claramae

I am scared to death of get on the scales. In fact, I refuse to. I had 13 people here on Thanksgiving. I did most of the cooking and I ate most of it!!!!! My daughter, her hubbie and my 2 granddaughters were here plus my son in law's parents from Wednesday night to this morning(Saturday). So, you know we did a lot of eating. I am feeling so guilty!!! But not guilty enough to think about eating the left overs tonight for supper. However, tomorrow, anything left will go in the trash. I was supposed to get a fill on the 5th, but the dr. office called and cancelled. So, I will have to reschedule and I promise to get back on track tomorrow. Hopefully I have not done too much damage.:help::angry

Head hunger was the hardest thing I had to deal with. It is a mind over matter sort of thing. It does get better with time. Hang in there!!!!

This is my first holiday with my band. I know we can do this. After all we can only eat so much. I will eat small amounts and then later eat some more. You can do it!!!!

I am struggling not to cram everything in the ref. in my mouth!!!! I wil get straight to the point. My adult, 35 year old daughter is an alcholic!!! She has lost her teaching job. They have lost custody of her step daughter. Her marriage is on the brink. Everytime I would call her, or my other daughter, her sister, she would be drunk and there would be tons and tons of drama. As a result, we have distanced ourselves from her tragic life. I have told her over and over again that she needs to go to counseling, or to AA. Then she would start screaming at me at the top of her lungs. I in turn would usually react the same, screaming. Then I figured to let her rant and rave. Then she would verbaly attack me and I would tell her that when she calms down, we will continue the conversation later. Then I would go for weeks and not hear from her. Tonight she called me and told me that she is attending AA meetings and seeing a counselor. I gave her encouragement and was really petting her on the back. Then she starts screaming at me, asking me where I was when she needed me. Finally, after her screaming at me for several mintues, I told her that everytime I called her she was drinking!!! Well, she screamed at me and hung up. Five minutes, phone rang again and called ID was her number. Well, this time it was her husband wanting to know what in the hell I did to upset his wife. Might I add he has a drinking problem too. In total, we got 4 phone calls from them. I put her on speaker phone, so my husband(her step dad) could hear her screaming at me. I would say that I do not knowwhat to do, but I do know really. I should not accept phone calls from her when she is on a screaming fit. But I feel that I am abandoning her. Just the sound of my voice sends her off. I am sorry for going on and on about it. I just have to blow off steam, or I will eat everything in sight. On top of this, I go for my first fill tomorrow, and I am scared to death of that needle. I will not sleep a wink tonight.:help::think

Green, thanks for the kind and encouraging words. I have read every post here and thanks everyone!!! I try to distance myself from my daughter and her upside down life. When she calls me, sceaming where have you been, then I feel guilty. It takes me several days to shake the guilt off, but I finally dust myself off. First fill went great. If I did not know what he was doing, I would have not known anything was going on. I am on liquids the first 24 hours, so really I do not feel any restrictions yet. I appreciate you all so much. :love:

Green---thanks for the post. My husband called Jennifer this morning and then she spoke to me. It was like as if nothing ever happened last night. I honestly think she does not realize her screaming hysterics at me last night. Why is it always the mother's fault. We talked for several minutes and I told her I was there for her, but I cannot fix it for her. If I could, I would have a long time ago. Thanks everyone for the words. Hugs to everyone, Clara

What wonderful words of advise you all have given me and I do appreciate the response. Last night when I wrote the post, I was angry and hurt that she would lash out at me like that. Today, I am so depressed, I can not see how I will make it thru the day. I willl do it, one foot in front of the other. The words are almost exactly what my oldest daughter, who is a licensed practical counselor, who deals with substance people all day said. "Mother do not put your hand back in the fire"> Thanks again for the advice. I thank God everyday that I found this board. I have never seen anyone be judgemental; only supportive. Talk later, Clara

Bless your sweet heart. I am so sorry that happened to you. You can know this and rest assured that this is true. WHAT GOES AROUND, COMES AROUND!!!! Believe me, they will get their own just rewards. It may not be on this earth, but everyone has to pay for their actions. I got my band on August 27th. I have lost 30 pounds. Does not sound like much and I have a very long way to go. I told my husband the other day that I am happier than I have been in a long, long time because I am loosing weight and for once I feel good about something that I am doing. Sure, some people may look at me(and I am sure they do) and think, "My gosh, what a cow". But, I do believe I have a good heart and I never, never put people down. You said you were starting to be happy. Just remember how it feels to be happy and keep those thoughts in your head; not what those ingorant fools said. I am sorry they said that to you. You need to feel good about yourself, because everyone here feel good about your accomplishments.

