EmpoweredAmy

snowkitten, We all do that sometimes. I just have a few ideas that might help you get back on track. These are just about changes in your mindset that might help.
One is the thought that you’re a failure. (First of all, you’re not!). I wonder if you could get over this by giving yourself more time. Here’s what I mean. I would worry that since said you said you feel like a failure because of your weight (278). Even if you ate perfectly for the next couple months and lost an incredible 20 pounds, you’d still be at 258…which makes me wonder if maybe that would make you feel like a failure, even though you’d be doing amazingly. So maybe you could think about different goals…like patience, and taking it one day at a time, instead of where are you now versus where you want to be in two or five years from now.
Another is to think about whether the fear of failure is holding you back. If it is, acknowledge it…and then get over it. Any of us could fail. Nothing is guaranteed in life, and you can’t control everything. But you can control yourself. So, (easier said than done) if you let go of the things you can’t control, you may find yourself in a better position to control what you can – that is, your WLS diet.
You can do it. Think of it as an opportunity – you have the power to do something incredible, and difficult, and so rewarding!

Hertsukfem31, I'm another with depression. My post-surgery plan was to make sure I walked around my neighborhood every day. Sometime I could only manage 10 minute, but some days it was a lot more. But I got up and moved. That will physically help some of the depressive symptoms (not the disease itself).
Then anytime I craved chewing, I'd eat sugar-free Jello or a sugar free Popsicle, both of which were suggested by my Very Strict surgeon. They even gave me Popsicles in the hospital! They sated my chewing craving.
Lastly, I created a support team. I asked friends to come visit me, I spoke openly with my boss and co-workers, I have a email blog to let my friends know how I'm doing, and when I'm not doing well at all. Some will send me joke, or funny YouTube videos, or come by to visit. One friend, who is a sommalier, came up with the idea of having a Water tasting night. I'd stay hydrated while discussing the differences between all the brands of bottled Water. It makes me smile just to think about it.
None of this had made the recovery any easier, or my fight with the desire to eat any simpler, but they have been successful at keeping the worst parts of my depression at bay.
Don't give up! Keep trying new things, and remember to move and stay hydrated! YOU CAN DO THIS! I BELIEVE IN YOU!

Hertsukfem31, I'm another with depression. My post-surgery plan was to make sure I walked around my neighborhood every day. Sometime I could only manage 10 minute, but some days it was a lot more. But I got up and moved. That will physically help some of the depressive symptoms (not the disease itself).
Then anytime I craved chewing, I'd eat sugar-free Jello or a sugar free Popsicle, both of which were suggested by my Very Strict surgeon. They even gave me Popsicles in the hospital! They sated my chewing craving.
Lastly, I created a support team. I asked friends to come visit me, I spoke openly with my boss and co-workers, I have a email blog to let my friends know how I'm doing, and when I'm not doing well at all. Some will send me joke, or funny YouTube videos, or come by to visit. One friend, who is a sommalier, came up with the idea of having a Water tasting night. I'd stay hydrated while discussing the differences between all the brands of bottled Water. It makes me smile just to think about it.
None of this had made the recovery any easier, or my fight with the desire to eat any simpler, but they have been successful at keeping the worst parts of my depression at bay.
Don't give up! Keep trying new things, and remember to move and stay hydrated! YOU CAN DO THIS! I BELIEVE IN YOU!

Hi yes I was doing a bit better but I am now feeling sick all the time if I do eat I feel sick if I don't eat I feel sick! I am now doing walking round the local park while my kids scooter and I push my baby boy in his buggy, so I am getting some exercise! I have had a blip where I haven't lost any weight in 2 weeks nearly but I am trying to exercise to help lose some! Another 2 weeks and I can start swimming which is great as my daughters go back to school next week,

There are so many different food schedules out there, but the one thing they all have in common is high Protein low carb. Very low carb. I think your idea of egg drop Soup was a good start, but I would be very very careful with any type of Pasta.
I think pastas, breads, brackets, chips etc are going to be on the Do Not Eat list for a very long time.
Your mileage may differ, but I think to give yourself the best chance for success you need to follow your doc's plan, and avoid as many carbs as you can.

Interestingly enough, I lost in my face almost immediately. That never happened before. I found my cheekbones. That was a very pleasant surprise, and very noticeable.

I'm 2 weeks and everyday is an adventure to see how u feel I've found that if u take the Protein Shake and Vitamins in the morning it helps a lot I go back to work tomorrow and will see how it goes!!
It will get better is hard for me to even go to the store and smell of food makes me sick still so will see how long that last too!! I'm with Ya on this.
Good luck we will be ok

I too am finding my emotions to be a bit of a surprise. My surgery was 3/18/15 and after 2 weeks I went back to work. I work retail so I'm on my feet all day. It can be an exhausting job. My coworkers have been great and the owners have provided me with a stool to rest as often as I need. However, after 3 days back to work I completely fell apart. Tears, no energy, fell asleep at the drop of a hat, felt feverish, and basically felt like a failure.
I didn't go to work, and spent an entire day beating myself for being so weak. However, the next day I realized that I was still getting all my Protein and liquids, I was still losing weight, and I had many sources of support (including reading these boards obsessively). It was a sunny warm day, so my teenage daughter took me on a slow, long walk. I don't know why I reacted so severely to being tired for just one day, but the next day was different, and I focused on all the positive things that I could think of, and very deliberately forced all the negative thoughts aside.
Thanks for sharing that I'm not alone in having some really bad days.
They pass.
We have chosen a positive path to help ourselves enjoy a longer live.
We are our own heroes.