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3-4 weeks is when the first stall typical hits. Try not too worry about it!!

I'm 14 months out. I overshot my goal of 125 Now it seems I fluctuate quite a bit, from as low as 114 to 119. I've been hovering around 117-118 most of the time for about 3 months.

It's true, the rate doesn't matter. Just consistent loss. Keep going, keep going. When you hit goal it really will seem like it took no time at all.

I've lost 125, took me about 10 months. Keeping it off at 14 months post op.

One thing I guess I'm sort of glad for- I dump like CRAZY from sweets. Today at work I ate 3/4 of a chocolate chip muffin- man I just couldn't stop once I started!! I almost NEVER eat sweets and of course I dumped so bad. Had to sit in the bathroom for 30 minutes ugh. I really can't tolerate high sugar/fat foods. It was sooooo not worth it. Sigh when will I learn??

I was freaking out about my fat intake but I did some research and actually it looks like it's spot on at an average of 35% of my diet. I don't eat many bad fats, all good fats so I don't think I need to worry about it. That was a relief.

I'm still going to try and get my Protein up however but I think I'm doing pretty good!

All i can say is thank god I have a very small closet.

I'm totally addicted to shopping now. It just is so much fun!!

I have started to get very selective about what I do buy now... Like I said. Small closet.

Maybe I should take my kids closet.... Hahaha.

Weren't you just complaining about being too skinny and not being able to get enough food down?

Plus. What people don't realize about eating disorders like anorexia is that it's very common for people with anorexia and bulimia to have major weight fluctuations and become both emaciated and obese at one time or another. The pendulum has swung to obesity for me before and I'm frightened of that no matter how thin I am because I know it's possible. People often think anorexics have steel control but that's not true. 99% of them binge eat. Many become overweight!!! So for me it's a feeling of never feeling "right"- worried about gaining, worried about losing... Anxiety and never feeling safe.

Having an eating disorder is a fucking riot.

Sometimes it just takes a little while! Your body has been through a lot. You'll conceive I'm sure! Track and maybe a trip to the docs for some blood work just to be sure hang in there it will happen!

Gahhhh. I hope this works out okay!!!

I get asked this a lot because I'm online dating... It's a great topic!! Haha yeah my first response is "count calories and post on BP!" Hahaa just kidding.

I used to love photography. Now it's what I do for a living so I wouldn't call it a hobby.

I enjoy reading novels

Researching cold case crimes and serial killers (uh huh I'm sick!)

Hiking

Sunbathing

Clothes Shopping!!

Playing guitar and singing

Travel

Great thread!

I liked looking at your boobs. ???? hahaha

@@WLSResources/ClothingExch Well, my saliva and soon to be my husbands blood if he brings this crap in the house again.

Hahaha so funny. I'm so glad Surgery ruined me for chocolate. My downfall is caramel!!! Sigh. Caramel....

Thanks everyone. Inner surfer girl I did talk with my NUT from my surgeons office and she explained to me that my diet was very high in fat and sugar. At the time my weight was still falling and I felt by lowering those at all I could risk losing too much more. But I did listen to what she had to say and now that my weight has been stable I am feeling more comfortable putting her suggestions into place-basically going back to a low fat moderate carb regime. I can call her any time so I'll be utilizing her for sure.

None of the eating disorder therapists here take my insurance. So ill have to go to a general one and hope they can work with me. I'm not sure I want to. I was in therapy all last year and I only backslid. I'm not sure I respond that well to therapy but we will see.

Kindle that sounds awesome. That's what I want- empowering therapy!! Tools and strategies, not being told you're a victim!! I'm going to look into your suggestions.

Cowgirl- anxiety just rules my life sometimes. It's so AWEFUL. It's been much worse I think since surgery because I was burying it with food too. It's such a terrible feeling. I don't have it every day but I do have it a lot!! It often prevents me from being productive.

The only thing I have found that really, really helps is moderate to intense cardio exercise. It pretty much cures me within minutes and generally lasts a day or two. I've always been resistant to using medications although I've definitely considered it. Especially when it's at its worst!!! I'm glad you found relief , it's a terrible thing to deal with. All my eating issues are rooted in it.

