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@eclecktic---- no sex at all in 2 years? While sleeping in the same bed? I don't know, I'm thinking there's gotta be more to this. He can't be ashamed because like you said, he doesn't correct when people introduce you as a couple. Does he mind if you see someone else since your JUST friends? ....

@eclecktic---- no sex at all in 2 years? While sleeping in the same bed? I don't know, I'm thinking there's gotta be more to this. He can't be ashamed because like you said, he doesn't correct when people introduce you as a couple. Does he mind if you see someone else since your JUST friends? ....

*First is my MAJOR scale victory, I am 100lbs down as of Sunday. Hw 290, Sw 282, Cw 190 from a size 20/22 to a size 8/10. Shoe from size 9W to an 8 regular.
*I no longer snore at all, which is big for me since it recently started and was so loud and disruptive to both my family and I. Now, nothing at all, they say im so silent they wonder if im breathing. I sleep so much better and more comfortably.
*Also, the late night cravings have gone away and I never wake up at night anymore so no more late night snacking.
*I no longer have pain from my Fibromyalgia and have stopped my medications completely!!!! I hate meds!!
******Sad to say that I have had serious negative responses to "MY LIFE" decision, here are some of the daggers in my heart...
-I've had family tell me, I didn't need the surgery, I was pretty enough even though I was "BIG"! As if I am so vein that I would do something so serious to my body just to look good...smh
-I was told, "I don't like this on u, it's not YOU, you're not meant to be this small"...SMH
Then, "I could never make myself sick every day just to look good". WAH? Who's that, I'm not sick at all...uneducated speakers make me wanna vomit if that's what u mean...UGH.
-another family member, "don't lose no more, we have enough crackheads out here, wouldn't want people to get the wrong idea". WTF???
THEN THE ABSOLUTE WORST OF ALL.....
-My husband threw me a big party when I hit my first goal of 200lbs. I invited all my favorite girls to a Glam Session to do makeovers and a photo shoot (my first pics public photos other than on BP) as a girls night but also as a celebration of my successes since at that time, I had also gotten a raise at work (Which is also suspect), a new luxury apt and a new car. I struggled over 2 years to gain these things from a 1 bedroom box apartment and no car to the new life that my hard work paid for. Do you know one friend was heard saying, "Why she gotta show off, now she think she something special because she lost weight, who's gonna shrink her head?" This hurt me the most because my husband offered me anything I wanted to Celebrate and all I asked is that he treat me and my girls, 17 of us to catered food from Carrabbas (My Fav), dj for the room, make up sessions with Mary Kay, we had a pure romance presentation, a man that was selling jewelry to enhance our look and a photographer to document the whole evening and take personal photo shoots as well, all this at no cost to them and this man made that happen just to celebrate me and my accomplishments and I was extremely thankful beyond belief but also so hurt by not only the person making the comment but the 4 that entertained her, 2 by saying, "that's alright, when she fall, she gonna fall hard" "she got a new 2014 car but just asked me for $60 bucks just last week, she's a phony" -this was when I lost my bank card and had to wait for another and she was with me so I asked her instead of calling my husband. Lesson learned!
Basically I learned that people are not always who you think they are. Thank God I did what I did for me and not to impress anyone or seeking anyone's approval. I am happy with my decision and since I've noticed that ppl seem to be down for you as long as you stay down in life...on their level perhaps but the minute you move up, now your not good enough for them. I have since been uninvited to 4 events and the excuse was, " Oh I thought You'd be busy or traveling" REALLY? I was suppose to be celebrating but I literally cried for 3 days. Beyond the gains (materials) and the losses(weight), I thought I had support. I learned an ugly lesson that day and here's some I wish to pass on...
Make your moves for YOU!, Seek only approval from YOU! Make sure you have a true support system. Then my daughter sent me a comment picture that reads,"Don't dim your light simply because it's shining in their eyes" That's for you too. Be positive and don't let the haters tear you down.
I don't have a positive relationship with my family, been on my own since 16, so these women have always been around but now that I can't even share my life losses or gains with them...my husband is taking me away from it all, no more pain, no more tears, no more haters, we are moving to California, his home town and I will make new friends and hope and pray to share a good life together. He even says we will renew our vows so I can get a new dress vs the size 26 I had to wear in Jamaica. After 18 years, we will renew our vows in Santa Monica!!! Haven't told any of them yet but I bet they act like they care... but they probably don't and who cares, I'm over it!! It will be a last minute goodbye and an AWESOME 2015!!!!

