Help!! My best friend of 25+ years has basically turned her back on me! I am so confused... My family keeps telling me it's jealously, but I just can't wrap my head around it. First off let me start by saying I didn't tell my BFF I was having gastric until after I had the surgery and was settled in my room. But hold on, I didn't tell anyone but my immediate family. Now my mom knew I was having surgery but was under the impression I was having lapband until 3 weeks before the surgery.... Sounds crazy, but I didn't tell my mom which surgery because she is a worry worm and has always been scared of gastric, I didn't tell my BFF because she always downs and talks very negative about any and everyone she knows that has had the surgery. (Even though she wanted the surgery but couldn't get it because her insurance didn't cover it) My doctor told me to make sure I had people that would support my decision to have surgery and not talk me out of it or talk negative about it. Fast forward 7 months.... All seemed to be ok for a while after she told me she was hurt because I didn't tell her and I apologized... A week or so after I had my surgery she went on a diet and joined the gym. I praised her told her that was great and that even though I had the surgery we could lose weight together! She said ok and seemed to be excited about it, but stopped calling & texting me. So again I initiated a gym schedule so that we could work out together and she agreed. So the 1st thing I noticed when we would go to the gym & do our cardio is her staring at me when I would enter my weight on the treadmill. So, I was thinking ok not really sure what's that's about but what ever. So some weeks go by and I'm noticing when I attempt to share with her anything about guys that are taking interest or how good I feel she cuts me off or jumps the subject... So, I make a note to self not to discuss personal things even though we've shared our personal life with one another for years & years... Next thing you know she's telling me how guys are taking interest in her and that her husband better get it together. So I listened and laughed and made sure not to talk about myself. So I was thinking ok this will work I can be a good listener.. Lol... Then she starts texting but only to report how much she has lost & to ask how much I have lost. (Well she started doing this early on & that would be the only reason she would text). So a few weeks ago she started skipping our gym dates.... A mutual friend told me she made a post on Facebook that she was at the gym. Needless to say it wasn't on our workout day. So the next day I went to the gym (on our regular day) thinking she would be there, but she never showed. So the next day comes and she was still a no show. . Now it's almost a month and she never comes on our 3 scheduled days during the week. No I didn't call or text to see why not because it is clear to me that she's really not my friend!!! ???? So now I get it, but I'm so sad!!!! I'm still ME I'm still the same person! Why is she making this a competition? Why would she ditch me? Ughhh. Has anyone else experienced anything like this? Please share your story with me. I need to make sure I'm not the crazy one!
330 starting weight and 72 years old will compound my problems. Would need to look for hygein and skin protection products - OTC and natural. Maybe Spandex will help outside the house? Plastic Surgery is not an option. I'm not a vain person but still concerned about appearance. Also, I plan on exercising but flapping skin might intefere? I'm fat right now but at least my skin is fairly tight- LOK!
Omg it Wednesday, tomorrow is the big day. I find out today what time. I have been a ball of emotions. Im ready though. Good luck to my fellow February sleevers.!!
I really have to say it is so worth it! I love seeing the scale go down every week. I love not feeling hungry all the time. I love pulling out clothes I have not worn for a couple of years. I love stopping eating when I am full. Good luck on an easy recovery.
Well I'm on the losers bench now. Sleeved 1/14! Feel pretty good. Slept most of yesterday from pain meds and today just feel like I did too many sit ups. Waiting for leak test and the. I can finally have something to drink!
I agree with what you said. My father died a week before his 55th bday due to coplications from obesity. So that has been my driving force to get healthy and to embrace life to the fullest. Sure I may have tried every diet road there was before going on this sleeve journey but the option of living a longer and healthier life has always look brighter!
I am going for my surgery tomorrow morning. I am 57. Am I scared? Sure, I'd be foolish not to be. But as I have told my husband, my risk of dying in the next year WITHOUT the surgery is greater than my risk WITH the surgery.
I made sure to go to "Bariatric Center of Excellence" and I am grateful they exist. For us older and/or more complex patients I think the quality assurance measures they promote far offset any additional costs. Good luck to you!
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