I really have to get to the gym every day. That's the key for me and there should be no excuses. As long as I do that I'm okay.

I'm not in therapy right now, I lost my medical insurance that covered it. I do wish I had a therapist it would help.

But the little bit I did manage to get has helped a lot and like I said my weight has been stable. I've been doing well on the whole, but this week has been tough.

I have such a hard time with anxiety. If I don't get enough exercise it gets really bad.

Oh my god!!! Hahaha

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I get a lot of looks from men now for sure. It's not that weird for me because I was only overweight 5 years and I used to get looks before I gained. Sometimes the looks are a little over the top though. One guy followed me around the grocery store.

As for women, I both get treated better and worse. I feel appreciative looks, feel like more women are open to a friendship with me... I also feel some envy from others.

Work opportunities have grown as well, especially since I'm in the fashion/arts industry. I'm received a lot better by everyone.

I enjoy the attention and try to take it in stride. After all, this is just the cover of my book and people don't know me until they know me.

When I was overweight I remember feeling so envious and angry towards thin women and also obsessed with them. I don't feel that way anymore. And I find overweight women very beautiful.

It's quite an adjustment I think. I also think the attention and positivity comes from how happily I now carry myself. People are drawn to that.

I'm just going to throw this out there and then I'm done with this thread....

To the OP, I'm sorry you're having to deal with sleeve issues. I can imagine how frustrating it would be trying to do this as if you still have a regular sized stomach, as I've tried a hundred times before my surgery. If it were me, I would move heaven and earth in pursuit of a revision. It sounds to me like it was surgeon error, not yours. I wish you well, and keep us posted!

To others in this thread, just because someone may call you out in your BS or disagree with you, doesn't mean they are a "troll" a "bully" " 9th grade girls" "hags" and so on. I find it funny the ones who complain how mean and nasty some people can be are the same ones who resort to name calling.

I thought we were all adults here, but obviously not. I've said it before, and I'll say it again, the "ignore" option is a glorious thing. Don't like my posts? Instead of throwing a hissy fit every time I post about how mean and unsupportive I am, just put me on ignore so you don't have to see my posts anymore. I've done it, too! No tantrums, no name calling, no flouncing, just "ignore".

See how easy that is?

Have a great day everyone!

@babbs- I think it's clear to many people on here - it's not always what you say, it's HOW you say it. ????

I'll know what I want when I see it.

OP i too am sorry you're having a hard time. Like I said, I don't know you or your regular eating habits. And even if they weren't so good, I'm not judging you. This journey is hard for everyone!! I only wanted to be supportive and offer help. I wasn't trying to patronize you.

There are some terrible trolls on here. One member in particular is very cruel and sarcastic in her comments, I don't know why she still comes on here so much since she clearly doesn't care what people are going through. I've noticed a few others in her pack. I don't like when they post to my threads and wish they wouldn't. I don't understand their harshness and I'm sorry for you if you were hurt. There are good people here and mean ones as well.

I live in fear of weight regain and truthfully I don't follow "plan" very well so it's a real possibility for me. I do hope you are doing okay and you and you have all the support you need in real life.

I wonder if this has more to do with losing muscle as you age? I have read that losing muscle mass is very common as we grow older.

No, not everyone. But most. It started for me around 6 months and lasted about 4 months.

It can and WILL give you an ulcer. Make it harder to heal, give you more loose skin, etc etc. please don't do it.

I began smoking after my surgery and smoked heavily for 6 months. Wtf was I thinking! I quit at last and am so glad I did. I was just replacing food with another oral addiction.

My doctor explained I would get ulcers from it and also I saw myself actually aging from it.

I know you can do this!! You can stay quit!!! Just keep saying, every day that passes I will want to smoke less.

Mine still does it over a year out gurgling.

Hahahaha cowgirl Jane. Love you.

I don't care for sex early either but man that animal

Attraction sometimes kicks in