hockeydog

walking down the beach in maui and 1) not feeling totally windedand 2) feeling like i fit in with all the other normal-weight folks.
tucking in my shirt.
NOT being noticed
having only 1 chin

walking down the beach in maui and 1) not feeling totally windedand 2) feeling like i fit in with all the other normal-weight folks.
tucking in my shirt.
NOT being noticed
having only 1 chin

I COMPLETELY get your frustration, BUT the experienced folk here are right.
I have had what I think is slow weight loss, and I never had the initial dump of weight immediately post op or with the pre-op diet. I have lost a pretty steady 1-2 lbs per week since the get-go (with a stall of 2 weeks as well). And this is with carefully tracking of intake and exercise. I was terrified to fail at this again (as I am a revision from band to sleeve). That fear fueled my anxiety and frustration, but never helped with weight loss.
I was told by someone on here, in no uncertain terms, to congratulate myself on my success (YES, SUCCESS!) thus far and keep up the work, and it will all even out in the end (and basically, to adjust my attitude ) It was a hard pill to swallow, particularly since I was expecting more weekly loss, and never experienced that dramatic loss initially.
But, I have accepted what IS. I'm still better off than I was in mid February before my surgery (at 30 lbs down), I feel better, and I think I look better, and that is keeping me motivated.
The absolute worse thing you can do for your motivation and emotional state is to wonder why your path isn't like someone else's. THAT is a recipe for anxiety.
I know I'm early in my journey, and believe me, have shed tears and had fits about what I thought should be, but isn't.
But I have come to accept that all lost lbs/inches contribute to my health and are SUCCESSES.
Please save yourself the stress and go with the flow. The fact that you are being diligent and following the rules are only going to work in your favor over the long term.
We are always here for you, to cheer you on, and Celebrate with you.

I would like to say the following:
I too am struggling. I am 4 weeks out, have lost 12-13 lbs and am DOING EVERYTHING I HAVE BEEN TOLD.....TO THE LETTER. It is EXTREMELY frustrating, as this is about what could be expected with a 1200-1500 kcal diet, minus the surgery. i have overheard people who know i have had the surgery say "I thought the weight was supposed to come off fast at first." I cannot tell you how this makes me feel. Yes, i can actually.....like a failure AGAIN with regards to my weight.
So.....for those of you who feel the need to scold those of us in a different part of their journey and feeling worried, vulnerable and (i'm speaking for myself here)....somewhat of a failure.....Please refrain. We could use some words of gentle encouragement and support rather than a slap.
This is supposed to be supportive, is it not????

i soooooo needed to hear/read these posts today.
Thank you for your encouragement, words of wisdom.
It sure makes things a bit easier when you feel like you are failing, and makes me want to keep on trucking, even though i feel like giving up at times.

i soooooo needed to hear/read these posts today.
Thank you for your encouragement, words of wisdom.
It sure makes things a bit easier when you feel like you are failing, and makes me want to keep on trucking, even though i feel like giving up at times.

i soooooo needed to hear/read these posts today.
Thank you for your encouragement, words of wisdom.
It sure makes things a bit easier when you feel like you are failing, and makes me want to keep on trucking, even though i feel like giving up at times.

i soooooo needed to hear/read these posts today.
Thank you for your encouragement, words of wisdom.
It sure makes things a bit easier when you feel like you are failing, and makes me want to keep on trucking, even though i feel like giving up at times.

I would like to say the following:
I too am struggling. I am 4 weeks out, have lost 12-13 lbs and am DOING EVERYTHING I HAVE BEEN TOLD.....TO THE LETTER. It is EXTREMELY frustrating, as this is about what could be expected with a 1200-1500 kcal diet, minus the surgery. i have overheard people who know i have had the surgery say "I thought the weight was supposed to come off fast at first." I cannot tell you how this makes me feel. Yes, i can actually.....like a failure AGAIN with regards to my weight.
So.....for those of you who feel the need to scold those of us in a different part of their journey and feeling worried, vulnerable and (i'm speaking for myself here)....somewhat of a failure.....Please refrain. We could use some words of gentle encouragement and support rather than a slap.
This is supposed to be supportive, is it not????

I would like to say the following:
I too am struggling. I am 4 weeks out, have lost 12-13 lbs and am DOING EVERYTHING I HAVE BEEN TOLD.....TO THE LETTER. It is EXTREMELY frustrating, as this is about what could be expected with a 1200-1500 kcal diet, minus the surgery. i have overheard people who know i have had the surgery say "I thought the weight was supposed to come off fast at first." I cannot tell you how this makes me feel. Yes, i can actually.....like a failure AGAIN with regards to my weight.
So.....for those of you who feel the need to scold those of us in a different part of their journey and feeling worried, vulnerable and (i'm speaking for myself here)....somewhat of a failure.....Please refrain. We could use some words of gentle encouragement and support rather than a slap.
This is supposed to be supportive, is it not????