ThreeCrows

What a great thread! Been married for over twenty years, but it's so nice to hear these body-positive stories. My TMI NSV is to be on top without crushing the poor man.

I'm stalled as well. Argh! So frustrating!

What a great thread! Been married for over twenty years, but it's so nice to hear these body-positive stories. My TMI NSV is to be on top without crushing the poor man.

What a great thread! Been married for over twenty years, but it's so nice to hear these body-positive stories. My TMI NSV is to be on top without crushing the poor man.

Thanks for sharing that, Crosby. It is a great parallel for my experience.
I stand in front of hundreds of people every week--it's not like they won't notice me dropping 180 pounds (if I make goal). Whether we like it or not, people already can see I'm overweight. I'm a pastor, so eyes are on me. The 50 I've lost since surgery is noticeable enough already. Why wouldn't caring friends inquire--could be cancer or any of a myriad of troublesome health issues that cause weight loss. I'd be worried also if someone dropped 50 pounds suddenly and weren't trying to. People do have a right to privacy, but unless you wear a burka or never leave your house, what your body looks like clothed simply can't be kept private.
I told the other staff about six weeks before surgery--other pastors even sooner, because I did have to schedule two weeks off. Then I shared with oh, ten or twelve church members. I knew that would be plenty to "tell everyone"--word gets around. Plus I posted on Facebook the week before to keep my far away friends up to date. I wanted to be able to brag on my weight loss without trying to hide a "secret'.
I truly don't believe that weight struggles or anything we do to overcome them, including WLS are something to be ashamed of. Not talking about it publicly just enforces the myth. There may be some people who don't "approve", but it's not necessary for everyone to agree. I've personally heard nothing but loving comments and supportive inquiries. I had three past WLS folks come forward and share about their journeys, including one with my surgeon!
Our choices have consequences, and I read a lot on this site about shared upset with those (like the Dr. on Biggest Loser) who badmouth WLS. I don't think it can be both--a shameful secret and a positive life tool.

Thanks for sharing that, Crosby. It is a great parallel for my experience.
I stand in front of hundreds of people every week--it's not like they won't notice me dropping 180 pounds (if I make goal). Whether we like it or not, people already can see I'm overweight. I'm a pastor, so eyes are on me. The 50 I've lost since surgery is noticeable enough already. Why wouldn't caring friends inquire--could be cancer or any of a myriad of troublesome health issues that cause weight loss. I'd be worried also if someone dropped 50 pounds suddenly and weren't trying to. People do have a right to privacy, but unless you wear a burka or never leave your house, what your body looks like clothed simply can't be kept private.
I told the other staff about six weeks before surgery--other pastors even sooner, because I did have to schedule two weeks off. Then I shared with oh, ten or twelve church members. I knew that would be plenty to "tell everyone"--word gets around. Plus I posted on Facebook the week before to keep my far away friends up to date. I wanted to be able to brag on my weight loss without trying to hide a "secret'.
I truly don't believe that weight struggles or anything we do to overcome them, including WLS are something to be ashamed of. Not talking about it publicly just enforces the myth. There may be some people who don't "approve", but it's not necessary for everyone to agree. I've personally heard nothing but loving comments and supportive inquiries. I had three past WLS folks come forward and share about their journeys, including one with my surgeon!
Our choices have consequences, and I read a lot on this site about shared upset with those (like the Dr. on Biggest Loser) who badmouth WLS. I don't think it can be both--a shameful secret and a positive life tool.

What a great thread! Been married for over twenty years, but it's so nice to hear these body-positive stories. My TMI NSV is to be on top without crushing the poor man.

Thanks for sharing that, Crosby. It is a great parallel for my experience.
I stand in front of hundreds of people every week--it's not like they won't notice me dropping 180 pounds (if I make goal). Whether we like it or not, people already can see I'm overweight. I'm a pastor, so eyes are on me. The 50 I've lost since surgery is noticeable enough already. Why wouldn't caring friends inquire--could be cancer or any of a myriad of troublesome health issues that cause weight loss. I'd be worried also if someone dropped 50 pounds suddenly and weren't trying to. People do have a right to privacy, but unless you wear a burka or never leave your house, what your body looks like clothed simply can't be kept private.
I told the other staff about six weeks before surgery--other pastors even sooner, because I did have to schedule two weeks off. Then I shared with oh, ten or twelve church members. I knew that would be plenty to "tell everyone"--word gets around. Plus I posted on Facebook the week before to keep my far away friends up to date. I wanted to be able to brag on my weight loss without trying to hide a "secret'.
I truly don't believe that weight struggles or anything we do to overcome them, including WLS are something to be ashamed of. Not talking about it publicly just enforces the myth. There may be some people who don't "approve", but it's not necessary for everyone to agree. I've personally heard nothing but loving comments and supportive inquiries. I had three past WLS folks come forward and share about their journeys, including one with my surgeon!
Our choices have consequences, and I read a lot on this site about shared upset with those (like the Dr. on Biggest Loser) who badmouth WLS. I don't think it can be both--a shameful secret and a positive life tool.

