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He loves you, he wants you to succeed. It would be different if he was bringing home donuts and chocolate daily.
Men are horrible on making their motives clear. I suspect he just wants to be supportive, and doesn't know how. Right after I had surgery my DH brought home a 3 lb tub of Protein powder.... and was peacock proud. I had to educate him that 28 g sugar in one serving wasn't the kind I needed. I love the man even more since he uses that to make himself a Protein Drink every morning... LOL.
And yes, he says "can you have that, can you eat this". He is trying to learn this new stuff too!!!

Back in my previous life, I was on one of my many diets. I put dinner on the table along with some green Beans, and my mean ol' rotten ex husband yelled at me, "You ruin every meal with those damn vegetables!" Geeze, no wonder I left. (Well, that and mistaking me for a punching bag)
Hopefully you and your hubbyman can work this out, but you are going to have to be big girl and speak up for what you want. Bariatric surgery exposes the raw dynamics of a relationship. Is controlling, or just concerned about your success and is genuinely trying to help in his own clumsy way?

I have three favorites since starting pureed: grilled chicken and yellow pepper, lime, avacado, a little salsa and dab of Water (so it would actually puree!). pureed chicken, hummus & lots of lemon juice... last but not least low fat refried Beans mix in low fat sour cream and salsa (liquid part).. moist enough to get in, not too think

What's your MOTIVATION?
Is it for your children.. Ur spouse why did u choose this.. Ur your only competition, you know yourself better than anyone else stop cheating on yourself and choose to treat yourself GREAT. Straight up. Real talk that stinkin thinkin is going to put u back to the wt you were before u got the surgery. stick to the instructions or fail. I FAILED. I chose easy foods anything that would go down. The fills got expensive and even then never had a perfect fill. I gained my wt back and more. I chose to have the lap band because I became all kinds of sick w diabetes and my dad had just passed away from diabetes.
Now I'm getting a revision because i couldn't practice the instructions so I said so what just gonna slam a yogurt then a strawberry malt anything that would go down. U better not start cheating not even a little.. This first year u will need to learn self control better now than when u gain all ur wt back and more. So I'm gonna get this sleeve now and it will force me to only eat those portions. I'm just be real I was banded 4 years ago I pray y'all make the right choice to treat yourself to healthy instruction just take it one day at a time but don't ever cheat yourself

Hi all, my name is Julia. I've been on here for a little while now and have really enjoyed reading everyone's post. I am writing this from the hospital bed. I was sleeved this afternoon. So far, all is well. I went in at 1 and was in the recovery room around 3. Made it to my room around 5. I have had some pain on my right side but the nurse said that is from the hernia that was repaired while he did the sleeve. The only gas pain I had was when in the recovery, it has gone away since than. I have been getting around pretty good by myself and have even walked the halls a few time. The one thing that has just about drove me crazy is the fact that I can't have any liquids. My mouth is so dry, my throat hurts and I feel like my breath is horrible. I am so excited about this journey and would like wish everyone the best on their journey????
 
All smiles before the surgery and than coming back from the recovery room
I am 5 "7"
HW 236
SW 215
I had to do a 4 week Optifast
I can't wait to update my weight in a few months ????

If your bariatric team's plan is similar to mine you will be transitioning from soft foods to regular cooked meats and non-starchy veggies in a few days. That made all the difference for me, to be able to taste and enjoy familiar flavors and textures and having a little something to chew.
It is a shame how are lives are structured around meals and entertainment that involves meals. Hopefully you will gradually become comfortable with the reality that even before we had our surgeries, our bodies did not need nearly as much food as we were eating to survive, I use the word "food" loosely because I know that most of what I was eating could only be called "edible products' made in a factory.
We are constantly bombarded with food porn and lovely enticing advertising telling us how much we would enjoy a greasy Big Mac and fries, a sugary piece of birthday cake, or that big bag of salty pretzles. Did you know that commercial frosting, like what they use is store bakeries is mostly shortening, sugar, and vanilla. Would you sit down and eat a can of shortening?
So I finally figured out that all I was missing was grease, sugar, and salt. Since I have been eating real foods (things you can pick, dig, and chase) my health has greatly improved . Now I know what real food taste like and I enjoy it that way. Because I lost a hunk of weight, I am more flexible and can be more involved in my own life. I can even get down on the floor and play with my grandchildren.
You will find as time passes and your weight drops, that you have not lost yourself, but are discovering yourself and the potential that you did not know was hiding behind the excess weight that was making you miserable.
Why in the world would my 5'4" small framed body need a full plate of buffet food, second helpings of everything laden with salt and butter, plus a dessert or two? Oh, don't forget that I was washing it all down with a quart of soda.
Now I can eat three ounces of meat and a small helping of two non-starchy veggies. If I have a dessert later, it will be an apple and not apple pie a la mode, maybe with a second helping of that, too.
The amount of food I used to eat was rediculous. I found out that I feel waaaaaay better on less food, and I am not deprived at all. We had a cookout here at our house last summer and I ate 1/2 a grilled burger, a small piece of chicken, some sliced Tomato, and some fresh fruit salad later. I passed on the roasted corn, potato chips, and cupcakes, and nobody paid any attention or even cared.
Don't be so hard on yourself. As you get further along in your recovery you will develop ways to eat in a group without feeling so conspicuous. Scoot around the internet and find paleo. primal, low carb, Atkins versions of your favorite healthy foods. Unless they are a bunch of crude no-goodnics, your family is not going to hold your mouth open and shove macaroni and cheese down your throat.
Make skewers of cheese cubes cherry tomatoes, and a slice of dill or sweet pickle. Get creative and adjust your foods to fit you. For family gatherings, offer to bring something you can eat that they would enjoy, too.
For recipes, this forum has a recipes sub-forum. Explore Sparkpeople, Marks Daily Apple, and the World According to Eggface - all great resources.
I can drink Water maybe three ounces at a time, then I have to wait a few minutes before I drink some more. I am going through around 100 ounces a day.
If you can become a great conversationalist, you can carry the talk while others load their bellies. I don't think you will miss the bloat and reflux all that much. Chin up, now. You will make it through this. We are here to support you.

