TimeforTanya

Hi my surgery is June 23 and I too feel I will fail at times. What keeps my head up is the fact tht this is a actual procedure and I'd hate to have it done and it just be a useless device not utilized just hanging out inside me. Good luck to u.

Hi everyone. First I'd like to take a moment to tell everyone how encouraging and helpful you have been. And good job on All the weight loss...very inspiring. This is my first time posting but I've followed the threads for months. I'm scheduled for my band on June 23 and am very excited. Wondering how to deal with my best friend who is so unsupportive and negative about me getting the band. Hoping maybe you guys can help and any/all advice is welcome. My best friend is overweight as well and we both have been each others poison when it comes to food. Our friendship revolves around going out to eat, mainly Chinese buffets at least once a week. Both of us have had a lifelong battle with our weights. When I first mentioned the lap band she was so against it and told me I should loose weight the "right" way and not take the easy way out. Lol this is not the easy way out...as all of you know the band is a lot work. I've def educated her on it so idk why she would thnk tht. This week I got the call to schedule my surgery and all she said was "wow". The following day she called her insurance and started looking into it for herself. Later she tells me how sad it's gonna be since she can't do it w me cuz her insurance won't cover it. A couple days go by and She gave me hell to not do it cuz of hanging skin and looking "nasty". So rude btw. And we r never gonna be able to hang out anymore cu I'm never gonna be able to eat normal. I finally got annoyed with her and told her I've tried my whole life to loose weight and have failed and yoyo dieted since 14 (I'm now 28 )and it's not her business what I do. She then goes on to tell me ppl are gonna judge me for being lazy and taking the easy way out and ppl will make fun of me. Obviously I've made my choice and everyone in my life knows about it so why would I be Ashamed in any way. I knw I shouldn't care what she thnks but she is my best friend and in thinking maybe is jealous or worried tht she won't have an overweight buddy to support the eating habits? Has anyone ever dealt with a friend like this? I want her in my life and hope tht maybe she will be inspired by my journey and hope to make a difference for herself.

I knw this sounds nuts but u can get the baby bullet for 60 bucks from bed bath and beyond and walmart. It's supposed to be for baby food making but hey it works for small batches. I've used it for 2 years n it hasn't died on me yet (not for my band....im due for banding on the 23rd)

Congrats girlie! I can't wait until I'm at tht point!

Pink dahlia- I thnk ur def right tht our friendship will change. I have a feeling tht it may change for the worst. Thank you for ur response. I really appreciate it.

I've mentioned to her plenty of times "why aren't u doing it the right way then". And she tells me she's not ready for it or doesn't have time or is afraid her skin will hang n her husband will no longer be attracted to her. Of course she gets upset tht I even ask it.