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My insurance is paying for my Tummy Tuck in full I am scheduled for tummy tuck with muscle repair June 1/15 so check your insurance requirements . Good luck .

I'm so sorry to hear about your husband and want you to know that you have warm thoughts and prayers coming to you from N. Carolina.
Try to take care of yourself as best you can so you can be the rock your husband will need through all of this. We'll all be here for you as time goes on. Keep us posted.
Hugs,

Ditto on the clingy knits that only emphasize our problem spots.
Also, when will they realize that not every large woman is 6ft. tall and the same width from the shoulders all the way down to her knees? Large sized petites are nearly impossible to find, and if you do it's only in pants. I HATE tops that are always so long they look like a tunic instead of just a top.....especially when my butt is and always has been the widest part of my body, even when I wasn't heavy.

Decaf coffee with cream, hot or iced. Cup after cup.

Listerine strips. They are strong and nasty, but nothing tastes good for hours after.

I have found a few new favorites at my favorite sushi places because I do not tolerate rice well at all.
Kani salad is just the spicy crab mixture and cucumber without the rice. I often ask the chef to add a bit of avocado and crunch. I also love the suni salad which is the squid in a vinegar base. I am not a huge fan of seaweed salad, but my bestie is. It has a lot of sesame and chili oil and is very fresh and crisp. These "salads" are big, Protein only and are usually on the appetizer menu. They are the perfect portion for me. The hard part is deciding which I want.
My favorite place also serves sushi rolls without rice. The filling is wrapped in very thinly shaved slices of cucumber and is absolutely delicious.

The geriatric fashion styles constantly inflicted on us.
And is it too much to ask for bigger bra sizes to come in colours other than white or black? Big chicks like colour too.

My biggest gripe is that I can never find pants that fit my huge butt and thighs. Every pair I try on is WAY too tight across my butt or is HUGE in the waist.

I always hated buying tanks at 45.00 a piece only to have them fade after 1 or 2 washes.
I really hated when you would buy a top, wash it and it would seem to get wider and shorter.
What the heck is that!

My biggest gripe? All the ads where the women look so dang happy and comfortable in their bra's.....I hate bras....who can be happy in a underwire for 12 hours a day? Not me :/ lol....rant over!

Horizontal stripes! On what planet do horizontal stripes look good on a plus sized person?

To those of you for whom the days of shopping in the large size section is a thing of the past, congratulations!
I'm at the very beginning of this journey, still buying plus size clothing, and thought it would be interesting to see who else here gets frustrated with the "fashion" industry.
What are your gripes? I'll start:
- Fabrics that cling to every lump and bump on your body.
- Capris. They're a two-fer: They make me look more rotund and highlight my cankles at the same time. What a bargain!
- Why does it seem that stores never have in a large size the one cute thing that catches your eye in the smaller sizes?

Saggy cheeks here :-( , many do not recognize me either, but that is a good thing as I didn't enjoy morbid obesity :-)

Summer fruits and veggies! I just went to the fruit stand yesterday and spent some time cutting up my loot and portioning things out into little tupperware containers in the fridge. This week I can just grab and go. I have mango, strawberries, tangelo sections, kiwi, and blueberries in the fruit cups. In the veggie cups I put carrot sticks, cucumber slices, bell pepper strips, and grape tomatoes.

Yup, I'm in the coffee club too, with Splenda and non-dairy Cremora. And anything that's protein-based is fair game. Kung pao chicken is one of my favorite foods, as are ribs. As long as I stay off the carbs, that type of food doesn't seem to affect my weight loss much.

white wine,never giving it up!

I'm so LOL.....
I think to a lot of people "some" weight is about 10 pounds. To others it's more than they can comprehend. They don't really know what to say without fear of offending us in some way. I try not to worry about it too much. I know how much I've lost, and that's all that really matters.
Enjoy the compliments regardless of how silly they may sound. I say temper patience with mercy...

@@CanyonBaby You have summed it up so beautifully. Be proud of the woman you're becoming. I know I'm trying to be proud of the woman I'm becoming, and one day in the not too far off future I think the mirror just may turn out to be a friend......one who reminds us of our journey and nods its approval back to us when we look into it.

@@Packerfan61964
Way to go champ!!! You'll make your goal before you know it.
Some lucky woman will show up in your life and appreciate you for who you are. Your day is coming!!

