Kcos626

I had my lapband surgery in 2010. I started at 250lbs and lost about a hundred pounds over the next year. After that i somehow very quickly lost a lot more weight and was down to 120 lbs. ( i am 5'6). I was no longer getting complimentary comments, all i was getting was " you're too skinny" " we are worried about you" and from not so nice people "you look like a crackhead". I myself was happy and loving it, and my doctor saw no issue with it. But hearing from others definitly puts thoughts into your head, and as a people pleaser myself, at the urging of my family, i had the band loosened. BIG MISTAKE! I quickly over 7 months put 60 pounds. I was unhappy, unmotivated and depressed. I went to see my doctor and he said its ultimately my decision and as long as im getting the proper nutrition, it shouldnt be a problem. I had it tightened a few days ago and am once again on the journey! My point being, dont let what others say bother you! As long as you are happy and know you are healthy, big middle finger up to all the haters! Good luck to you!

I had my lapband surgery in 2010. I started at 250lbs and lost about a hundred pounds over the next year. After that i somehow very quickly lost a lot more weight and was down to 120 lbs. ( i am 5'6). I was no longer getting complimentary comments, all i was getting was " you're too skinny" " we are worried about you" and from not so nice people "you look like a crackhead". I myself was happy and loving it, and my doctor saw no issue with it. But hearing from others definitly puts thoughts into your head, and as a people pleaser myself, at the urging of my family, i had the band loosened. BIG MISTAKE! I quickly over 7 months put 60 pounds. I was unhappy, unmotivated and depressed. I went to see my doctor and he said its ultimately my decision and as long as im getting the proper nutrition, it shouldnt be a problem. I had it tightened a few days ago and am once again on the journey! My point being, dont let what others say bother you! As long as you are happy and know you are healthy, big middle finger up to all the haters! Good luck to you!

I had my lapband surgery in 2010. I started at 250lbs and lost about a hundred pounds over the next year. After that i somehow very quickly lost a lot more weight and was down to 120 lbs. ( i am 5'6). I was no longer getting complimentary comments, all i was getting was " you're too skinny" " we are worried about you" and from not so nice people "you look like a crackhead". I myself was happy and loving it, and my doctor saw no issue with it. But hearing from others definitly puts thoughts into your head, and as a people pleaser myself, at the urging of my family, i had the band loosened. BIG MISTAKE! I quickly over 7 months put 60 pounds. I was unhappy, unmotivated and depressed. I went to see my doctor and he said its ultimately my decision and as long as im getting the proper nutrition, it shouldnt be a problem. I had it tightened a few days ago and am once again on the journey! My point being, dont let what others say bother you! As long as you are happy and know you are healthy, big middle finger up to all the haters! Good luck to you!

I had my lapband surgery in 2010. I started at 250lbs and lost about a hundred pounds over the next year. After that i somehow very quickly lost a lot more weight and was down to 120 lbs. ( i am 5'6). I was no longer getting complimentary comments, all i was getting was " you're too skinny" " we are worried about you" and from not so nice people "you look like a crackhead". I myself was happy and loving it, and my doctor saw no issue with it. But hearing from others definitly puts thoughts into your head, and as a people pleaser myself, at the urging of my family, i had the band loosened. BIG MISTAKE! I quickly over 7 months put 60 pounds. I was unhappy, unmotivated and depressed. I went to see my doctor and he said its ultimately my decision and as long as im getting the proper nutrition, it shouldnt be a problem. I had it tightened a few days ago and am once again on the journey! My point being, dont let what others say bother you! As long as you are happy and know you are healthy, big middle finger up to all the haters! Good luck to you!

I completely agree with Woo Woo. It sounds like he is feeling insecure. My hubby gets the same way (and I haven't even had surgery yet). Just do everything you can to reassure him that you only have eyes for him. And remind him that you only want to lose weight to be healthier and happier with yourself and better in the bedroom for him. He obviously "likes skinny girls" because you were thin when you met. Losing weight should not jeopardize your relationship. Just boost his ego as much as you can.

It's an insecurity thing, don't sweat it.
Just make sure he knows how great you think he is. Also , whatever you do, don't lecture him about his eating or weight.

I had my lapband surgery in 2010. I started at 250lbs and lost about a hundred pounds over the next year. After that i somehow very quickly lost a lot more weight and was down to 120 lbs. ( i am 5'6). I was no longer getting complimentary comments, all i was getting was " you're too skinny" " we are worried about you" and from not so nice people "you look like a crackhead". I myself was happy and loving it, and my doctor saw no issue with it. But hearing from others definitly puts thoughts into your head, and as a people pleaser myself, at the urging of my family, i had the band loosened. BIG MISTAKE! I quickly over 7 months put 60 pounds. I was unhappy, unmotivated and depressed. I went to see my doctor and he said its ultimately my decision and as long as im getting the proper nutrition, it shouldnt be a problem. I had it tightened a few days ago and am once again on the journey! My point being, dont let what others say bother you! As long as you are happy and know you are healthy, big middle finger up to all the haters! Good luck to you!

