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Good information. However, please keep in mind that most of the cancer causing claims of artificial sweeteners have been debunked. Turns out they have never been proven to cause cancer in humans. In fact, manufacturers are not even required to put a cancer causing warning on these products anymore. In a nutshell what was found was that in studies artificial sweeteners caused bladder and urinary cancer in mice. However, it was later revealed that mice have a completely different urinary system than humans and the reason why they developed cancer is because of their unique urinary system. No such cancers have been linked in humans.
Also, keep in mind that "natural" does not equate to better or safer. Many naturally derived substances are poisonous or toxic.
All this aside, stevia and Monk Fruit show great promise as use in sweeteners.

Are you sure he wasn't trying to sabotage you? Also, just because you didn't like it now doesn't mean you won't love it later on. So do be careful. I remember three months out of my surgery I swiped icing off of a piece of cake and ate it and then threw up. I too thought that I would never be able to eat sweets again but I can now eat a full slice of cake. Luckily I only eat such on holidays or birthdays.

Sometimes high cholesterol is genetic and can't be controlled with just diet. My sister is small and has a higher cholesterol than me. However - I would try to lower it by diet first. I am assuming you were fasting before your blood work.

Good information. However, please keep in mind that most of the cancer causing claims of artificial sweeteners have been debunked. Turns out they have never been proven to cause cancer in humans. In fact, manufacturers are not even required to put a cancer causing warning on these products anymore. In a nutshell what was found was that in studies artificial sweeteners caused bladder and urinary cancer in mice. However, it was later revealed that mice have a completely different urinary system than humans and the reason why they developed cancer is because of their unique urinary system. No such cancers have been linked in humans.
Also, keep in mind that "natural" does not equate to better or safer. Many naturally derived substances are poisonous or toxic.
All this aside, stevia and Monk Fruit show great promise as use in sweeteners.

So I've always had a strained relationship with my father. All my life he's called me "fat a**" when angry with me. Even up to just prior to my surgery those words would come out of his mouth. Then even after I lost the weight he accidentally let it slip once and I just busted out laughing in his face because those words have no impact on me anymore.
This said my Dad actually gave me a compliment. He saw me walk down a flight a stairs and he said for a split second he thought I had went back in time and became a teenager again. He said I look just like how he remembers me from when I was 15 or 16 and before I started packing on the pounds.

So I've always had a strained relationship with my father. All my life he's called me "fat a**" when angry with me. Even up to just prior to my surgery those words would come out of his mouth. Then even after I lost the weight he accidentally let it slip once and I just busted out laughing in his face because those words have no impact on me anymore.
This said my Dad actually gave me a compliment. He saw me walk down a flight a stairs and he said for a split second he thought I had went back in time and became a teenager again. He said I look just like how he remembers me from when I was 15 or 16 and before I started packing on the pounds.

He called you a "fat a-asterisk-asterisk"? It could be worse, he could have called you a "fat a-exclamation point-exclamation point".
You sound like a great son. I will not make excuses for your Father's words or how he has treated you in the past, nor will I say anything negative about him.
He is your Father and I want to believe that he loves you very much.
You can't change the past, but hopefully through open dialogue you will have a strong, caring relationship going forward.
It sounds like you are off to good start. I hope your relationship with him continues to grow stronger.

@@Proud2BMe that is awesome. Congrats on your success, I noticed that you have lost more pounds than you now weigh which is amazing! Take in the compliments, you deserve them for all your hard work.

Inner surfer girl, you have taken the very words from my mouth ! Keep going proud2beme you are doing great

It is crazy how much the people who we love can wound us and uplift us with their words. Enjoy the warm thoughts and keep laughing when he says hurtful things.

Immediately after surgery you are going to struggle to even get 500 calories a day. You will then likely work up to about 800-900 a day. About a year out and I'm eating about 1200 a day. However, in all honesty you really don't need to count calories. Just stick to your diet of Protein first and then non-starchy vegetables, stopping eating when you feel restriction.

So I've always had a strained relationship with my father. All my life he's called me "fat a**" when angry with me. Even up to just prior to my surgery those words would come out of his mouth. Then even after I lost the weight he accidentally let it slip once and I just busted out laughing in his face because those words have no impact on me anymore.
This said my Dad actually gave me a compliment. He saw me walk down a flight a stairs and he said for a split second he thought I had went back in time and became a teenager again. He said I look just like how he remembers me from when I was 15 or 16 and before I started packing on the pounds.

Immediately after surgery you are going to struggle to even get 500 calories a day. You will then likely work up to about 800-900 a day. About a year out and I'm eating about 1200 a day. However, in all honesty you really don't need to count calories. Just stick to your diet of Protein first and then non-starchy vegetables, stopping eating when you feel restriction.

So I've always had a strained relationship with my father. All my life he's called me "fat a**" when angry with me. Even up to just prior to my surgery those words would come out of his mouth. Then even after I lost the weight he accidentally let it slip once and I just busted out laughing in his face because those words have no impact on me anymore.
This said my Dad actually gave me a compliment. He saw me walk down a flight a stairs and he said for a split second he thought I had went back in time and became a teenager again. He said I look just like how he remembers me from when I was 15 or 16 and before I started packing on the pounds.