Thanks for sharing that, Crosby. It is a great parallel for my experience.
I stand in front of hundreds of people every week--it's not like they won't notice me dropping 180 pounds (if I make goal). Whether we like it or not, people already can see I'm overweight. I'm a pastor, so eyes are on me. The 50 I've lost since surgery is noticeable enough already. Why wouldn't caring friends inquire--could be cancer or any of a myriad of troublesome health issues that cause weight loss. I'd be worried also if someone dropped 50 pounds suddenly and weren't trying to. People do have a right to privacy, but unless you wear a burka or never leave your house, what your body looks like clothed simply can't be kept private.
I told the other staff about six weeks before surgery--other pastors even sooner, because I did have to schedule two weeks off. Then I shared with oh, ten or twelve church members. I knew that would be plenty to "tell everyone"--word gets around. Plus I posted on Facebook the week before to keep my far away friends up to date. I wanted to be able to brag on my weight loss without trying to hide a "secret'.
I truly don't believe that weight struggles or anything we do to overcome them, including WLS are something to be ashamed of. Not talking about it publicly just enforces the myth. There may be some people who don't "approve", but it's not necessary for everyone to agree. I've personally heard nothing but loving comments and supportive inquiries. I had three past WLS folks come forward and share about their journeys, including one with my surgeon!
Our choices have consequences, and I read a lot on this site about shared upset with those (like the Dr. on Biggest Loser) who badmouth WLS. I don't think it can be both--a shameful secret and a positive life tool.

Went out tonight with my family to our favorite Italian place. I'm still officially on "soft" foods. I ordered a side of two meatballs... Ate one and picked a couple bites of cheese off my sons pizza. It was delicious, actually!
I've eaten out quite a bit, as I do work lunches often. Chinese and Thai are good, I've eaten Soup, curry, eggplant. Tofu works for me, my pouch doesn't do beef or pork well yet. Egg salad at the sandwich place, hummus appetizer at Mediterranean food, refried Beans and cheese at Mexican. I have yet to find a place with nothing I can eat.
I sometimes get sides or appetizers, take a lot home, or (horror of horrors!) just don't eat it all.

Good for you! That's a great loss! It isn't the easiest thing in the world, but WLS has been wonderful for me as well.

I'm in mine right now. I've lost and gained the same three pounds all week. Blegh!

I'm using my Ambien post op. It works well for me without feeling groggy the next day. My husband can't take it, it makes him sleepwalk, he now takes Lunesta. So everyone is different, but to me the value of regular sleep is worth the extra pill.

Still on liquids for another week and a half... All this talk of puréed food is making me hungry!

Oh good, I'm glad to hear you are doing somewhat better.
I'm attached to my heating pad now too, although my eleven year old son tries to steal it. His feet are always cold.

Oh good, I'm glad to hear you are doing somewhat better.
I'm attached to my heating pad now too, although my eleven year old son tries to steal it. His feet are always cold.

I've had weird spotting since surgery 9 days ago. I think it's just a physical stress thing.

And all has gone very smoothly. The pain is not nearly as bad as I'd imagined. Lots of burping seems to be keeping the gas down so far, and After my scan in the morning I'll be ready to drink liquids. For now it's ice chips and lots of napping. I honestly can say my anxiety was far worse than the reality! Nursing has been great and responsive, and having my sweet husband here all day was wonderful.
I'm wondering when or if my hunger will return? Nothing so far!

That sounds great! I'm already starting to have "mouth hunger". I'm craving more substantial food than liquids. I can't wait for purées!

And all has gone very smoothly. The pain is not nearly as bad as I'd imagined. Lots of burping seems to be keeping the gas down so far, and After my scan in the morning I'll be ready to drink liquids. For now it's ice chips and lots of napping. I honestly can say my anxiety was far worse than the reality! Nursing has been great and responsive, and having my sweet husband here all day was wonderful.
I'm wondering when or if my hunger will return? Nothing so far!

Still on liquids for another week and a half... All this talk of puréed food is making me hungry!

And all has gone very smoothly. The pain is not nearly as bad as I'd imagined. Lots of burping seems to be keeping the gas down so far, and After my scan in the morning I'll be ready to drink liquids. For now it's ice chips and lots of napping. I honestly can say my anxiety was far worse than the reality! Nursing has been great and responsive, and having my sweet husband here all day was wonderful.
I'm wondering when or if my hunger will return? Nothing so far!

And all has gone very smoothly. The pain is not nearly as bad as I'd imagined. Lots of burping seems to be keeping the gas down so far, and After my scan in the morning I'll be ready to drink liquids. For now it's ice chips and lots of napping. I honestly can say my anxiety was far worse than the reality! Nursing has been great and responsive, and having my sweet husband here all day was wonderful.
I'm wondering when or if my hunger will return? Nothing so far!

And all has gone very smoothly. The pain is not nearly as bad as I'd imagined. Lots of burping seems to be keeping the gas down so far, and After my scan in the morning I'll be ready to drink liquids. For now it's ice chips and lots of napping. I honestly can say my anxiety was far worse than the reality! Nursing has been great and responsive, and having my sweet husband here all day was wonderful.
I'm wondering when or if my hunger will return? Nothing so far!

And all has gone very smoothly. The pain is not nearly as bad as I'd imagined. Lots of burping seems to be keeping the gas down so far, and After my scan in the morning I'll be ready to drink liquids. For now it's ice chips and lots of napping. I honestly can say my anxiety was far worse than the reality! Nursing has been great and responsive, and having my sweet husband here all day was wonderful.
I'm wondering when or if my hunger will return? Nothing so far!