Congratulations! I'm not too far ahead of you. Mine is June 3rd, just one week to go.

When I joined this forum in December 2012, I was morbidly obese and in so much joint pain that I was probably only months away from being wheelchair bound. I was terrified of surgery and terrified of what lay ahead. I expected the lap band to fail as everything else had failed when it came to weight loss. But it was my only shot as I needed hip and knee surgery and no orthopedist would work on me at nearly 270 pounds and with a BMI over 50.
I decided my forum name would be gowalking because that was my wish..my desire, my hope. Walking, like breathing, is something we all take for granted till we can't do it. Then we realize how badly we are impacted when every step is torture.
Many of you know my story so I'll do a quick summary. I was banded on January 14th, 2013. I lost enough weight by June of 2013 to get my surgery scheduled. I had both hips replaced in October and after a long and difficult rehab, and another scary and unexpected surgery, I am finally as mobile as anyone else out there. No...I can't run and yes...I still have pain and issues but I no longer fear not being able to get to the grocery store, or running any kind of errand. If I can't catch a cab, I can walk. If there's a ton of traffic, I can walk down the steps to the subway and move around underground...which is sometimes the only way to get anywhere in New York City. That feeling of helplessness and panic is gone.
My knees are still with me. I am small enough now at 113 pounds that while I have bad arthritis in the knees, I can move them pretty darn good and have been able to delay knee replacement indefinitely for now.
So...here's the big news. For those folks who have travelled this journey with me on LapBandTalk and now BP, I always said that I wanted to visit England and see all the sights I've seen on TV since I was a teenager watching Upstairs/Downstairs which was the '70s version of Downton Abbey. I want to see it all from Buckingham Palace to Big Ben, to a boat ride on the Thames to a day in the English Countryside.
Friends...my trip is booked. I'm heading to London in July. I even booked a bike tour of Hyde Park, and St. James Park along with a walking tour of the East End and Whitechapel...where Jack the Ripper lurked. So I'm going to sit in coach on British Airways for 6+ hours and will be comfy because I fit. I'm going to walk and bike and explore and enjoy the city I've wanted to go to for nearly my whole life.
For anyone out there who is starting their weight loss journey or struggling with maintaining or in the midst of a stall or doing really well as I have been fortunate enough to be, just know that WLS has given me a second chance at life and I can't begin to explain how truly grateful I am. The numbers on the scale, the size of our jeans, all the goals big and small that we set for ourselves as we travel this road together makes me feel overwhelmed with good fortune. I've lost 150+ pounds and gained back my life. I think it was a pretty good deal, don't you?
One more thing....I can't thank all of you enough for being my support and strength these past two and a half years. I've made some wonderful friendships here and value each and every one of you. I did not do this alone and wanted to make sure to show you all my appreciation. I just wish some of the folks who helped me back in the beginning were still here to see this post and know how thrilled I am to finally say that I'm getting a big item on my bucket list checked off.
Have a great holiday weekend everyone and thanks for reading this long, but heartfelt post.

I've been obsessed with not only my "last meal" but just any meal I may not be able to have again. My mom had the rny 10 years ago and never wanted/tolerated beef or poultry ever again. All my cravings have been like really bad things so I've been having them in tiny amounts over the past 6 months of my journey. I just finished all my requirements a week ago, now I'm just waiting to schedule my last appt with my surgeon. I think it's normal to bug out a little about this. Just a form of anxiety ya know?