scarlep

Can you not request a new one? Or find one on your own?

I will ask my nutritionist I honestly don't like that psychologist

I've been going to therapy for years. It really helps being able to talk to someone you trust who's impartial. As for the surgery, I went to a psychologist who just goes these evaluations, who was recommended through NYU, and she cleared me right away.

i wish I could go to another psychologist :/

I didn't get cleared right away by the psychologist at my surgeon's office, either. I have depression, but for me, the concerns were more due to my deep-seated need to be perfect (an "all-or-nothing" mentality) and my nagging sense that maybe I just don't "deserve" to be healthy and happy. So while I was initially upset that I "failed" my eval (hey, more "all-or-nothing" thinking!), I realized that, yes, I do need to be in therapy. I started going to a great therapist who is really helping me get to the root causes of my negative view of myself and will be able to help me throughout my post-surgery process.

A lot of it has to do with making sure that you have a good support system and can manage the ups and downs of the process--yes, your depression may be directly related to your weight, but are you prepared if you have complications, or you don't lose as quickly as you want to, or have stalls? Not saying you aren't prepared, just that this is the sort of thing that the psychologists consider.

Is the psychologist within your surgeon's practice or one that they work with routinely? If not and is just a random psychologist you found that takes your insurance, you might want to ask your surgeon's office for a referral to a psychologist that they recommend or that other patients of theirs have used. I say that because you mentioned that you got the sense that the one you saw thought you should try losing weight on your own. If he's not someone who routinely works with bariatric patients, he may have a bias against WLS and not be the best person to evaluate a surgical candidate.

I told him about my weight history and that I started to get depressed right after I got pregnant because of all the weight I was gaining and after I gave birth I started to gain more weight and couldn't lose the weight and that I asked my gynecologist to see if she would give me a referral to see a psychologist but I never went to see one because she gave me anti depressants (I never took them) maybe that's why he asked to see me again :/ but I told him about this app how it helped me understand the things that can happen post op like stalls, weight gain, my nut told me if you overeat all the time it can stretch ,I'm aware of all the risk and honestly I just want to be healthy I'm a low risk of becoming diabetic and I don't want that to happen. I hope everything changes after I see him again

Scarlep, just try to stay positive. It won't help you to worry about things you can't control. I would just focus on what you can control. Things will work out the way they need to. I have no doubt you will get there, just don't give up!

Hugs!

Lisa

Thank you so much Lisa!! I hope so I'm hoping he clears me when I go see him again

But my last visit to my surgeon she said nothing about it except that I had finished that requirement. I'm still nervous that she sees that I went and that she doesn't actually read the results but sends them off for approval with insurance and I may still be denied.

As far as I know - as the patient - you have a right to read any report they write. So Lisa - you should ask your surgeon for a copy. Same thing scarlep - when your psychologist writes it - ask for a copy. I did, and I got one directly from my psychologist.

I didn't know that I asked him if he was going to send the report to my surgeon he said not yet because he wanted me to see the therapist I think he wants me to try to lose weight on my own I'm 282 pounds I gained 100 pounds during my pregnancy and I'm trying to make a change I can't lose weight I try hundred of diets and I gained the weight back

I was worried my psychologist wasn't going to approve me either. I know I am depressed with my weight. I was so nervous how I was going to not sound crazy in this appointment so I didn't impede my own progress! I had to see him twice and at the second appt he told me I was welcome to continue to see him so I made another appt but I had to cancel it (a month ago) and haven't rescheduled since. But my last visit to my surgeon she said nothing about it except that I had finished that requirement. I'm still nervous that she sees that I went and that she doesn't actually read the results but sends them off for approval with insurance and I may still be denied. It's crazy to think if you are depressed from being unhealthy and overweight that they would not allow you to do the one thing that will help you the most. I wish you the best, and I am keeping my fingers crossed for myself as well. :-/

I hope that we get clear because I can't wait to have surgery and be healthy

Having a baby one year ago can also affect your hormones and be the cause. Go forward with the process as you want to be your best you.

yes I want to keep going I hope he clears me after I see him again

I am. But it is my choice. I figured I had some other issues going on that I felt I would benefit from continued counseling so I've been 3 times and will likely continue to go through my surgery date. But, she already cleared me as a good candidate, so I am not in the same boat as you. I would ask him point blank why he feels the depression concerns him? If it is related to the surgery or to your weight in general - then maybe that is his concern? I don't know how a psychologist determines whether or not you are a good candidate.

