lara1

yes! i know we all deal with this kind of stuff in some form or fashion - i ignored them for a couple weeks and then they caught me in a group setting one day and i quite plainly told them in front of of the whole group that i did not appreciate their remarks and to keep their "advice" on my weight loss to themselves and to keep their fake compliments to themselves as well. and then i turned my head up and walked off like a boss. It was EPIC. hahahaha and liberating. that was last week and a few of my other co-workers have come up to me and told me how much they admired me for saying that to them that i am not the only person they have been bullying and that now i hope others will put them in their place as well. I do know they haven't been coming around as much so that is a bonus! But i was very professional and very calm that day (so not me!) and i hope that this puts an end to the fake crap around here - Granny always said - "if you cain't be nice I'll whip your ass" hahahahahaha! I'm pretty sure she meant that other thing about doing unto others or saying nice things ... or some such.... Have a good Monday folks!

plastic surgery for ugly surgery for weight loss can't fix stupid or rude not even with duct tape

This is the exact reason I have not. and will not tell anyone that I had WLS. I am not embarrassed at all, I actually proud that I made a decision to improve my life. I just hate the ignorance of people. I mean if I were an alcoholic and went to treatment, do you think people would be rude about it? No they would be supportive. Same isn't true for weight related issues and addictions to food. It's sad. I rather keep people guessing "what's she doing to look so fab"....really keep the gossip wheel turning.

Yes. Funny it was hard to find a before picture as I always did my best to avoid pictures.  
The pictures are pre VSG and 3 weeks post Tummy Tuck and breast lift

I am just over 8 months post VSG. I am lucky to not have had any complications. I was able to get to my goal weight. I chose to have a breast lift and Tummy Tuck at 7 months post sleeve which I know is early but the right choice. I am 6 weeks post plastic surgery and just had my follow up appointment, I laughed when she sternly told me to not lose anymore weight. I can honestly say I would never have thought that I would ever have heard that again in my life. I do notice that it has been a full life style change but I am glad that I do feel I live a regular life. I know that I am sure to have obstacles over the years to come and it could be easy to fall back into old habits but I am sure my new tummy will keep me in line. This forum has been a great support and I am glad to have found it.

I am 4 months out and have never felt deprived. Since I generally don't have a problem getting in my Protein I don't feel bad stealing a bite or two from my husband of things that I like but are not on the diet. I will have a 1/4 of a mozzarella stick, 1 french fry, 2 bites of ice cream, a Dorito or two. (not at the same time). My husband got me 4 chocolate covered strawberries for my birthday. I had 1 a day. I have had scalped pizza. This gives me a taste of things so I don't feel deprived but I don't have enough to derail my weight loss.
The only thing I have missed a little bit has been alcohol. We went on vacation in mid-May and had a hot tub. I would have been nice to have a glass of wine. I was tempted to have half a glass for my birthday at the end of May. Per my surgeon I can't have alcohol until August 2nd. I can wait until then. I put the alcohol in the sorta miss it/head hunger category but not strong enough miss to to call it feeling deprived.

As I have read many times on these forums, they perform surgery on your stomach, not your brain. Your emotional issues with food will remain post-op and that is something you will really struggle with and have to work on.
In my early months, I often felt sad and frustrated that I could no longer turn to food for comfort. I also was disappointed when I could only eat a few bites of my favorite foods or not eat them at all. The good news is, I did adjust, both mentally and physically. Now I am 9 months out and I rarely feel deprived. But, yes, it is highly likely that you will deprived in the beginning and will have to make a lot of mental adjustments to go along with the physical changes.

I never did feel deprived. After the first 2 months of healing, (not lying, that part is an adjustment), I could eat pretty much what I liked as long as it was in small quantities. I supplemented Protein to meet my goal of 80+g per day, (still do) so I can have that variety in my diet. I LOVE the fact that now that I'm in maintenance, I can eat relatively clean during the week and party on the weekends and stay a size 4! SO worth giving up that 2nd 3rd or 4th slice of pizza!

@@bikrchk I want to be clear that, past the restricted food phases, I never really felt deprived about WHAT I could eat (though I did miss some of my more high-carb favorites) as much as I felt deprived about HOW MUCH I could eat. It was very frustrating to me to sit down to a delicious meal of one of my favorite foods and only be able to eat a few bites. I had been a binge eater prior to surgery so, eating massive AMOUNTS of food had been a big source of comfort for me, along with just being able to eat a lot of something when I really enjoyed it.
Let me give you an example. I used to LOVE lasagna. It was one of my absolute favorite foods. My in-laws always made a big lasagna dinner for Christmas. My parents, husband, and I would go over on Christmas evening and enjoy this large meal. I had my surgery on Sept 1, so this past Christmas, I was almost 4 months post-op. I was cleared to eat all foods by then, so that wasn't a problem. But of course, all I could actually manage to eat was the filling from maybe one square of lasagna. No noodles and obviously no garlic bread. I definitely felt deprived in that situation. All of my loved-ones around me partaking of one of my favorite foods and I could hardly eat any of it.
Now, I don't think I'd feel that way. I've definitely come a long way since then in terms of accepting what I can eat, how much I can eat, and not depending on food so much in social situations. But it was definitely a period of adjustment for me.

Sometimes it is difficult to be around other people when they eat... my dad is an amazing cook so when he makes a new recipe I want to try it and then remember I am only 3 weeks post-op and very limited. Or activities that revolve around food... I avoid those as well because I know it will tempt me to be bad.
Overall though I would say once I could move into the "soft food" stage I felt A LOT less deprived. Hated the liquid pre-op! But now that I can eat string cheese, eggs, lunch meat, chili, chicken, tuna fish it is much better. Although one thing my surgeon put on the soft foods list that I must be careful with is mashed potatoes... I could eat 5+ cups of them before surgery on thanksgiving... now I can eat about 1-2oz before I get a pain... the pain doesn't make my brain NOT want to eat more, but it makes me stop... So with some things you will feel deprived... if they were trigger foods before.
One of the reasons I got the surgery was so I could only eat a little of something and be satisfied... I feel like I have more control and freedom over food now in that I'm not a slave to it. But I know I still have to check myself with certain foods... I think for myself, and probably you too, that we need to rethink WHY is food so important to me... food is fuel, not my friend. I have to repeat that mantra to myself all the time and it's still hard to believe.

I have found that most of the foods I have felt deprived from make me sick anyhow. So no, I don't!! I'd rather eat healthy than puke!