my thinking is you can't please everyone. I have been getting the looks and some comments myself the past few months and now its every wk from ones who are obese themselves..some has said "STOP" your getting to little! yet there's others who are not over weight are telling me to "keep it up" your looking great! ugh...there was a intersting comment I heard from a dr I can't remember where but it was recent and his comment was "some people in general has a distorted view on body image or size (weight or numbers) especially in the media bc of a certain group of skinny models..and so people are very judgemental now days on what each person "thinks is the JUST RIGHT size"....you need to decide for yourself and no one else where you want to be that is healthy. if ppl are used to seeing us as big, obese, overwheight or however the term is used when they see us shedding close to 100 pds plus it's going to shake them up or get them jealous or what have ya. I had some one asked me how far I was going down and I said "when my body see's fit to be balanced and happy it will stop on it's own and maintain"...2 of my gf's tell me you can't ever lose to much weight and laughed. it's hard on others to see us change but I decided I'll be the judge on what's enough for me and of course with the guidance of my surgeon which he has never set a certain amount to lose he has left that up to me. hope this helps ya..

I never understand why people feel the need to interject themselves into other people's business/lives when they have not been "invited" there. Most of the time I can get away with big smile and a "ain't it great!" and walk off, but then there are times where it is all I can do to hold my tongue. Because my tongue is a nasty one, when aroused in the wrong way. And then I can't take it back. And then I have to live with the consequences of my tongue. And then I have to STILL live with the morons with which I have just engaged. It always comes back to me. I guess I'll just smile and be happy with ME!

I believe there is no specific goal weight for a given height. If you research BMI, there is one calculation, but the "optimal" range depends on gender and age. Weight also varies depending on how much muscle you have on your frame. So, I would like to see you go with how YOU feel and your personal aesthetic.

People I work with know about my surgery and now that I'm down 75 lbs I'm getting them same type of comments. (Don't lose too much weight.......you should stay right where you are now, etc.)
I'm still considered "obese" by all the height/weight charts and I've still got fat on me so I'm pressing on. Not that I really have a choice, the weight just keeps coming off!
It's weird how people behave when they see a change in someone. It's got to be related to seeing a difference in a short period of time because no one is going around telling other long term thin people these things.
I'm going with Kcos626's advice and giving them the finger from here on out.

I had my lapband surgery in 2010. I started at 250lbs and lost about a hundred pounds over the next year. After that i somehow very quickly lost a lot more weight and was down to 120 lbs. ( i am 5'6). I was no longer getting complimentary comments, all i was getting was " you're too skinny" " we are worried about you" and from not so nice people "you look like a crackhead". I myself was happy and loving it, and my doctor saw no issue with it. But hearing from others definitly puts thoughts into your head, and as a people pleaser myself, at the urging of my family, i had the band loosened. BIG MISTAKE! I quickly over 7 months put 60 pounds. I was unhappy, unmotivated and depressed. I went to see my doctor and he said its ultimately my decision and as long as im getting the proper nutrition, it shouldnt be a problem. I had it tightened a few days ago and am once again on the journey! My point being, dont let what others say bother you! As long as you are happy and know you are healthy, big middle finger up to all the haters! Good luck to you!

I had my lapband surgery in 2010. I started at 250lbs and lost about a hundred pounds over the next year. After that i somehow very quickly lost a lot more weight and was down to 120 lbs. ( i am 5'6). I was no longer getting complimentary comments, all i was getting was " you're too skinny" " we are worried about you" and from not so nice people "you look like a crackhead". I myself was happy and loving it, and my doctor saw no issue with it. But hearing from others definitly puts thoughts into your head, and as a people pleaser myself, at the urging of my family, i had the band loosened. BIG MISTAKE! I quickly over 7 months put 60 pounds. I was unhappy, unmotivated and depressed. I went to see my doctor and he said its ultimately my decision and as long as im getting the proper nutrition, it shouldnt be a problem. I had it tightened a few days ago and am once again on the journey! My point being, dont let what others say bother you! As long as you are happy and know you are healthy, big middle finger up to all the haters! Good luck to you!

I had my lapband surgery in 2010. I started at 250lbs and lost about a hundred pounds over the next year. After that i somehow very quickly lost a lot more weight and was down to 120 lbs. ( i am 5'6). I was no longer getting complimentary comments, all i was getting was " you're too skinny" " we are worried about you" and from not so nice people "you look like a crackhead". I myself was happy and loving it, and my doctor saw no issue with it. But hearing from others definitly puts thoughts into your head, and as a people pleaser myself, at the urging of my family, i had the band loosened. BIG MISTAKE! I quickly over 7 months put 60 pounds. I was unhappy, unmotivated and depressed. I went to see my doctor and he said its ultimately my decision and as long as im getting the proper nutrition, it shouldnt be a problem. I had it tightened a few days ago and am once again on the journey! My point being, dont let what others say bother you! As long as you are happy and know you are healthy, big middle finger up to all the haters! Good luck to you!