My Dad's First Compliment

[Proud2BMe 1,016]

So I've always had a strained relationship with my father. All my life he's called me "fat a**" when angry with me. Even up to just prior to my surgery those words would come out of his mouth. Then even after I lost the weight he accidentally let it slip once and I just busted out laughing in his face because those words have no impact on me anymore.

This said my Dad actually gave me a compliment. He saw me walk down a flight a stairs and he said for a split second he thought I had went back in time and became a teenager again. He said I look just like how he remembers me from when I was 15 or 16 and before I started packing on the pounds.

[Inner Surfer Girl 12,015]

It is crazy how much the people who we love can wound us and uplift us with their words. Enjoy the warm thoughts and keep laughing when he says hurtful things.

[chrisredjeep 357]

Inner surfer girl, you have taken the very words from my mouth ! Keep going proud2beme you are doing great

[butterfly23 423]

@@Proud2BMe that is awesome. Congrats on your success, I noticed that you have lost more pounds than you now weigh which is amazing! Take in the compliments, you deserve them for all your hard work.

[4MRB4PHOTO 3,899]

...All my life he's called me "fat a**" when angry with me...

He called you a "fat a-asterisk-asterisk"? It could be worse, he could have called you a "fat a-exclamation point-exclamation point".

You sound like a great son. I will not make excuses for your Father's words or how he has treated you in the past, nor will I say anything negative about him.

He is your Father and I want to believe that he loves you very much.

You can't change the past, but hopefully through open dialogue you will have a strong, caring relationship going forward.

It sounds like you are off to good start. I hope your relationship with him continues to grow stronger.