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Girls girls girls!!! Lol!! We are such worry worts !!!! The right guy wont care!! I met a wonderful man, his ex wife is 5'2" weighs as much as my flabby thigh....... I was so worried I would be too big?!? I'm 5'8" with flabby thighs, flabby boobs, flabby belly, flabby........... all he sees is me when we are naked. My heart, my soul, my joy, my beauty. And BTW....... boobs are boobs to the right guy!

Don't be afraid to talk about it!! Its part of the healing process, think of all the people you have the chance to enlighten?! You have nothing to hide, be proud of making a decision to better your health! Besides, when you tell them and they react negatively...... you don't want them in your life anyway!! Surround yourself with positive people, with the right guy, it wont matter about the surgery. He will love you for you! Not to mention, where are you going to hide the stretched out skin?? ....tuck it in your socks?!?!!

I've been single FOREVER (9 years). And had enough naked insecurities pre-op because I was fat and hated myself.....hadn't thought about how hard this would be :/. Can't I just get a total body transplant?!?!

I am sorry but it sounds like your husband is a dick. I am not saying the man has to change his life forever but he could turn it down a few notches while you recover. I have no idea what your husbands weight or health is like but by the way you describe his eating habits I think this is an indicates of problems to come for you. You have embarked on a life changing journey that will hopefully lead you to a more active and happy life... If your husband does not want to at the very least support you in your new journey you will soon be on two very different paths. He may begin to become resentful because he feels left behind and/or you may also become resentful because you feel you are trying and he is not... Unfortunately divorce is very common in the years after gastric bypass. I feel very lucky that my husband although he is a heavy guy he has embraced my new healthier lifestyle and we have become even closer due to some health issues that have came up in the 21 months since I had my surgery. Maybe this will be a wake up call and you guys can start fresh from here and become a united team!