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I think people tell you that you won't look right small because you being a certain size is their comfort zone. Also a lot of people are comfortable being fat and they don't want someone else small. As I am losing and getting down comfortably in regular sizes 14, moving to 12, I hear so many things from people I realize they are being completely ridiculous. One of my friends claims she can never get into regular size pants because of her butt, but umm you can have a big butt and be small, so that doesn't even make sense. She trailed off after she said it, so I think even she realized she was being silly. I had turned into an apple leaning to pearish. Now that I have lost weight, I am a very serious hourglass. I went from a 50DD to a 38F/G. Something like 44/45-32-44/45 My waist is very defined. Yeah I have loose skin/flab on my stomach and inner thighs. My outer thighs have toned up nicely, with the cellulite improving and everything. The inner thighs are just thin loose skin. Still with clothes, etc its not a big deal. I have long thighs and as long the inseam is 5 inches, I can wear shorts fine. I have high cheek bones and I had big cheeks, I would have problems with sunglasses because they always hit my cheeks, not anymore. I never had a hugely fat face. I didn't have a fat neck or a big double chin. My face is just overall smaller. I remember someone telling me that if I lost weight I would have a big head and little body or something stupid like that. That isn't the case at all. I am very proportional. I am proportional to the point that lately I have really had to examine what I thought about myself before. I thought I was meant to be large, but now as I am losing and in regular sizes. This looks and feels comfortable. I was this size in HS/College. It isn't completely foreign to me, but I didn't have an hourglass shape before. I never wanted to be smaller than what I am now, but now that I am here. I can easily see that I could get down to a size 10 or 8 and be perfect comfortable and still very shapely. So I am not going to stop until my body stops. I'm not afraid of getting too small because I just don't think it is possible to get too small. Don't let other people project their issues onto you. "They don't want you to win".

I took mine for about 6 months. No issues going off.

Don't tell people you are having surgery and you won't have to come up with comebacks. If people are saying this to you, they don't really care about you. Just cut them loose.

I had issues with eggs, but soft baked fish was easy to digest and was great. You kind of have to progress, or you won't get better, you have to start eating eventually. When I started eating soft foods. I took one bite, put my fork down and waited 90 seconds, then took another bite. Give your self time between bites and measure out a small portion. I started with the suggested 2 ounces and worked my way up.

Losing weight is not a stall. The more weight you lose in total, the slower your daily (I really don't suggest weighing every day unless you can detach from it), weekly and mothly loses are going to be. That is natural.

@@reducer623 Just be prepared, mine went all over the map and now they are finally working back to getting normal. I have a lot more weight to lose than you and I was much heavier to start and I had been that heavy for a very long time, so hopefully you normalize before I do.

Just stop weighing yourself. At this point healing should be your focus, not losing. I think embrace the stall is a crock, you don't have to embrace it, but you should learn how stalls help you in weight loss long term, it makes life easier.

I wouldn't go as far as say the word never to anyone! Just know there are support groups that you can go to that you find support. That's what I have to do. I don't have much support either. Even a sister who had the surgery herself is not supportive of me. So I have to find support elsewhere and that's ok. I was scared to. I waited 3 years myself now I'm on a journey all my appointments are almost scheduled determined1LD That is why I said probably before never, qualifying words matter, and so does reading comprehension. And statistically, someone that morbidly obese has less than a 5% chance of losing weight on their own and keeping it off. I just think being rude to me and mean to her in inappropriate. This supposed to uplifting and supportive saying things like that is uncalled for. determined1LD First I am not being mean to OP. Surgery is the best option for OP, and a lot of other people. I wasted years of my life going back and forth about surgery, gaining and losing weight. I am not quoting statistics to be mean or doom someone, FACTS ARE FACTS. I am encouraging OP to peruse surgery because that is going to give her the best long term outcome. It is basically impossible to lose weight and keep it off on your own, especially once you get over 300 pounds. Ask a Dr or Google. Your body will defend that weight and fight against you at every turn, the hormonal and set point change created by surgery forces your body to let go of that weight. The only people saying different are people trying to sell snake oil. As far as what I said to you, if you are going to try and correct someone, then be correct in the first place. Don't try to take me to task when you are just flat out wrong, then get mad when I clap back that you are wrong. I said "probably never" because yeah there is a chance that OP can lose the weight on her own, but that chance is very slim. Thus the reason I used probably because the probability is very low.

@@DADDY_BUTCH If you can't keep Water down you will be dehydrated or are already dehydrated, if you are dehydrated, then you will have an even harder time eating or keeping anything down. If your Dr won't see you go to the ER, TODAY. You can't go 5 days without hydration and nutrition and no one should be throwing up blood. @@mohairbears They are throwing up blood and you are talking about eat slow? Are you serious? This is a serious situation.

