mousecrazy

I just read through this entire thread, and decided to risk the following contribution: regardless of the cause of loneliness, one thing that always works to make you feel better...REALLY better, not the temporary better of drinking, drugs and food...is to DO SOMETHING for others. Serving others, finding a purpose for life besides yourself, is something that will help you fill the lonely spot.
The secret is that the serving others thing can't be done to make yourself look good, because that is really serving yourself.
I hope this suggestion is taken in the spirit given...it is sad to read of all the loneliness and hurt. Let's get out there and DO SOMETHING! God knows, there's plenty to do.

Now THAT would totally freak me OUT! No possums looking in the sunroof during kissing! No, NO, NOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!
I'd have to trade in the car......
Thanks for the laugh!

Glad your house survived the pruning project Betty!!! My poor trees looked like they had been butchered when DH and DS pruned them last fall/winter. Now some are in full bloom (in my immediate back yard, I have 2 apple, 2 pear, a cherry, an apricot, a plum and 2 maple trees), others have bloomed and are leafing out. Spring is happening whether the weather wants to commit each day or not!!!
We got the yard finished today---the last of the flower beds are now cleaned out, and he edged everything...now we go on to upkeep! I want to go all out with flowers this year. I have tons of family coming for Mom & Dad's 50th anniversary, and I want to do a big cookout (my DD wants to re do the luau), the night before, so all the family can be together. My back yard is the obvious place to do it---so I would love for it to look spectacular!!! So Rick tells me today he thinks he will build a 2 car garage in the corner of the yard----which means with his schedule, it would be under construction just when I want it to be pretty! I sense an impasse in the future!!!
So Beannie---do you have another interview tomorrow, or have you already made your decision?
Mandy---prayers going up for your friend. My Dad has coronary artery disease. He has the healthiest diet of anyone I know, he walks 5-6 miles a day. Not too bad for a 74 year old man. He has had one mild heart attack following bypass surgery---which he has had twice. They told him with the original bypass surgery it would last 5-10 years. He had to have the second surgery 23 years later! He has had countless angiograms, and angioplasties. He has 5 coronary stents, and 2 renal stents. His arteries, are just terrible, and he does everything he can to keep them healthy. Right now we are waiting to have his carotid arteries done---it is a fine line to find the right time to do them...so we wait. Sometimes it is genetic, that is what killed my Grandad. One of the BIG, GIANT, HUGE reasons I am banded. If I have to fight this the way they did, I did not need the weight to be an added issue. With my weight, my family history, and the fact that I was born with a heart murmur, I would have bet our bottom $$$ that I would be the one to land in the cardiologist office---not Rick!!! He has no family history, and was always a healthy weight, and in overall good health. But his mitral valve just went kaplooey---no warning! It doesn't always make sense. But they CAN and DO do amazing things---they can repair a heart in ways I never realized!!! They actually cut Ricks back down to normal size! I like to tell him now he loves me less than he used to---he used to say he loved me with all his heart. Well now he has less heart----you do the math!!! OK, OK, Ok we will let our resident math student Beannie do the math!!!
Eileenie---hang in there, if we have to wait to see you on the weekends until you get settled, we will wait for ya---you're worth it!
Darcy---how was the cabin? Make any plans????
Patty---I am so glad Mom is on board, and ready to help you along. It will make your recovery easier, both having her there, and knowing she supports the decision. I am beyond happy for you!!!
Sherry---you poor thing you. When it rains it pours, and there is a typhoon going on at your place girl!!! Hoping this week is a HUGE improvement!!!
Chris---how was the date? Did you do anything fun? I used to like off the wall dates. My first "date" with Rick many, many years ago, we went target shooting. I have occasionally wondered if he was very trusting (me with a gun) or very stupid!!! dinner and a movie never really figured into our lives until after we married!
Cindy---how'd you spend your weekend? At the ballpark?
Mr Pat---how goes the healing process?
Ms. Pat---where the heck are you????
Deb---kids all well, keeping you busy now?
If I missed you it was not intentional. My brain is running out of steam!!! Hope everyone has a great week!!!
Kat

