gruiz27

WOW!!! Great job. You look MARVELOUS girl.????????????????????

Congratulations on your success! I read often that many of us wish we had done it sooner, so it's great that you made this decision early to take care of yourself!

Way to go !!!!!!

Congrats! You look amazing!

Congratulations!

Congrats! You are so pretty.

Amazing!

You look amazing. All of your hard work has definitely paid off!!

1 year 8 months since surgery best thing I ever sis for myself and at a young age I have a whole new life ahead of me.
Age 21
Sw:346
Cw:175
Surgery date Feb 6 2014
From caterpillar to butterfly♡

1 year 8 months since surgery best thing I ever sis for myself and at a young age I have a whole new life ahead of me.
Age 21
Sw:346
Cw:175
Surgery date Feb 6 2014
From caterpillar to butterfly♡

1 year 8 months since surgery best thing I ever sis for myself and at a young age I have a whole new life ahead of me.
Age 21
Sw:346
Cw:175
Surgery date Feb 6 2014
From caterpillar to butterfly♡

1 year 8 months since surgery best thing I ever sis for myself and at a young age I have a whole new life ahead of me.
Age 21
Sw:346
Cw:175
Surgery date Feb 6 2014
From caterpillar to butterfly♡

1 year 8 months since surgery best thing I ever sis for myself and at a young age I have a whole new life ahead of me.
Age 21
Sw:346
Cw:175
Surgery date Feb 6 2014
From caterpillar to butterfly♡

1 year 8 months since surgery best thing I ever sis for myself and at a young age I have a whole new life ahead of me.
Age 21
Sw:346
Cw:175
Surgery date Feb 6 2014
From caterpillar to butterfly♡

1 year 8 months since surgery best thing I ever sis for myself and at a young age I have a whole new life ahead of me.
Age 21
Sw:346
Cw:175
Surgery date Feb 6 2014
From caterpillar to butterfly♡

1 year 8 months since surgery best thing I ever sis for myself and at a young age I have a whole new life ahead of me.
Age 21
Sw:346
Cw:175
Surgery date Feb 6 2014
From caterpillar to butterfly♡

Congrats on your wonderful success!

My surgery weight was 326 my current weight is 213. I've lost 112 pounds. In 6 months. I still want to loose another 60. I'm 20 years old and 5'7 .

I enjoyed reading these posts. I too have lost 70 pounds in 4 months. I'm no longer the fat girl. Men are noticing. I enjoy shopping now I understand what you going thru. Life is so much better. Sex is so much better

Do yourself a huge favor- go out and make more female friends asap!!!! Find new ones. The gym is a great place to do this. Find workout buddies! Take an art class, look for singles groups online for girlfriends.
It's so so important. If your world revolves around men it's going to be rough going.
I've also online dated a lot and still am. I love it. I let them take me out and wine and dine me and enjoy my company. If I'm not interested, then I don't go out with them again. I don't feel bad about that. I went through a highly sexual phase too and it was awesome. I didn't feel bad about it at all! I love sex (safe sex of course) and I love celebrating my new body. I never strung anyone along however.
Trust me, guys can handle the truth. Just explain to them what your going through.
It's okay to be real.
I hope you have found your perfect guy. remember there are soooo many fish in the sea if he turns out to be a codfish.
Now go out and make some female friends asap!!!!!!!

I relate to what your saying.
Having been in a bad marriage which largely contributed to my weight gain, feeling depressed and the lowest ugliest most difficult time of my life- getting out of that and losing weight was like getting out of jail. The relationship I was in smothered the hell out of me and it felt so good to get free.
When I started dating again I went a little crazy. I did eventually end up with a boyfriend- not hard to do looking like this. But I haven't been a very good girlfriend. I crave men's attention. It makes me feel so powerful,so wonderful.
When I was overweight I felt invisible to men which was crushing. Especially because I'd only been overweight for five years and I was used to being much more attractive. So to have that back now feels awesome!!!
I don't play with men's emotions but I do enjoy letting them take me on a date and getting their appreciation.
I think their are lines you can't cross here. Enjoy the attention of men, that's fine- but keep it professional. You don't need to sleep with everyone you meet. Look for one you actually want to be with, or keep it casual with all of them. You can enjoy sexy and your body, but make it clear to them where your at if your not looking for a relationship.
There is nothing shallow about enjoying your sexuality, your beauty, and your freedom. I am woman hear me roar!!
But whatever you do, don't forget about or screw over your female friends. They are the ones we need the most in life!!! Don't chose men over them or let men become a bigger priority.

I think that when you're the "fat girl" or the "fat friend" you feel invisible to men. In a way it's kind of a freedom that skinny girls don't have. Guys who talked to me were enjoying joking around and my personality, and I NEVER thought they were talking to me for my body.
Now that you have the body ... You're noticing the attention. I definitely think a therapist (I like CBT therapy) would help. I love my therapist!! I only go once a month or longer now, but it's nice to have.
As far as stringing guys along... Remember, like anything, just because you CAN doesn't mean you SHOULD.
Take care of yourself girl. We are all rooting for you!

I agree with Jackpot. Have some fun with your outer beauty but be conscious of your inner self.
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I don't think you're stuck-up and shallow; you're just getting used to the new slimmer you and what it can do. My weight has been up and down a lot over the years, but I have found that whenever I was back at a slimmer size, I became a lot more conscious of men, dating, etc... It's like you need that confirmation that you *have* lost weight and that you *are* attractive, because you've spent such a long time being disappointed when you look at yourself in the mirror, that the only way to make your weight-loss real is to have someone else appreciate it. All that's going to happen is that you keep relying on that male gaze to define you, with the result that if something doesn't go as planned with someone, you're more likely to go back to using food as comfort and letting your weight creep back up (personal experience speaking here).
My advice? Go on a man-diet! Try spending a month consciously choosing not to go on a date or hooking up with anyone; if a cute guy asks you out, turn him down or make plans for a few weeks from now to give yourself time to get to know him through messages, or whatever.
And in that time, take yourself out on dates. Go try new things, maybe even things you don't think you'll like. Plan a nice dinner with the goal of only pleasing yourself. Get a full length mirror if you don't already have one and just spend a little time every day looking at your body and thinking about all the things that it is able to do now that you're lighter, and just take the time to appreciate yourself without someone else having to tell you your worth.

I felt the same way when I lost weight the first time around without surgery. I was shallow and thought I was better than any other woman out there at the time. And yes, I played guys like a fiddle. Over the years, my weight came back plus a hell of a lot more. That made me realize that when I had my surgery, I wouldn't do that. I guess that happens with age. I can't tell you to not enjoy yourself, because I did at the time.