I am happy and I will continue to be, I could have uplifted others but I will reach out to the real ones and help bring them up and we can pray together for those too busy hating on others to ever come up in life!! Good riddance to em'...
Love you guys, needed to get that out!! Thanks, whew!

Hey all! I'm reading all of your posts and am absolutely amazed at all of your results! I was sleeved 8/20 & am only down 55 lbs. Some of you are 90 lbs down?! Wow! I pray to have your success!
On another note, my church is having a weight loss challenge (probably because they all notice my results and want to compete, I won the last contest and then gained it all back plus).
My husband & sister, who are the only people who know about my surgery, both say it's immoral for me to compete in the challenge. But I still have to exercise and eat right. And all the women want to "beat" me, so I would provide "inspiration". What do you guys think? To compete or not to compete? That is the question...

I'm laughing at Music1618 because I can totally relate! I'm only 5 weeks postop and am in a stall. Everyone in these forums have told me it's normal so I'm staying positive. The only regret I had was feeling dog tired the first 2 weeks until the puréed foods stage. I felt lethargic and close to comatose but couldn't get good sleep. I thought I would be like that forever, very upset. Sex drive is thru the roof but have also had rambling crying bouts. (Scared my kids, now they think it was funny). And I see people eating great tasty foods and I want in but the sleeve brings me back to reality. AND I discontinued my hypertension medicine after one week. Oh, also the gall bladder medicine they put me on gave me a bad rash. Other than that... No regrets.

Remember how you felt whenever someone around you decided to go on a diet and thought you should join them? Or kept you informed of every detail of exercise or meal calorie count? He's feeling the same way... YOU made the decision to change YOUR life. After he sees your commitment AND success maybe it will motivate him to change. If you're really concerned just refuse to buy or stock the fridge with the dangerous foods (sodas, processed foods etc.) Let him get those things himself. My husband and kids are a little irritated when I shop now but I think they're are sifting through the foods to experience new healthy tastes and are acquiring new tongues...

I had the sleeve 8/20 and have never had heartburn. Before my sleeve I was diagnosed with gastritis and put on pantoprazole because of the heartburn. My surgeon requires all his patients to take it for 3 months after the surgery and he just took me off on Friday. So far I'm fine and am praying that I never need it again. And I pray yours is controllable too... ????

My hips used to kill me. My knees used to ache. I'm only 3 months out 45 pounds down and am running up stairs. (Sometimes 2 at a time) off BP medicine and feel great. Sure you can take pain pills your whole life but why would you want to?
I think it's just as risky having needles injected into your spine! If not the RNY try the sleeve. It's YOUR body, you have to be your best advocate...

Remember how you felt whenever someone around you decided to go on a diet and thought you should join them? Or kept you informed of every detail of exercise or meal calorie count? He's feeling the same way... YOU made the decision to change YOUR life. After he sees your commitment AND success maybe it will motivate him to change. If you're really concerned just refuse to buy or stock the fridge with the dangerous foods (sodas, processed foods etc.) Let him get those things himself. My husband and kids are a little irritated when I shop now but I think they're are sifting through the foods to experience new healthy tastes and are acquiring new tongues...

I literally LAUGHED OUT LOUD! Lol I also play the "that size" game. I think we go through our lives with a different image than what others see, so it's a good reference exercise. And I'm the opposite when dining out because even healthy choices come in huge portions. I eat 3 bites of a salad and then box the rest. I know my people are thinking I'm taking this "diet thing" too far. (I haven't told anyone either) When I go out with my husband and kids I don't bother to order. I just eat one bite off of each of their plates and drink Water. We're saving money and they're ok with it, now. I always enjoy your posts... ????