Boy am I glad to see this discussion.
The only time in my life that I didn't see myself as being "fat" was when I was in my early 20's. I wasn't fat for sure at 117 pounds, but I still had some self confidence and self esteem issues.
While married to my first husband everything I ever thought was "wrong" with me he fueled by making me feel inferior in some way. After pregnancies, miscarriages, a lot of emotional abuse and so forth I DID become fat. Really fat.....
Right before my divorce I lost a lot of weight and got down to 145 pounds. The heaviest I had been until that point was 224, after the birth of my second son, but had gained and lost bits and pieces through the years. Needless to say I gained every ounce back plus more as the years went on bringing me to where I was when I started this journey.
I hated the mirror, and avoided being in pictures at all cost. I didn't want to see the grotesque woman I had become.
Even now I struggle with the changes others say they see because I don't feel I'm worthy of their compliments or praise. Even my current husband who has loved and supported me every day since we met gets upset because I can't see what he sees.
The only picture I've willingly had taken was the one they took at my surgeons office 2 weeks before my surgery. I HAVE NOT taken any photos of myself because I just can't bring myself to do it. I do see a difference in my clothes and in the mirror, but in my eyes I still see that huge, unattractive woman.
Don't get me wrong I do see some change, but until I can walk into a room and not feel self conscious about being the largest woman in the room I'll probably continue to judge myself. I'm halfway through my journey and look forward to the rest of it unfolding. I know I'm healthier and that means more to me than anything, but I also look forward to the day when I CAN look into the mirror, or see myself in a picture and not cringe at the woman I see.

I found myself back in the dating scene about 16 years ago after a divorce. I really wasn't interested in dating all that much but I think I needed validation that I still could be found attractive and worthy of being cared about in spite of the extra weight I was carrying. I actually had lost about 40 pounds and wasn't nearly as heavy as I was when I had my surgery this fall.
I went out with several guys and found out the hard way that in general men have little or no interest in being with someone that they consider to be too heavy. I had one guy that told me that even though he really cared about me and wanted more, he would end it if I got any heavier. Goodbye bozo
Another guy came right out and told me that he "usually doesn't even consider dating women my size", but that if I was interested in dating him I'd do something about my weight. Goodbye bozo #2
I stopped dating all together for about 2 years and pretty much decided I was done with men, then I met my current husband. He was totally different. He made it very clear that no one should judge people for their outside, but rather look to the person inside. He needed to lose 20 or 30 pounds when we met, and together we did manage to lose some weight before we got married 9 years ago. I started having health issues about 4 years ago and got really heavy. When I talked to him about having the surgery he was totally supportive and wanted me healthy more than anything else. Now, my starting to look "good" is a bonus as far as he's concerned.
Life's too short to date jerks. There's already too many women who try to change themselves for some guy. If you've had the surgery hopefully you've done it for yourself and your health. Looking great no matter what your age is the big bonus!!!! I'm 62 and still have some "sexy" left in me!!!

@@CanyonBaby You have summed it up so beautifully. Be proud of the woman you're becoming. I know I'm trying to be proud of the woman I'm becoming, and one day in the not too far off future I think the mirror just may turn out to be a friend......one who reminds us of our journey and nods its approval back to us when we look into it.

@@CanyonBaby You have summed it up so beautifully. Be proud of the woman you're becoming. I know I'm trying to be proud of the woman I'm becoming, and one day in the not too far off future I think the mirror just may turn out to be a friend......one who reminds us of our journey and nods its approval back to us when we look into it.

Thank you for your insight and wisdom. People like you help me understand do much about myself.
I hear you loud and clear, and if it's ok with you I'm going to copy and print a sign with all your statements on it to hang in my bathroom.....right next to the mirror.

Boy am I glad to see this discussion.
The only time in my life that I didn't see myself as being "fat" was when I was in my early 20's. I wasn't fat for sure at 117 pounds, but I still had some self confidence and self esteem issues.
While married to my first husband everything I ever thought was "wrong" with me he fueled by making me feel inferior in some way. After pregnancies, miscarriages, a lot of emotional abuse and so forth I DID become fat. Really fat.....
Right before my divorce I lost a lot of weight and got down to 145 pounds. The heaviest I had been until that point was 224, after the birth of my second son, but had gained and lost bits and pieces through the years. Needless to say I gained every ounce back plus more as the years went on bringing me to where I was when I started this journey.
I hated the mirror, and avoided being in pictures at all cost. I didn't want to see the grotesque woman I had become.
Even now I struggle with the changes others say they see because I don't feel I'm worthy of their compliments or praise. Even my current husband who has loved and supported me every day since we met gets upset because I can't see what he sees.
The only picture I've willingly had taken was the one they took at my surgeons office 2 weeks before my surgery. I HAVE NOT taken any photos of myself because I just can't bring myself to do it. I do see a difference in my clothes and in the mirror, but in my eyes I still see that huge, unattractive woman.
Don't get me wrong I do see some change, but until I can walk into a room and not feel self conscious about being the largest woman in the room I'll probably continue to judge myself. I'm halfway through my journey and look forward to the rest of it unfolding. I know I'm healthier and that means more to me than anything, but I also look forward to the day when I CAN look into the mirror, or see myself in a picture and not cringe at the woman I see.