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Bathroom stalls are huge!

Bathroom stalls are huge!

Bathroom stalls are huge!

In a one word response...YES! lol As I prepared for surgery it seemed as though my life revolved around the process. At 4 months post-op I have settled into a routine. I still visit here and read and respond to posts and I attend my monthly support group meeting but my life is settling into the new normal.
As time passes you will most likely settle into a routine and life will carry on.

I don't eat anything before exercise..I definitely have Protein after for muscle repair.

I was in a 4 month long relationship earlier this year that meant a little something to me. This is a man my friends thought was awesome, we did lots of outdoorsy things together, he taught me to fish, make beer, we camped and hiked and he rode horses with me - all sorts of stuff like that. My lil dog was always welcome at his house and she adored him.
It ended, from my perspective because he had some weird stuff in his life and his reaction to it indicated not such a great mental stability. I mean, it was clear he was becoming paranoid and a bunch of other strange ideas and thoughts about things and so when his young daughter came to town I conveniently backed away as he was very uncomfortable about her knowing he was dating anyway. It was clearly mutual, so we decided to part ways.
Anyway, I got pissed off because he made a big deal out of parting as friends, but didn't return my call(s) when i had something relevant and somewhat important to discuss with him.... so I thought...okey dokey, doesn't want to remain friends, okay that is how it is. Then, I get an email from POF (I have a hidden profile that I never do anything with) about ultra matches or some stupid thing and there he is with a picture of himself on MY horse. Pissed me off so I asked him to not use the photo of my horse via message. That was immature on my part, but dammit, that was MY horse and it just grated on me when i was having a bad day earlier this week.
That triggered him to call me and we talked for about 45 minutes. I found out that his mental/emotional situation is even worse and the reason (from his perspective) that our relationship ended was because I didn't agree to go to this very important annual awards banquet that his daugher, mother, and many friends were going to be at. I didn't feel comfortable that big deal event being the first place to meet the most important people in his life, especially since by then things were clearly heading down hill, but he interpeted it entirely differently. He interpeted it that if I wasn't going to be #1, I wouldn't play. Wow. I was trying to be respectful of boundaries actually and NOT disrespect these other primary relationships but he read it completely opposite. I distinctly remember explaining why I preferred to not go and wait and see how things went in our relationship (after daughter went home) and maybe meeting her in the fall when she came back which just seemed like a more lowkey way to handle it.
Anyway, we had a peaceful 45 minute call and I guess with some closure in the sense that I really did think we were compatible (except for his paranoid and anti social world views!) and those same attributes were reaffirmed and perhaps amplified. He did finally say that our basic problem is that I love people and want to socialize and go out and he wants to move to the backcountry somewhere and never have to deal with ANYBODY. Yeah, that is true, I would die of loneliness in the godforsaken world he wants to create for himself.
So, in the end, I relented and said ok, use the pic of my horse. I am not jealous, I am just disappointed (as always) that it didn't work out between us. He texted me afterwards and said he was so glad we talked because it clarified in his mind that he really didn't belong on the dating world. While I tend to agree, I NEVER said anything even remotely like that and i don't think he is a lost cause but this goes back to that very negative spin on everything.
It continues to astound me how many sad and lonely souls there are out there. I care for this man because I also saw his many good traits (work ethic, incredible old style skills, jack of all trades kind of thing) but... he is not thinking right.
I dodged that bullet, as the saying goes. Always try to find someone less nuts then you are... and even he admitted that he is in quite an emotional state and has been for at least half a yaer.
Man, I hate drama. Good news is he is unlikely to call again since it was my asking to not use my picture of my horse on his profile and I won't do THAT again. Okay, if he puts up a picture of my cute little dog, that will piss me off but... I will just try to bite my tongue keep it to myself.

I love it! Although I should confess that I never could keep mine alive for very long. And I took it very hard. ????

so far I have gone from a 9 to an 8. I no longer need wide width either!

Very good analogy and love the Bless Their Hearts! The internet is not for the faint of heart...lmao

I, myself, h ave gotten many angry comments, some name calling and some downright nasty messages. When I disagree with someone, I always qualify with an "I statement". I don't tell someone what to do unless I am advising they ask their surgeon or nutritionist.
I always preface my comments with "For me..." or "what I do is..." It doesn't always work though because for those who get so upset, I believe they are posting to get permission to do what they want to do anyway.
There are a lot of you that I really pay close attention to what you say because you have your acts together and some I just shake my head and carry on. Those who speak the unfiltered truth are heroes lol They keep it real and don't hold back any punches.
I am not at my goal weight but I have lost 94 pounds so far and I did my research before having my surgery. I am a pretty smart cookie and have learned more about nutrition through self-teaching than I ever knew my whole life.
The experience here isn't always the most pleasant but that is only 10% of the time. The ones who have such meltdowns are the ones who screw up the averages for success in my opinion. Those I am learning to not try to help as they don't want my help.
Now, for me, I try to eat fresh, non-processed food but of course I am not telling anyone else that is the way they have to do it. However, trying to eat the same as you did before surgery just less of it is insanity. For those in maintenance phases, who are successful, I am sure you are continuing your healthy eating habits you developed while getting to goal weight. Yes, I have had Wendy's chili. I just no longer add the double cheeseburger, large fries and top it off with a large soda or frosty. If I eat the whole small chili my sleeve hurts, so I don't.

Has been very helpful. I also see mine at post-op appts. I can email her anytime if I have a question. Good to have a partner in this with an education in nutrition, not just everything I read here.

You newest project IS you! Congrats and good luck!

The 3 week stall, if not fer here I would have panicked.
Love the support here, and love helping others and giving ideas.
Almost learn something every day and I def did my research before surgery. This board is amazing!

The 3 week stall, if not fer here I would have panicked.
Love the support here, and love helping others and giving ideas.
Almost learn something every day and I def did my research before surgery. This board is amazing!

The 3 week stall, if not fer here I would have panicked.
Love the support here, and love helping others and giving ideas.
Almost learn something every day and I def did my research before surgery. This board is amazing!

Diabetes management is amazing after surgery but not all are cleared by surgery or weight loss.
For me, I was told to stop all meds (non-insulin dependent Type 2) day of surgery. Blood sugar has been stable for the 5 months since.
I am, also in the normal cholesterol range and came off those meds at 3 months out. On a half dose of hbp med and soon to be off it as well.
This is an amazing opportunity and the reason I did the surgery to be more healthy and that is definitely working!!

The 3 week stall, if not fer here I would have panicked.
Love the support here, and love helping others and giving ideas.
Almost learn something every day and I def did my research before surgery. This board is amazing!

@@CJ Porter
ME, ME, ME
my PCP told me to stop diabetes meds right after surgery
my A1C (right word???, frequently say it wrong)
for the past 4 years fluctuates between 4.5 - 4.9!!!!!
wonderful feeling not taking meds
this was "my situation"
your docs plan sounds great about reducing your meds
till eventually being off all meds
that's great!!
"stories" concerning diabetes/meds will vary
that's ok - the one thing we all have in common is that we're all different!!
good luck
kathy

So happy for you guys!!

So happy for you guys!!

So happy for you guys!!

So happy for you guys!!

Very good analogy and love the Bless Their Hearts! The internet is not for the faint of heart...lmao

So happy for you guys!!

Ah.. thank you all for your input.. I am so hopeful after reading your posts. I will keep moving forward and look forward to what the is in store for us