It's obviously that the curve is affecting your health. If your condition improved after the endoscopy and then reverted, I think it's safe to assume the curve has also reverted. BE FIRM AND AGGRESSIVE with your doctor. It's your health so you MUST be your own advocate. I pray that you get better soon and keep us informed regarding your recovery.

I literally LAUGHED OUT LOUD! Lol I also play the "that size" game. I think we go through our lives with a different image than what others see, so it's a good reference exercise. And I'm the opposite when dining out because even healthy choices come in huge portions. I eat 3 bites of a salad and then box the rest. I know my people are thinking I'm taking this "diet thing" too far. (I haven't told anyone either) When I go out with my husband and kids I don't bother to order. I just eat one bite off of each of their plates and drink Water. We're saving money and they're ok with it, now. I always enjoy your posts... ????

I only told my husband and sister. I tell everyone else I'm "going hard" on my new diet. They're going to see a change even that close post op. They'll admire you're dedication. After all it IS a new diet...

@eclecktic---- no sex at all in 2 years? While sleeping in the same bed? I don't know, I'm thinking there's gotta be more to this. He can't be ashamed because like you said, he doesn't correct when people introduce you as a couple. Does he mind if you see someone else since your JUST friends? ....

It's obviously that the curve is affecting your health. If your condition improved after the endoscopy and then reverted, I think it's safe to assume the curve has also reverted. BE FIRM AND AGGRESSIVE with your doctor. It's your health so you MUST be your own advocate. I pray that you get better soon and keep us informed regarding your recovery.

Hey, Aug 20th... Down 38 lbs and on another stall. I think it's my fault with eating candy. But starting today I'm back on it. I've been setting weekly goals and I think once I get serious again I'll be fine. No problems, I can tolerate everything that goes in except bread. Bread is my enemy... Congrats to all of you doing so well!

What an amazing NSV!

Took my son to FL to see the EX & family... one day it was raining, so X-mother in law wanted to go shopping... we all went.
She picked out 2 form fitting dresses - SIZE 10!!
I go into the dressing room with just her waiting for me, to coming out of dressing room to everyone waiting...
Ex-Husband says "HOT DAMN ummm.. REMIND ME WHY WE ARENT TOGETHER?"... my reply "cause you were an idiot" and his mother & Sister laugh agreeing with me...
how does the saying go....
Flight to FL $400
New Dresses $150
Expression on Ex's Face... PRICELESS!!!

Congrat! This seems like an AMAZING accomplishment. Could you explain what "no sugar" means? I would like to break my addiction also but does it include artificial sweeteners, or foods that have hidden sugars, fruits, etc...? Could you give us a list of foods or a sample menu? Just to help me understand if it's a goal I wanna shoot for..

Congrat! This seems like an AMAZING accomplishment. Could you explain what "no sugar" means? I would like to break my addiction also but does it include artificial sweeteners, or foods that have hidden sugars, fruits, etc...? Could you give us a list of foods or a sample menu? Just to help me understand if it's a goal I wanna shoot for..

@eclecktic---- no sex at all in 2 years? While sleeping in the same bed? I don't know, I'm thinking there's gotta be more to this. He can't be ashamed because like you said, he doesn't correct when people introduce you as a couple. Does he mind if you see someone else since your JUST friends? ....

Congrat! This seems like an AMAZING accomplishment. Could you explain what "no sugar" means? I would like to break my addiction also but does it include artificial sweeteners, or foods that have hidden sugars, fruits, etc...? Could you give us a list of foods or a sample menu? Just to help me understand if it's a goal I wanna shoot for..

Your looking like a fool with your pants on the ground. =)

@eclecktic---- no sex at all in 2 years? While sleeping in the same bed? I don't know, I'm thinking there's gotta be more to this. He can't be ashamed because like you said, he doesn't correct when people introduce you as a couple. Does he mind if you see someone else since your JUST friends? ....