on yourself. Walking and being active every day is exercise. Exercise is not just going to the gym. Do you have a fitbit or anything to track your steps during the day? Phone? You are probably already far more active than you think you are. You wanted to lose 20 pounds in 6 weeks. You lost 15 pounds in 6 weeks. Almost 6% of your total body weight. Most people have to almost kill themselves to lose 2-4% in a month. You are above average weight loss. You are losing very well for some so close to surgery date. Weight loss is 80-90% diet. If you are still controlling your food you are still winning. Don't be so hard on yourself and don't set your weight loss goals so high. I set my goal at 13lbs because I felt it was more realistic. I lost 19lbs which makes me feel good I exceeded my realistic goal. If I set my goal at 20lbs I would be kicking myself for not meeting goal instead of feeling awesome I made goal. This is a mental game. Make it easier on yourself, not harder. Stress and anxiety are the anti-weight loss emotions.

I kept a bandage over the incision near bra, a padded one.

Get in bed at 9pm and read.

Lots of people have completely crap parents. His dad has him around because he is another source of income. Unless you have really experienced a crappy parent you can't understand how really terrible some people are at being parents and human beings in general.

This is the biggest thing for me. Food is not comforting because the full feeling isn't the same. Plus I still have a huge disconnect between my brain and my stomach. Before surgery I would think about food and get hungry. Now when I think about food, my stomach doesn't care.Tastes can be very mentally satisfying, but even that taste enjoyment which is mental doesn't carry over to anything physical. This makes it easy for me to just have a bite or 2 of something and stop. I know that this disconnect might not always exist so I try to stay aware.

I just came to terms with it before surgery. First of all with all the invasive pre-op testing they put me through, I thought my chances of dying were radically slim. Worse than that, the pre-op testing convinced me that I would live a long time mordbidly obese and gaining and losing for another 30 or so years. Ugh. So I decided dying why I was young and pretty still with my hair freshly done was worth the risk. Added bonus I felt the only way I would die would be malpractice, so at last my family would have some cash. It is a real fear, and what people tell you won't help you get over it. You have to work through it in your mind and come to terms with surgery. The fear is partially real fear probably and a little self sabotage.

It sounds like your decision is made. Good luck with your surgery.

I like Amish stuff. I used to live near Amish country, I don't now and I have no idea if there are any stores around here selling Amish goods. I also get spices from https://www.penzeys.com/

When your calories are low, and you are dropping a lot of fat and releasing a lot of hormones the first 2-3 months, your PMS can be worse and your cycle can be irregular. Once you start eating more it balances out. Try using the search feature, there are tons of threads on this topic.

My primary was totally supportive of me having surgery. Do the math on paying 2 insurance policies and meeting out of pocket expenses. Add it up and compare it to paying for surgery. If you have surgery and pay out of pocket in the US are doctors still refusing to see you? That doesn't even make sense. Blossom Bariatrics in Vegas has a good program at a good cost. http://blossombariatrics.com/ Also there is a whole forum here dedicated to surgery in Mexico. You might get better answers there.

Open enrollment on the healthcare exchange is closed. Also since you have insurance through your employer I am not sure you can buy a plan, if you can you won't get a supplement. All the premiums you would pay will end up being the same cost as paying for surgery out of pocket. Post-op unless you have a complication, you can just follow up with your primary care doctor. Mainly you just need your blood work monitored long term. You don't have to see a bariatric surgeon forever.

around 800 with 90ish grams of protein. I could eat more, I choose not to.

would go to Mexico if paying out of pocket, or maybe Blossom Bariatrics in Vegas. If I was cash pay, I wouldn't have surgery in the US because they add on all kinds of extra costs, or it is too easy for there to be extra hidden costs over what they quote you. Paying out of pocket has the advantage that you can have surgery soon rather than later. Waiting only get you older and sick in the 6 months or whatever of insurance red tape. Plus with a lot of the deductible and out of pocket costs. Surgery in the US with insurance costs almost as much if not the same as just self paying outside the US.

Well since I am a different kind of minority, than just being fat. I have a different perspective on it. I don't mind fact acceptance. It is not my kind of thing because they go to extremes. There are some people that are always going to be fat, even after weight loss surgery and there are of course lots of people that can never have surgery. Fat people are a fact of life, they shouldn't be marginalized. However, extremely morbidly obese people is another topic. It isn't healthy, and once you are at that weight long enough your health starts to fail, the body just can't handle it. What I hate the most is all these people have enablers that help them get this way and keep them that way. If you have to do everything for yourself just daily life would prevent you from getting that large. It is a form of abuse, emotional and physical. I'm also not offended by chubby chasers depending on how chubby their desires are. Regular plus sized women, I don't see that as being a fetish. Women that are so hard they can hardly move, that is a complexly different topic. They want women that size so they have absolute and complete control over them and they are no better than pedophiles.

I have been so annoyed as I have been bra shopping with people in stores telling me to get a band size larger and just use the the last row. Do they even understand how bras work? You start on the first row because with wear and the warmth of your body even if you aren't losing weight the bra gets looser and then you move rows. If you start at the very end you have no where to go in a couple weeks or so when the bra breaks in. @@JamieLogical I have never lost 100lbs before. I am losing most of my weight in my upper body, my collar bone is popping like I am below 200 when I am far from it. Everything is shrinking but my boobs. I got measured for bras at a bra shop because I knew I buying all wrong, and I can't really accurately measure myself alone at home. I was really surprised to hear 42G because I thought I was losing all over my upper body. I wear sports bras around the house most of the time so that has distorted my view of my breasts. I wouldn't think I could slide into a size 16 or 18 at 260 lbs either. This is a whole new body and I am still losing and still adjusting to it.

