Wallflower7522

I should be getting a surgery date this week and I've only told a few people. My husband, brother, and a handful of friends are the only ones that know. I'm usually pretty open about stuff but I'm also very introverted when it comes to the heavy stuff and I can not bring myself to tell my family. I think they'll mostly be supportive but I also know they'll be overbearing. My parents haven't always been great and now it's like they try too hard. Our relationship is complicated to say the least. They'll want to "be there for me" but they'll only want to do what makes them feel better about it, and not do what i really need. I've had two minor surgeries this year and they stressed me out both times by trying to out "good parent" each other. My mom is a nurse so I'm hoping she'll at least be helpful but I just really don't want my dad around. He's not going to take this "rejection" well.
I also just really don't want people visiting me in the hospital or at home. I'm going to look and feel like crap and be stuck in a hospital gown that leaves me super exposed. And my house is going to be a wreck because I won't be able to clean it.
Unless my husband insist I tell his close family I'm going to tell my parents a few days before and ask that they respect my choice and my wishes. I have plenty of support from friends who've had the surgery so I think I'll be fine. I'll tell everyone else after when/if the time comes. I'm sure I'll get put on the "why didn't you tell me" guilt trip more times than I can count but I guess I have to do what's right for me.

I started in May and my final appointment is on the 8th. Hoping to have surgery in February. I could have done it a little faster, but I took my time in a few things. Good luck!