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Countrygrrl

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  1. Not married long term relationship. 15 years. I have to say talking about it isn't doing it and thoughts are not actions or I would be in prison. And yes they are open. They have had happy threesome. She takes lovers he takes lovers blah blah blah. I don't judge them. I have enough of my own stuff to work with. My fear was using him as a easy out. I decided not to do so. After fifteen years if I need 6 months to end this In a way to keep my side of the road clean I will. We meet for lunch/coffee all the time. That's not gonna stop. I have no problem meeting with a married person.


  2. That's my final response to this thread that probably needs to be deleted since the posted has issues with responses.

    I at no point mocked you. An am quite sorry you read it that way. I respect and asked for responses. Rather I like them or not. I never stated I felt you needed therapy but agreed I did. ????


  3. I think perhaps YOU are the one that needs to keep going to therapy and work out your issues that obviously are affecting your judgement in regards to your choices,

    And this is why I am in therapy. It's funny I did have a session today and was told. Did you do anything inappropriate? Anything to feel guilty about? The answer was no. She told me how she went on a bad blind date and fantasies about shoving a fork in the dates eye. The point is she didn't. Thoughts and actions are two totally different things. ???? yes I have a lot on my plate. But I manage to be honest and forthright. I don't have to say hey I'm going out with a friend who thinks I'm attractive and treats me nice since your an askhole. The point of the post is with the hormonal changes and my lack of wanting to deal with BS how common are the feeling I'm having? I was told today quite common leave off my personal struggles. Just decent relationships and weightloss surgery have a high rate of affairs.


  4. I think this whole process is crazy hard on the best of relationships, so if the core isn't strong going in, then there are sure to be mountains that come up. Some people feel that as they start to find themselves they realize that they have 'settled' for way too long and refuse to do so any longer. It's important that you do what you need to do in order to be happy. On that note I agree with your desire to not be that person. I would be very careful in revisiting that relationship when you are feeling so vulnerable and unsure. You admitted that he is married and considering that, I don't recommend putting yourself into a situation that begins with 'behind the scenes', why take a step backwards. As a female in a relationship, put yourself in his wife's shoes. How would you feel if you had a husband and he was going for coffee with someone he wished he had married all those years ago??? Not exactly an empowering life choice :)

    Yes I'm working on healthy choices. And I would hate to make a rash decisions. I'm just glad they thinking and actions are two different things


  5. No I happen to know his wife. We have all gone out together and she's polly. Today was a rough day. I probably acted out due to the fact that it was my dads birthday. He And his twin brother went missing in Sitka 10 years ago. I choose to care for my mother who's dementia has made her mean. I love her and want her to have freedom. But she thinks I steal and will say I'm worthless. I am

    Aware this is the dementia. My mom loves me. My other half wants to move to another state. I have said have fun go goodbye. And the weapon wielded today is. Why would you stay. Your mom hates you. She thinks your a POS ect ect. Until I

    Cryed. I'm not going to cheat but yes I did use my ex to feel human. To have someone look at me as ... Me was great. I'm aware this is a long freaking post and no I'm not saying that my emotional state makes an affair ok. But yes I was debating cheating to use as a chickens way to quickly end this dragging out crap relationship that I'm sure is over but I can't pull the trigger.


  6. Yes I won't ever be the other woman. But they have an open relationship. We don't. I told my other half about lunch and the only comment I got was about that my lipstick was too red and bring home jimboys


  7. I have been In this relationship for 15 years. Some of you know it's not going well.. I'm in therapy deciding if I want or even if I can stay. The man I dated in my teen years has always told me he wished we would of got married. He has only one time made a comment about weight. We have been texting. He is married now. I'm going to go have coffee with him. No big deal.. But I'm not saying who I'm having coffee with. ???????? it feels like a dirty little secret. I try to keep my side of the street clean. I know that my relationship is ending. But I don't want to be that person. I also don't want to use an action like that to give me courage to do the breakup.. That's not fair to anyone. Ugh I think I'm gonna go admit who I'm having lunch with. But I'm still going


  8. It sounds like abuse to me. I'm currently doing therapy. Once I had the surgery my tolerance for unacceptable behavior became less than zero. I hadn't been bothered by it before. And now I don't have over eating to cover up with. Now I look and say watch your mouth or watch me pack. I'm not a guaranteed thing in not a possession. This is after less than a month. I even am making a single life fund. My ex loved me when my body was beautiful every time he would see me during my weight gain he would bring up how he should of married me. And how beautiful our kids would of been. Now he's married and I picked poorly.

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