A friend of mine started her WLS journey about 10 months ago, and is still not ready for surgery. But - she had some issues relating to fear of surgery and also with respects to growing up and hating her body because of how her parents treated her. She told me that she too wasn't cleared, but she totally understands that she needs this counseling in order to have a productive surgery.

honestly I don't feel I need to go back I know I want to have the surgery I told him I'm depressed but it's because of my weight because I've never been this heavy and that I wanted to have surgery because I want to be healthy I have a 1yr old that needs me and it's hard for me to play with him without feeling tired or do things like go to the pool and the beach because I feel like I'm too fat to wear a bathingsuit

I went to the psychologist and he didn't clear me to have the surgery yet he wants me to go back in a week to see a therapist and to go back to him in three weeks after I have my sleeping test done... I'm so mad I thought I was only going to need one app but he said I'm a little depressed and he wants to see me again!! Has anyone gone to the psychology more than once?

How long did you had to wait to get a surgery date after you finished the weight management class and completed all the labs?

Wish you the best for tomorrow can't wait to read all about your experience!!

@simplyscarls although I don't post any surgery Info

Definitely take this time to get prepared! Spend more of your time reading the post-op forum than the pre-op forum. That way, you won't be the one asking these same questions that get asked every single day here:

HELP it's after surgery and I feel hungry, is that normal?

HELP every time I eat my stomach roars and grumbles, is this normal?

HELP I'm three weeks out from surgery and the scale hasn't moved in four days, what am I doing wrong?

HELP I'm on full liquids and I can drink a Protein Shake really fast. Did they actually do my surgery? HAVE I STRETCHED MY SLEEVE?

What should I eat on purees?

When should I start exercising again?

How long until I can lift my baby/toddler after surgery?

When can I go back to work?

If I lift weights, use expensive oils and body wraps, and gobble 1000000 mcgs of Biotin every day, I will successfully avoid having any loose skin or suffering any Hair loss, right?

What should I take with me to the hospital?

etc.

Seriously, though, being nervous is completely normal and understandable -- but keep reminding yourself, complications and an early death are a lot more likely if you remain obese rather than undergo a surgery that is safer than a gallbladder removal. No surgery is risk free but obesity is a lot riskier than this surgery!

Thank you for being so helpful now I have so many questions which it's good because I need to make sure I get all the information possible!! And you're right I'm already at low risk of becoming diabetic and I don't want that I rather have surgery and think positive about it

It will be here before you know it. Use the time to research pre-op and post-op eating. Get prepared. You have made an amazing decision for your health and you are already on the path to a better you. Post your successes here often. you will have great support!! Good luck!!

Thank you so much you're right I made this decision to better my health

At least you already have a date which it's amazing !! I can't wait till I have mine

Struggling with my weight my whole life has made me take the decision of having surgery and changing my life, I've tried every diet in the world (literally ) or I think I have, from the master cleanse, eating 600 cal a day, diet pills , some needles that goes around your ear , herbal life , blah blah anyways I'm so depressed I can't wait to get sleeved after I had my baby I gained 80 pounds ???? I feel bad because I have nothing to wear , I don't like going out because I feel ugly, I hate having a double chin, I'm tired of not having energy to play with my baby :/ I think my surgery will be around sept or late August hopefully!!! Also i don't know why but I've been having weird thoughts about death and complications I just want everything to be good!!

Here's a pic of me before and after baby    

Wow amazing!!!hope to lose as much as you

Good luck !! Everything will be fine

Thank you so much for replying

Well I don't have to lose anything but I can't gain anything either I have lost like 5 pounds within 4 months :/ ugh

How does that make you feel? I am in the same position and it makes me feel like my life is on hold for the next 3 months. The Dr. & I have our supervised plan in place but I feel like we're both just going through the motions. It's kind of depressing!! Anyone else in this boat? Can you relate? Is this a normal feeling to have? What can I do to change my mindset so I can use this time to prepare in a productive way?

I feel the same way, I feel very depressed I just want to have the surgery because I can't do it alone anymore I don't lose anything and if I do I'll gain the weight right away

Well I don't have to lose anything but I can't gain anything either I have lost like 5 pounds within 4 months :/ ugh

Thank you for replying, did you already put the request for the sleeve procedure in with ur insurance company

honestly I think that's done after the 6 months diet they require, If not then I haven't , now I have to complete the labs they are asking for and I'm so overwhelmed I can't wait till this surgery it's done!!

Well I don't have to lose anything but I can't gain anything either I have lost like 5 pounds within 4 months :/ ugh

I think I'll have surgery at the end of August or early sept I finish my 6months in July

How long did it take you to complete all the labs I feel like it'll take at least a month ,and my nutritionist said we needed to stop smoking two months before surgery my surgery will in sept or late August but I think early sept because my last weight management class it's at the end of July, anyways on Saturday I smoked some hookah but obviously I won't keep smoking hookah anymore even after surgery because I want a healthy life style but do you think it'll come up on my urine exam or blood exam the nicotine levels ? Idk when I'm having the labs done maybe next week.. Or will it be out of my system by then?

I'm glad everything went well!!