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OMG - this ex-friend sounds like a certified psychopath...I underwent weight loss surgery because of a family history of diabetes, heart disease and high blood pressure that would likely have KILLED me had I not lost as much weight as WLS helped me to lose. I was seeing health effects in me in my mid 40's that affected my Mama in her late 70's!!
Brush yo shoulders off and keep it moving, girlfriend - you made the right decision for YOU. She's gotta make her decision her way, and you've simply OUTGROWN her!

OMG - this ex-friend sounds like a certified psychopath...I underwent weight loss surgery because of a family history of diabetes, heart disease and high blood pressure that would likely have KILLED me had I not lost as much weight as WLS helped me to lose. I was seeing health effects in me in my mid 40's that affected my Mama in her late 70's!!
Brush yo shoulders off and keep it moving, girlfriend - you made the right decision for YOU. She's gotta make her decision her way, and you've simply OUTGROWN her!

OMG - this ex-friend sounds like a certified psychopath...I underwent weight loss surgery because of a family history of diabetes, heart disease and high blood pressure that would likely have KILLED me had I not lost as much weight as WLS helped me to lose. I was seeing health effects in me in my mid 40's that affected my Mama in her late 70's!!
Brush yo shoulders off and keep it moving, girlfriend - you made the right decision for YOU. She's gotta make her decision her way, and you've simply OUTGROWN her!

OMG - this ex-friend sounds like a certified psychopath...I underwent weight loss surgery because of a family history of diabetes, heart disease and high blood pressure that would likely have KILLED me had I not lost as much weight as WLS helped me to lose. I was seeing health effects in me in my mid 40's that affected my Mama in her late 70's!!
Brush yo shoulders off and keep it moving, girlfriend - you made the right decision for YOU. She's gotta make her decision her way, and you've simply OUTGROWN her!

OMG - this ex-friend sounds like a certified psychopath...I underwent weight loss surgery because of a family history of diabetes, heart disease and high blood pressure that would likely have KILLED me had I not lost as much weight as WLS helped me to lose. I was seeing health effects in me in my mid 40's that affected my Mama in her late 70's!!
Brush yo shoulders off and keep it moving, girlfriend - you made the right decision for YOU. She's gotta make her decision her way, and you've simply OUTGROWN her!

STAY AWAY.
You don't need her negativity in your life. If she wants to obsess over you, let her. It's creepy anyway.
I'll be your friend.

It seems a bit like a double standard.. She wants you to love yourself, but on her terms.. WLS isnt just about vanity, it is also about health. She seems to have many demons she needs to work out. Personally I think she is just taking your choice and creating a problem out of it to justify not dealing with her actual problems. Keep away from her.

Not to be mean or insensitive here but your former friend has some serious mental health issues...each person has to find their path in life and someone wanting to control ur life is not nor never was your friend. your decision to become thin is really not affecting her...she jealous that u will be successful
Whereas her previous attempts at thinness ended in failure. She wants u to be miserable with her. Let's be honest who chooses to be obese and have tons of obesity related illnesses. Be glad she ended the "friendship"..

Oh, blah blah blah. Your friend is a wordy b**ch.
Fataphobia...whatever.
She has created this whole little 'proud fat girl' identity for herself, which is fine, but it's her way of staying in denial about her own weight issues. She doesn't want to feel ashamed, or unattractive, or embarrassed about her weight so instead of trying to loose the weight she embraces being fat as this whole spiritual and emotional side of herself.
Your friend sounds like she is very smart but in some serious denial. She's also wicked manipulative to label those around her who want to loose weight as negative fatophobics. That's insane. And the fact that she continues to blog about you just shows how SHALLOW of a friend she is. There are some people who won't stand next to a pretty girl...skinny girl...successful girl...because they feel like standing next to one shines a spotlight on their shortcomings. She is insecure and I would place money on the fact that she is also secretly unhappy with her weight.

Wtf???????????
Omg my blood is boiling, it makes no sense to me? She wants to be around people that positive about their bodies but dumps you when you make the decision that you want to love yourself?
It's not healthy to be fat FOR MIND BODY AND SOUL? Why should you have to "accept" it and suffer in order for her "mental health" to be stable? It's your fucking life!! YOUR MENTAL HEALTH AND PHYSICAL HEALTH IS THE MAIN PRIORITY, forget her. She mustn't have been a great friend to begin with.
It sounds to be that she's maybe jealous because she knows you're going to succeed? One if the first lines was "us fatties" so I'm assuming she's overweight and in denial with the "fat acceptance" bullshit.

she is a very disturbed woman. you need to stop reading things she writes. you need to make a promise to yourself that you are letting her go 100%. that you will not look up things she writes online, you will not think about her, that you will move on so you can start a new life that is positive and healthy. walk away, move on, let her go. pursuing her will only bring you pain. you deserve better. cut her loose in your head and give yourself a loving break.

