Lexigurl82

I am going on Aetna on January 1st, has anyone done the 3 month multi discipline or 6 month supervised dieting? What did they require that you do?

I had Aetna for my surgery and did the 3 month supervised diet. Every plan and surgeon is different. My plan required 4 visits with the surgeon, 3 visits with a dietician or NUT, a psyc exam, pulmonary function test, sleep apnea test, EKG and Chest X-ray. Good luck!

in addition to what everyone has said above me, try doing different exercises as well. Switching up your exercise routines can also shock your system and break your stall. good luck!

That's amazing! I have been working on my current job for nearly 3 years. I ran into a fellow co-worker who said they did not recognize me. I'm only 6 months out, down 73 pounds from my highest weight, 63 pounds since surgery.

In the beginning he was nice and loving. After some years he changed. But by then i loved him and walking away never occured to me. I know now that it was for the best and i actually wish it happened sooner so i would have been younger. But this is still pretty new and has been a hard habbit to break. He was my best friend

Sophie, I was/am in the same boat as you. I filed for the divorce, which is still pending. For a while now, my soon to be ex-husband complained about how low my sex drive was. He also complained when he would introduce new positions/toys that I hated because it felt degrading or was just downright painful. Because he was my husband, I would attempt them and often times felt disgusted with him during sex. Often times I would look up at the ceiling wishing it was over. My husband is addicted to porn and he refused to seek help for it. He convinced himself he was not addicted despite the fact that he looked at it day and night. We were married for 7 years. And we do not communicate. I have not spoken to my husband since I left home on 12/31/2015. Unless you have kids with him, I don't think it's best for you to talk to him. And even if you do have kids, your conversation needs to be short and to the point. The fact that he has moved on this quickly lets me know that he was never your best friend and he didnt love you. I had to come to that realization myself. My husband told me he loved me but truth is, he never loved me. He just didn't want to be alone. A real man would not do what your husband has done to you. One thing I know, sex don't keep a man. So even if your husband starts this relationship with the topless dancer, eventually that well will dry up--trust me. It's so sad how people think the grass is greener on the other side until they see it is fertilized with SH**. Honey, I say cut your communication with this loser and cut your losses. He is a jerk and abusive. One day he's going to look back and wish he never left. You deserve so much better than this guy. Realize your worth. I am starting to realize mine.

I had diarrhea for the 1st few days after my VSG surgery. Eventually it did stop. I would call the doctor to make sure.

I had my surgery in December 2015, 50+ pounds down. I am the same old goofy and loving person. However, I did become less tolerant of BS with my new found confidence. I am going thru a divorce currently. My soon to be ex husband felt that I was using the surgery as a way to leave him. He called it my exit strategy. He was wrong. After my surgery I told him how unhappy I was with the way he was treating me. Me having the surgery had nothing to do with it. I have 100 more pounds to lose. Turns out he was cheating on me during our marriage and even when we separated. He didn't make one attempt to make our marriage work but I made several. Now we are in divorce. I hurt everyday but in the end I know it's for the best. I am learning that people treated me different because I was big and now they are treating me different because I am losing weight. I will continue to be me, but I will no longer accept anyone's foolishness, even if that means leaving them behind.

I am so sorry you were denied. I am glad your surgeon will do a next level appeal. Most times, the insurance company will approve it once an appeal is done. I hope you get the approval for your surgery. Please keep us posted.

you guys....you rock...I thank you so much from the bottom of my heart...I hope to move past this, I really do. My in laws have turned on me even though they know everything that piece of crap did to me and my kid. Friends no longer call me and when they do, they call to gossip. I don't plan on dating anytime soon but I hope the next guy comes along and loves me and my kid for US. Everyday it gets tougher but I am still standing. You guys mean so much to me, so glad I signed up for this website.

It's been a while since I've posted. I had my VSG surgery on 12/2/2015. On 12/31/2015 I and my daughter left home because my marriage fell completely apart. I told my husband (soon to be ex-husband) I was unhappy with how he was treating me and he blamed my surgery as a way for me to leave him. Long story short, when I left home, my husband started reaching out to his old flames. Not once did he call me or ask me to stay. Not one time did he say I love or let's work it out. I had enough and filed for a divorce the end of January 2016. Since then, he has made my life hell and and my weight loss suffered a bit. I was too depressed and worn out to work out. Our court date is scheduled for 3/21/2016, which is a temporary hearing. I AM SO OVERWHELMED. I'm balancing a full time job, being a mother to a teenager and trying to handle legal issues at the same time. I just want my soon to be ex-husband out of my life. I hurt because I was hoping he'd come around and attempt to work things out but I now know it isn't going to happen. A mutual friend of ours called me last week to tell me my husband has a girlfriend--and we haven't even divorced yet. He's moved on while I am struggling to. How do I move on? I don't even know if I can trust another person to get close to me.

good for you to make the decision to walk away...I agree with everyone else on this post--your BFF was full of crap and was just looking for a way to cheat. Just like someone else mentioned above, if you and the BFF cannot have a conversation in front of his wife, then it's probably inappropriate. And if you have to ask yourself if a conversation or behavior is inappropriate, then it probably is. I don't know you but I do know that you deserve so much more than what the BFF can offer you at this time.