So I've always had a strained relationship with my father. All my life he's called me "fat a**" when angry with me. Even up to just prior to my surgery those words would come out of his mouth. Then even after I lost the weight he accidentally let it slip once and I just busted out laughing in his face because those words have no impact on me anymore.
This said my Dad actually gave me a compliment. He saw me walk down a flight a stairs and he said for a split second he thought I had went back in time and became a teenager again. He said I look just like how he remembers me from when I was 15 or 16 and before I started packing on the pounds.

Good information. However, please keep in mind that most of the cancer causing claims of artificial sweeteners have been debunked. Turns out they have never been proven to cause cancer in humans. In fact, manufacturers are not even required to put a cancer causing warning on these products anymore. In a nutshell what was found was that in studies artificial sweeteners caused bladder and urinary cancer in mice. However, it was later revealed that mice have a completely different urinary system than humans and the reason why they developed cancer is because of their unique urinary system. No such cancers have been linked in humans.
Also, keep in mind that "natural" does not equate to better or safer. Many naturally derived substances are poisonous or toxic.
All this aside, stevia and Monk Fruit show great promise as use in sweeteners.

So I've always had a strained relationship with my father. All my life he's called me "fat a**" when angry with me. Even up to just prior to my surgery those words would come out of his mouth. Then even after I lost the weight he accidentally let it slip once and I just busted out laughing in his face because those words have no impact on me anymore.
This said my Dad actually gave me a compliment. He saw me walk down a flight a stairs and he said for a split second he thought I had went back in time and became a teenager again. He said I look just like how he remembers me from when I was 15 or 16 and before I started packing on the pounds.

So I've always had a strained relationship with my father. All my life he's called me "fat a**" when angry with me. Even up to just prior to my surgery those words would come out of his mouth. Then even after I lost the weight he accidentally let it slip once and I just busted out laughing in his face because those words have no impact on me anymore.
This said my Dad actually gave me a compliment. He saw me walk down a flight a stairs and he said for a split second he thought I had went back in time and became a teenager again. He said I look just like how he remembers me from when I was 15 or 16 and before I started packing on the pounds.

Immediately after surgery you are going to struggle to even get 500 calories a day. You will then likely work up to about 800-900 a day. About a year out and I'm eating about 1200 a day. However, in all honesty you really don't need to count calories. Just stick to your diet of Protein first and then non-starchy vegetables, stopping eating when you feel restriction.

So I've always had a strained relationship with my father. All my life he's called me "fat a**" when angry with me. Even up to just prior to my surgery those words would come out of his mouth. Then even after I lost the weight he accidentally let it slip once and I just busted out laughing in his face because those words have no impact on me anymore.
This said my Dad actually gave me a compliment. He saw me walk down a flight a stairs and he said for a split second he thought I had went back in time and became a teenager again. He said I look just like how he remembers me from when I was 15 or 16 and before I started packing on the pounds.

@@Proud2BMe - I am adopting that regime because having a "snack" for me isn't working. I needed this post - THANK YOU.
Any food at this point, needs to be strictly nutritious and considered a meal, not a snack.< /p>

Good information. However, please keep in mind that most of the cancer causing claims of artificial sweeteners have been debunked. Turns out they have never been proven to cause cancer in humans. In fact, manufacturers are not even required to put a cancer causing warning on these products anymore. In a nutshell what was found was that in studies artificial sweeteners caused bladder and urinary cancer in mice. However, it was later revealed that mice have a completely different urinary system than humans and the reason why they developed cancer is because of their unique urinary system. No such cancers have been linked in humans.
Also, keep in mind that "natural" does not equate to better or safer. Many naturally derived substances are poisonous or toxic.
All this aside, stevia and Monk Fruit show great promise as use in sweeteners.

I was told the active weight loss phase was the first 2 years after surgery and so it was stressed for me to make sure to lose as much weight as possible during this time period.
The ketogenic diet is high in fat which is not approved for diets associated with bariatric surgery.
My best advice would be to return to the diet plan given to you at your time of surgery, with little to no carbs and emphasis on lean Protein and non-starchy vegetables. If you consume too many carbs you will sabotage your weight loss.

No fruit for me, too much sugar. No deserts period, even "sugar free". I decided to break the mental enslavement to the idea that somehow it's normal to have deserts every day when in reality it's not normal at all. Instead, I have normal treats like cake, ice cream, Cookies, and candy only on special occasions such as holidays and birthdays. I was actually told to avoid snacking entirely during the active weight lost phase and then incorporate Snacks while in the maintenance phase.

No fruit for me, too much sugar. No deserts period, even "sugar free". I decided to break the mental enslavement to the idea that somehow it's normal to have deserts every day when in reality it's not normal at all. Instead, I have normal treats like cake, ice cream, Cookies, and candy only on special occasions such as holidays and birthdays. I was actually told to avoid snacking entirely during the active weight lost phase and then incorporate Snacks while in the maintenance phase.