I love it here in ND. We can afford to live in the country here and have horses and pets and enjoy some peace and quiet, yet drive 10 miles in to town and shop at nearly every major store you can imagine. We have it all. OK so I will admit, winter was a little long and crazy this year.... but... I really like it here in ND.
Oh yeah, and my main reason for posting in this thread is to say that I have 6 kids. My husband and I work hard, have good insurance, don't rely on govt anything or welfare of any kind, we feed them well, we take good care of them, we homeschool even though our tax dollars go to the public school system and we have to pay for all our homeschool supplies out of our pockets...... we are not super religious bible thumping freaky people who drink blood or anything else (well, my husband does like his bourbon on occasion but who doesn't??). We are NORMAL people who wanted a big family. We used to believe we were QUIVERFULL minded but, I believe my quiver is FULL and I am done having kids. I associate with a lot of quiverfull folks because they, like me, have larger families and we talk about how to feed and care for our larger families and laundry and all sorts of large family issues. I must say that I don't know hardly any of them who rely on govt. for anything either (welfare or food stamps or anything like that). Anyhoo.... My children are healthy, happy, thriving, they have everything a kid could want including acres and acres of trees to climb, horses to ride, dogs and cats to love..... they have it all. We really do have it all. And we have worked hard for it all and no one has given us anything. So........ that's my thoughts on the topic.
From a mom of 6 kids
the baby of 6 kids
whose mom was one of 13 kids
and I love love love the family reunions when we get to see our 200+ cousins, it is such a blast.

If that could indeed happen, I'm sure women would not like it. You see, that's because they don't just want to be "not pregnant." They want to not have a baby, and not even know that someone else might have their baby. They want a dead baby.
I have to run too. I'll be gone for a few days

Mouse, I very much agree with you with you and, by the way, I would like to congratulate you on your weight loss. You have only got another 20 lbs to go. This is my situation, too, but those remaining lbs are, I fear, going to be a challenge.
And 396, it is nice to see that you and your wife will be walking the walk together. I know that you will both enjoy the lap band trip.
From the coverage which I have been reading of the Virginia Tech situation, the young man in question had been seriously mentally ill for many, many years before he perform this heinous act of destruction. It seems that he was an odd child when he still very young and was living in Korea. And it is said that he was a weirdo throughout his high school years. He certainly raised red flags at VT long before his final day on earth. So what could have been done?
The problem is that this issue of effectively dealing with this lunatic before he acted out really pivotted protecting on his individual civil rights as balanced against maintaining the health of the community with whom he came in contact. His civil rights won and though this was especially regrettable in this case I believe that this is the right way to protect us all as individuals from the community.
I still do believe that we as individuals must put the well-being of our community above our own selfish interests but not at the sacrifice of our civil rights.
I believe that one way of ensuring improved safety in schools and universities where so many of these crazed gun sprees take place would be to set up an effective warning system. A woman who wrote into one of the newspapers which I read suggested sirens which I thought was a good idea and an inexpensive one. She had lived in England throughout World War II and vividly remembered the sirens which warn the citizens that enemy bombers had been sighted. I remember my own mother - who lived in Bristol - talking about the sirens.

Good Morning Y'all!
I just visited the rest of the site a while ago, first chance I really had to really look around.
Mandy - Sorry you are feeling bad, Hope you feel better today. My thoughts are with your friend and I will keep him in my prayers.
Beanie - Wow, that is really cool you found something so fast and right near home too!
Eileen - Glad your gal came out of surgery good. That must be a very trying time to go and wait that out. Hugs for being such a special person. Good luck with your new job, knock them dead! You can do it!
Darcy - I don't know why I thought you were missing, I guess I just missed your post or read it and the old brain didn't register it! You know they say the mind is the first thing to go!
Sherry - Awwwww, sweetie, things have to get better! I'll send good vibes to you! Hugs!
Dang, I have to go check things out, I took a bread and DH is cutting tree limbs down and I think one just hit the house. Yikes!
Later!

Good Morning,
This is all you'll probably see of me until next saturday LOLOL so .....
Mandy sorry to hear about your friend's dh omg... thats to sad. But on a lighter note WHOOT on the good test results
Today is MIL's 80th birthday and we are celebrating at noon time b/c its hard for FIL to stay awake, so I'll be doing a little cooking this morning, sausage & peppers and yes..... spinach dip (made that last night b/c its better the day before).
Got a busy week coming up, the lady who is leaving (the new job I'm taking) this is her last week... I HAVE NO NAILS LEFT!!!!! lol, so I'm gonna be freaked out to try to squeeze in every last bit of info from her.
Other than that...sosdd
And you ?
Have a great week everyone.
Love yah, Eileen

I say we take a poll. If more than 50% of the people on the forum think Jack should move, he'll have until midnight on May 1, 2007 to be out of his house.

Howdy, All.
The interview yesterday went GREAT. The money sucks - but I really like the people that I met, the job is 10 minutes from my house IN TRAFFIC and it is a no-brainer, non-taxing kind of job. PERFECT for while I am going to school. The gal that interviewed me was down with the concept that I will be going to school and was still into having me work there. She pushed the salary to the limit for the job title and I told her I would think about it.
I will probably take this one - it has everything I need right now - and the pay is about the same as I would make as a first year teacher.... Might as well make my budget adjustments, now...
I have to run - DH and I are finally going out to the Scarborough Faire today. Walking, walking, walking - while we eat 400 things "on a stick".
Love you guys!!!