I told a few co-workers and my supervisor. I haven't gone back to work yet but if anyone asks, I will be open about it. However I won't volunteer it.

nope, doesn't bother me because before my sleeve, I could eat just as much as anyone else, possibly more...I didn't know how to show restraint, which is why I decided to have weight loss surgery...previously I didn't consider myself a glutton...I just thought that I enjoyed food...but as I continued in my weight loss journey, I realized that the amount I ate was out of pure greed and gluttony...I am 2 weeks out and I am so thankful for my sleeve. I feel blessed to have another chance to get my mind and body back in good shape.

I decided to get the sleeve because I read that many people suffer with nutrient absorption and Vitamin deficiencies from the bypass. I'm 2 weeks out, 16 pounds down. So far so good.

are you supposed to be on soft foods? I ask because I am almost 3 weeks post op and I'm supposed to be on liquids and Soups. I can have pureed food around week 5. You probably got sick from eating and drinking at the same time or maybe you need more time on liquids. If your surgeon or NUT says you can have soft food, then remember to have liquids 30-45 minutes before and after eating, that way you're getting in all your nutrients. Good luck!

My surgeon never gives his patient a drain. I was sleeved on 12/2/2015

I'm sort of in the same boat. My husband asked me a few times before surgery would I leave him once I got skinny. We have been married for almost 7 years and had been having issues way before I considered weight loss surgery. I recently told him I was unhappy and he says that he feels the surgery was my "exit strategy". I ignore him when he tells me that I realized that he is refusing to take responsibility for his actions and him mentioning my surgery is his way of deflection. I decided that we needed to separate for a little while to see if the marriage is worth saving. I do love my husband and I don't know what the future will bring, but I refuse to live the rest of my life being unhappy. I hope everything works out with you and your SO.

I'm 2 weeks post op and out of my 4 incisions all of them have closed except the biggest one...the biggest one actually looks like a freaking wound. I had my 2 week follow up on yesterday and had my surgeon look at it. He said he thought it was healing well and for me to keep it clean and place neosporin on it. I just wish the biggest incision would heal so that I can take a hot bath or get in an indoor pool lol.

try some refried Beans made with reduced sodium chicken broth. I am 2 weeks out and starving lol. So I made some refried Beans with reduced sodium broth and although I couldn't have but a few spoons of it, it satisfied my hunger and went down well. It also has Fiber and Protein in it but you can add some unflavored Protein powder to it so that you can increase your daily Protein intake.

I'm 2 weeks post op as well. You can add cheese and milk but try to make the egg soft as possible. Whether you scramble it or not, take small bites and chew constantly. I also had a "soft egg" a few days ago with cheese and when I took bite without chewing it constantly, it felt like it was stuck in my chest. So now, I take a small bite and chew it as much as possible before swallowing it. I hope this helps.

it stops in time. I'm 2 weeks post op and during my first week my stomach would make the loudest gurgling sounds after I would have any liquids or broth. now that I'm in my second week I no longer hear those loud stomach sounds.If you have prevacid continue to take them. I was given an acid reducer for surgery too but haven't taken it since the stomach sounds stopped. hang in there.

same here...it's something we have to adjust to. Just to eat a boiled egg that darn near in mashed potato form I have to take the tiniest bite I have ever taken....a baby can probably eat more than me right now lol...I'm only 2 weeks post op. I think in time we'll be able to take a bigger bite but it won't be much bigger.

So would it be ok to eat apple sauce or chicken Soup blended purified?

it's best that you ask your surgeon. My surgeon has me on milk and clear liquids, broth, sugar free juice for 2 weeks. On Week 3 I can have low fat cream soup, cream of wheat, grits or Tomato Soup. I am still in my first week and would love to have something pureed but I don't want to take a risk since the stomach is still healing.

same here...I was sleeved on 12/2. My stomach makes a gurgling sound everytime I consume something. I am supposed to consume 32 ounces of skim or 1% milk and 32 ounces of Clear liquids daily. It is a constant struggle but Im sure in time it will get better. I also have diarrhea which is something the nurse told me I would have for a few days. The pain meds don't help with incision pain so I don't even take them. If I need to take any pain meds I just use Tylenol. This surgery is a new outlook for us but it is not the easy way out.

I am sorry this happened to you. How does your husband feel about the surgery? Does he want you to have it? Is he supportive? I ask because it kind of sounds like he doesn't want you to have the surgery and telling his parents and yours might have been a poor cry out for help. Sit him down and explain to him that what he did to you really hurt your feelings. Hopefully he will see where he went wrong and the both of you can move on.

@@Lexigurl82 I won! Surgery is scheduled for Dec 8th!

Congrats!!!