I wouldn't go as far as say the word never to anyone! Just know there are support groups that you can go to that you find support. That's what I have to do. I don't have much support either. Even a sister who had the surgery herself is not supportive of me. So I have to find support elsewhere and that's ok. I was scared to. I waited 3 years myself now I'm on a journey all my appointments are almost scheduled determined1LD That is why I said probably before never, qualifying words matter, and so does reading comprehension. And statistically, someone that morbidly obese has less than a 5% chance of losing weight on their own and keeping it off.

@@RobertD16 There was a point I was losing weight rapidly and my body was changing fast and it really scared me. I slowed my weight loss down on purpose, which I regret now but it seemed like the right choice at the time, I was terrified. Looking back it was just a lot of change very fast. Don't slow down, keep going, eventually your body will slow down and the rest of the weight will come off slow on its own.

If you have knee pain, Water is pretty much your only safe option. You can lose weight changing how you eat which may be easier than exercising in your case. Look here and see if they way of eating appeals to you at all. https://www.reddit.com/r/keto/

Call and demand to be seen or find another Dr and demand to be seen.

Yeah it is fine, your body is going to decide when your weight loss slows down, not you. Plus you are a man, enjoy the fast weight loss.

Exercise is important for health. I don't think anyone will discount that but it isn't important for losing weight, what you eat and in what amounts, counts for more. I think a lot of WLS patients lose muscle because their Protein recommendations are way too low. I see grown men on here striving for 60-80 grams of protein, and that isn't enough. And I totally agree that building and keeping muscle is important long term, mainly because it keeps your RMR/BMR up. I still think a lot of the focus on exercise is a stress inducer for people and counter productive. Drs and other tell people they have to work out in a gym to lose weight and that is just not true. There are all kinds of ways to increase your activity and exercise levels that don't include a gym. I have been to a regular gym I think 3 times since surgery, maybe 5.

@@overweight.and.tired At your height and weight you will probably never be able to lose the weight on your own and keep it off. The odds are just against you. Surgery is the best option for you. If you don't have the support of people around you that will make your recovery harder and it will make long term success harder. Getting at least the people in your house on board is the best thing for long term success, if you can. If not worry about your own health. You are the only person that has to live in your body, no one else.

Unfortunately, that is how it is for some people. Just because you are ready for change doesn't mean that they are. You might lose some people along the way. Just remember your health and recovery are the most important. It might be rough to lose people but in the end you will find out who really loves you. You can always post here, there are lots of people going through the same thing.

@@dede_mont The Wynn is not reasonable, it is one of the nicest Hotels on the strip. The Soups and food are divine. However any buffet will have Soup, and soup or baked fish are your best options. I have a bariatric card. I have never used it. I didn't eat out really until 3 or 4 months and by then I was able to make a decent in most things, so no point.

3 months, I did it by accident. Since I didn't die or burst into flames I kept doing it. Looking back I wish I had done it sooner, it makes getting fluids in so much easier. Just be careful you don't drink to fast with them. I think that is more of a real danger than air.

I like Maidenform. With the sleeve (no idea about RNY) you really can't wear a lot of compression, because it makes it too hard to eat. http://www.onehanesplace.com/shop/onehanesplace/maidenform-brand/maidenform-shapewear/shapewear-tops/flexees-shapewear-m1866 http://www.onehanesplace.com/shop/onehanesplace/maidenform-brand/maidenform-shapewear/thigh-shapewear/flexees-thigh-slimmer-m2355 I'm not sure how you are shaped. I have a very hourglass shape but my lower stomach is flabby this helps smooth me out and keep me tight. The ones above have the most control but you can see that diamond if you have on something tight and thin. http://www.onehanesplace.com/shop/onehanesplace/maidenform-brand/maidenform-shapewear/thigh-shapewear/control-it-slimmer-m12622 That one has control and should be undetectable under clothes, not as much control as the other though.

Counting by the week is pretty pointless, especially if you are a female. I had a period every 2 weeks for months, so the week before and the week of the period was a stall, then I would drop weight after my period ended. Going by the week it would have been nothing but stalls, but going by the month I lost every single month. The first 6 weeks are for healing and not for weight loss as told to me by my Dr. Most people can't eat enough calories in the first 6 weeks for the most part to support weight loss. Everyone is different so there is really no telling how much you might lose. Likely a low BMI you are probably looking at losing 10lbs, then probably 3-5 pounds a month after that.

Bypass wouldn't be my first choice either but if that was my only option, I would take it. If you already have acid issues, the sleeve will make your life a living hell. So do what your Dr suggests.

You can just see a primary doctor and have them do your blood work. I take a multi, Iron and b-12 sublingual. I have always had to take iron even before surgery because I struggle with anemia.

I would take the loan and not cash out. A loan is better and you pay yourself back, lower interest than CareCredit. You have to think if itemizing is really better than taking the standard deductions. Ask an accountant, a real tax accountant not someone at HR Block or whatever.

The buffet at the Wynn has great Soups. Just get a soup, even if you are at a buffet and don't stress about it. Also you can't really bring outside food into most resturants. If anything have a Protein shake before you go.