Thank goodness for finally getting good weather at least something went right this week. I'm actually looking forward to the begining of a new week starting tomorrow
What a lousy week!
Sunday - Family stuff going on that I don't believe in or like and it's under my own roof. Really upsetting for DH and myself yet nothing we can do. Both of us are feeling sick and cranking and this didn't help. Lets say lots of childhood crap came back and it was really unpleasant.
Monday - Husband sick, I left work early because I felt sick. Surprise tax bill had to be paid.
Tuesday - Husband still sick, I left work early because felt sick, finally convinced DH to go to doc but of course ours is closed so have to go out of network and pay cash for the visit. At the doc I get the dreaded phone call. "Ma, I've been in an accident but, I'm ok" I hear the sirens in the background and turns out it's down the street from the walk-in clinic I'm at with DH. EMT gets on the phone says he's gotta go to the hospital and I convinced them to stop and get me on their way by. I ran out and look down the road to see fire trucks, ambulances and police cars knowing my son was in that mess! Trip to hopsital, tests later...broken hip but, they can't handle pediatric trama so 45 min ride in ambulance up to Childrens Hospital in Boston. Accident was at 5:30, Ride to Boston at 11:00. Tests at Childrens...CT scans, Contrast scans, more xrays.
Wednesday-1:30 am finally find out all organs are ok, broken/fractured left hip in two places and hand possibly has a fracture that couldn't be pickedup but it's swollen. Whew...now we know he's ok. Try to fall asleep at 3am get up at 5am from docs in room. Physical therapy at 11:30, released from hospital by 3, home by 4-4:30 with pain meds, crutches lots of bruises. Son's work called and the game system he wanted they have on hold...no choice have to pick it up since he doesn't want to push it with his employer and will be out a while so DH picked it up $ later.
Thursday-Go to place my son's car was towed $ cash only, and let them take it as junked. My sinuses are now infected so had to call my doc and plead for a perscription telling her I can't leave my son to come up there. She finally calls one in and forgets yet again that I have the lapband. So I'm now opening capsules, pouring it onto applesauce and taking it that way. DH forgot about a dentist visit, insurance only pays half of crown and dentist wants cash. (Anyone hearing a theme here with the money?)
Friday - Chatting with Crispy and she discovered that my last name on our reservations and tickets is her last name. UGH. She has to get that fixed, airline has to get in touch with her. Noticed the expensive garden ball I bought at a nice garden center for my mother's birthday a few years back was stolen from our front yard garden. Realized that I've now misplaced or lost $40 that was in my pocket. I may of dropped it at the pharmacy...no clue where it is. This kind of stuff really ticks me off because I just can't find it and with the week we've had we can't afford me doing that.
Saturday - Son needs to be registered for SATs cha-Ching, cripe I remember when the test was $24 or so. Front brakes on my car have to be replaced as they aren't working properly. DH has to buy the pads and other stuff to do it. When trying to take the tire off realized the "special" locking lug nuts tool is missing. Searched the entire house, car, toolbox..no where. Drive back out to Honda dealer see if we can get one. Nice man gave me one from his universal set...he'll let it slide this time (Oh boy...besides my son THANKFULLY not being seriously hurt..this is the first GOOD thing all week).
So it's now only 2:18PM Saturday...I only have a few more hours and it will be SUNDAY, SUNDAY, SUNDAY! Yippee...I pray it's a much better week. I'll still have to take Monday out of work because I need to go to my son's school to see if they can help me figure out how he'll get around in school, the meds etc. I have to run to the registry to turn in his plates...still have accident reports to complete, I just can't bring myself up to doing it right now. I peaked at my work emails oh brother!
I'll be back...DH wants me to go for a ride to make sure the brakes work. Ummmm keep your fingers crossed!

Hi, all. It's been a crazy day around here. My friends husband had a massive heart attack. He had to have emergency surgery, they are giving him a 50/50 chance. Please add him to any prayer list that you have access to, his name is Lee Petsche. We had family game night tonight and it turned into Disney planning night, but it was fun. I also took a short road trip (6 hours) with my mom today. She bought a motorized wheelchair on ebay and I went with her to get it. It is really nice.
I got the first round of tests back, they were normal. I am waiting for the next set to come back. I guess it's going to be the hysto, and it's not a tumor. I'll check in tomorrow.
BTW, Kat there is a white scale looking thing up by the post count that you can use to give rep points with. ~Mandy