Hello, my name is Clara. I live near Rockwall. I got my band on August 27 with Dr. Bryce at Lone Star LapBand. Good luck to you.

I live in Rockwall. I used Dr. Bryce with Lone Star LapBand. He uses Lakepoing Hospital in Rowlett. My step daughter used Dr. Wade Baker. He uses Doctors Hospital. I hope this helps.

My greatest fear is snakes. I cannot even look at a picture of one. And I live in the country, so you can imagine what lurks outside of my house. My son-in-law was bitten by a copper head, not once, but twice, the same snake!!!Also, mice. My God, I scream so loud, it bends metal. It makes DH so mad, but I tell him that he is the man of the house and it is his duty to protect me. Living in the country, when the weather starts turning cold, I can expect at least one of these little visitors. Plus, I have 4 cats!!! They are use less. Also, I am scared of Water. I cannot swim and have no interest in learning. Also, tornado terrify me. We live in Texas and we get our share. Last spring, one came to within a mile of our house, I have never been so scared in my life. I was in the closet with my precious dog. DH was standing at the open front door, keeping a lookout!!! (or maybe he was trying to keep the mice outside!!!)

I got my band on August 27th. I have lost 30 pounds. I would do it over again if I ever had to. My clothes are getting baggy. Where as before, I was fixing to go into a larger size. I still have a long way to go, probably 80 pounds, but I am happier than I have been in years and years. I am still a work in progress, but at least I at working in the right direction. Clara

I got my band on August 27th, so I am just a little ahead of you as far as time goes. When I was at your point, yes, I could have chewed my leg off. I was miserable and scared to death to eat too much. When i went on solid food, it did help. I will be getting my first fill on Friday, Oct. 12. I have lost a total of 30 pounds. My dr. said that is an average of 1.4 pounds a week and it will improve after my fill. Yes, I miss drinking my ice tea with my meal. Ice tea is my beverage of choice. I will drink ice tea even if it is 20 degrees outside!!! So, what you are feeling is normal. Just hang in there and keep up the good work!!! Clara

I seriously doubt that your band has slipped. You would be throwing up all over the place and be in pain. So, relax. If your dr. thought it had slipped, he would see you immediately. You did call him regarding your fears????

I would not have a clue as to what to do!!!! What would I use?? I do not have anything on hand that would do the trick. Plus, I am squmish even with pimples!!! So, no I would not

I don't think it will hurt. The majority of probably do cheat a little. Just get back on track.

I feel the same way that you do NMSunshine. I will be 59 on the 23rd of this month. I also want to continue to live a healthy active life. I do not want to to in a wheel chair, or in a nursing home due to a stroke. That is where I was headed. That is why I got my band.

I saw my dr. today. He is very pleased with my weight loss. I got the band on August 27 and I have lost 30 pounds. He said I was averaging 1.4 pounds weight loss a week and if I keep this up, that would be 74 pounds in a year!!!! Anyway, I will be getting my first fill next week. Little scared of it!!! He did say that I would do even better after the fill. After all I have been through, the awful liquid diet, being in the hospital for 5 days because my band slipped almost right away, it has all been worth it!!! When I was leaving his office, I had to show him how baggy my pants were getting. I know I will have to get some new clothes, but I do not want to hurry, because I do plan on contining loosing weight. At what point did you guys start buying new clothes.

I was banded on August 27. Up until about 1 week ago, I was doing great. However, now I am afraid to step on scales. I am hungry too often. I see my dr. on Friday and I just know he will schedule a fill.

Benson, Congratulations on making the decision to get the band. I was prepared to be a self pay, but the insurance company came through 2 days before the surgery. I do not understand how they can make a decision that this is not "life or death". For most of us, it is. Speaking for myself, I have many issues regarding being over weight. I am diabetic. I have severe arthurtis. I have had knee replacement and hip replacement. The diabetic condition can alone kill me. In fact, it did my mom. I saw myself going down the same path she did. I made the decision to change the direction of my path. I just hope and pray I did not wait too long. Good luck to you.