I cancelled my gym membership recently. I have only been a few times since surgery. There are no good gyms within 20 minutes of where I live. Not gyms with pools and the kind of classes and trainers I want. I'm not going to pay for a trainer that needs a trainer. I hate going to the gym and faking activity, I would rather just be active. I kept my membership for so long for the weights, but the weights they have aren't even good and the arrangement isn't optimal. I walk. I work out with weights at home and I do yoga. I think yoga is probably the most beginner friendly exercise regardless of weight. All the poses can be modified to accommodate people at whatever stage they are at. It is also a serious muscle workout and you use muscles you didn't even know you had. I'm going to get a new bike soon and add bike riding to the mix. I find being in a gym boring unless I am swimming or in a really intense class. I have found that intense workouts stress my body into holding weight so I haven't tried those again in a while. You don't have to go to the gym to be active. It is better to build activity into your daily life, that doesn't require you going or doing something special. Walking is the best exercise, and you use more muscle than you think.

Well if you are looking for the people with problems then you are going to find them. The people without problems don't post they aren't have issues. That doesn't mean the complications aren't rare. And it certainly doesn't minimize your pain and discomfort. Have you got a 2nd opinion? I would before considering another surgery. Can you go to Northwestern or University of Chicago and ask their opinion?

@@Cervidae I got a dog. It has helped me so much with my stress and isolation from living and working alone. The dog is the best comfort available. I realize everyone can't afford or wants to take care of a dog. I comfort myself right now by shopping. It isn't always about purchasing items, it is more about trying on clothes, seeing what I can wear and also seeing myself in a different environment. Even though there are mirrors and full length mirrors all over my house, I find that I can see my changes better outside the house and trying on entirely new clothes. That helps me stick to plan and also validates my struggles with head hunger. Doing your nails, deep conditioning your hair. Okay on to food. Comforting myself with food, is something I worked through before surgery, before I even considered surgery. I gave up sugar, I gave up alcohol. I learned to work through my problems and I always removed a lot of stress from my life. Now to be real, I Keto. That is more comforting than most diets. Fats satisfy a lot of needs. Low carb and low fat is just fail to me, and it doesn't seem to satisfy anything. So I have healthy fats, very few carbs and meet my Protein goals. That is satisfying and comforting to me every day. My food is high quality and delicious. I had filet mignon for almost a week straight, at 4 oz at a time, it is affordable yet still decadent.Totally on plan, totally delicious. I am savory kind of person. I would rather have fried chicken or fried fish than chocolate or any kind of sweet. That being said, it is kind of easier to get "treat" like foods that are sweets since most people are sugar fiends. I think that if sweets are your trigger then you should be really careful. I can eat these items and not care about them. They are mainly convenience more than comfort. Protein Brownies. Looking they are protein brownies and they taste like protein brownies, but they do taste good. They also aren't cheap, so you might not want one every day. Found on instagram, a real life saver, added bonus, they are moderately filling. http://www.eatmeguiltfree.com/ Protein Peanut Butter The chocolate is delicious. https://wildfriendsfoods.com/protein_plus/ Quest Bars Low carb cheesecake (just google a recipe. I get these at Trader Joes for $1.99 or 2.99 a bar, I forget the price. cheaper than Lily's I have one square at a time as a snack http://www.amazon.com/Simply-Lite-Chocolate-Cacao-3-Ounce/dp/B0049UDYHI These from trader joe's, fi you are going to buy them, weigh/measure out all the servings and put them in individual baggies as soon as you get it home. Only take one serving at a time. The calories are high per serving for those of us on 1000 calories or so a day so plan accordingly. I stopped buying them because they aren't worth the calories to me, but they aren't a terrible option. http://i.imgur.com/jWCaYT1.jpg Again I am going to state I can eat this things because sweets are not a trigger for me. If they are for you, don't do it. Food though is fuel, not a comfort device. We all need to work past seeing food as a comfort. It doesn't even work post surgery at least for me. Being full is super uncomfortable, it isn't soothing, it doesn't make me numb or sleepy, just miserable. Cooking a complicated keto or paleo recipe is soothing to me. It takes me out of my own thoughts and I have to focus on what I am doing. I find that relaxing. Recipe sites.. http://www.ibreatheimhungry.com/ http://www.ruled.me/ http://cavemanketo.com/ https://ketodietapp.com/Blog I am not familiar with what RNY people can eat so if all of these are things you can't tolerate. I'm sorry.

For someone as young as Ariel it is worth it. If she takes proper care of her wounds, which they don't do on the show, she should have almost invisible scars in 5 years. The show is meant to scare people and be as exploiting as possible. Take it all with a grain of salt. What kills me is people talk about foreign doctors but the wonder twins are complete hacks!! Everyone they operate on has open incisions. Everyone. They are awful

Yeah head hunger is really the issue. I try to keep good Snacks and have tea at night but if it gets too bad I just decide it is time for bed. I also will hold for a few days then drop 2 to 3 pounds.