Hi Everyone!
We are ON for the first Bariatric Pal Support Group - New London County (Norwich, Groton, New London) meeting tonight! We're meeting at the Otis Library in Norwich, 261 Main Street, Norwich, CT 06360. We'll be in the Meeting Room on the 2nd floor (there's an elevator if desired). There is some street parking, and some parking behind the building, and parking lots across the street from the library.
I look forward to seeing all interested parties there! I'll have an icebreaker activity for us, get everyone a schedule of upcoming meeting dates (which I will also post here) and we'll "take the pulse" of the group to find out what types of subjects people are interested in, what kind of resources would be helpful, etc.
This is OUR group - let's all contribute to making it the best it can be! See you tonight!

Hi Everyone!
We are ON for the first Bariatric Pal Support Group - New London County (Norwich, Groton, New London) meeting tonight! We're meeting at the Otis Library in Norwich, 261 Main Street, Norwich, CT 06360. We'll be in the Meeting Room on the 2nd floor (there's an elevator if desired). There is some street parking, and some parking behind the building, and parking lots across the street from the library.
I look forward to seeing all interested parties there! I'll have an icebreaker activity for us, get everyone a schedule of upcoming meeting dates (which I will also post here) and we'll "take the pulse" of the group to find out what types of subjects people are interested in, what kind of resources would be helpful, etc.
This is OUR group - let's all contribute to making it the best it can be! See you tonight!

Good evening!
We're set up in Norwich to use the Otis Library at 261 Main Street, Norwich, CT 06360 beginning on Wednesday, June 11th from 6 pm to 8 pm for the kick-off meetings for the Norwich / Groton / New London area.
If you'd like to come and check out the group, please RSVP via email to me via this page, or via email at dianne.m.daniels@gmail.com.
I look forward to seeing everyone there, and helping you be successful in your weight loss journey!

Like you, I told very few people about my surgery - only my family and a couple of trusted friends. I had my surgery in Nov 2008 and now, over 5 years later, I still am not speaking to some of the people I knew "before". It's as if they had placed me in the category of "fat, safe girlfriend" and when I moved out of the "fat" category, I was no longer "safe".
Don't you let ANYONE stop you on your journey to better health! It sounds like you have your head on straight, and that you are strong enough to survive the loss of former 'friends' and keep on stepping. If you had cancer (God forbid) those same people would be encouraging you to do whatever was necessary to prolong your life and to maintain your quality of life. Since your drastic change came about in the form of weight loss, their attitudes now need adjusting.
It's that old truth - people don't mind you doing better...as long as you're not doing better than THEY are! Your accomplishment takes away their excuses - once they know someone who has conquered the 'weight problem' they no longer have an excuse for NOT doing the same thing.
Hang in there - I know very well the road you are traveling...keep on going until you reach YOUR goal. Don't listen to those who tell you that "You're getting too skinny", or "Haven't you lost enough weight?". Unless you are endangering your health, don't stop until you reach your goal!:-)

747 heavy - pretty soon you're going to have to change your name to 747 light! Congrats on setting a great tone for your recovery and for the rest of your life!
Your workouts sound amazing - keep up the good work! I found that exercise was my saving grace when I was first banded in 2008 - I hadn't been very active before that, and I started with walking, then added in the gym work as I got lighter and my knees stopped hurting as much.
I applaud you on your success so far and will be interested to see your progress.

747 heavy - pretty soon you're going to have to change your name to 747 light! Congrats on setting a great tone for your recovery and for the rest of your life!
Your workouts sound amazing - keep up the good work! I found that exercise was my saving grace when I was first banded in 2008 - I hadn't been very active before that, and I started with walking, then added in the gym work as I got lighter and my knees stopped hurting as much.
I applaud you on your success so far and will be interested to see your progress.

Lorena - PLEASE be careful! Your body is still healing from surgery, and while that pizza may have gone down, you were fortunate. Getting badly 'stuck' at this point in your recovery could earn you a trip back to the hospital.
The band is just a tool - nothing more - it does not take away our desire for less-nutritious food, nor does it force us to eat healthier foods. NOW is the time to change your eating habits. NOW is the time to read - and re-read - your nutritional guidelines as given by your doctor and / or nutritionist. You should NOT be eating pizza at this point - and definitely NOT the kind of pizza you were eating before surgery.
While you may not have a lot of restriction right now, you DO have the responsibility to yourself to start eating like a bandster. You should be focusing on healthier foods and staying away from what got you in position to get the lap band in the first place. This might sound harsh - and believe me, at nearly 6 years out, I'm also talking to myself - but YOU have got to set the tone for the rest of your life.
Leave that pizza alone, girlfriend, and get back on track!

Lorena - PLEASE be careful! Your body is still healing from surgery, and while that pizza may have gone down, you were fortunate. Getting badly 'stuck' at this point in your recovery could earn you a trip back to the hospital.
The band is just a tool - nothing more - it does not take away our desire for less-nutritious food, nor does it force us to eat healthier foods. NOW is the time to change your eating habits. NOW is the time to read - and re-read - your nutritional guidelines as given by your doctor and / or nutritionist. You should NOT be eating pizza at this point - and definitely NOT the kind of pizza you were eating before surgery.
While you may not have a lot of restriction right now, you DO have the responsibility to yourself to start eating like a bandster. You should be focusing on healthier foods and staying away from what got you in position to get the lap band in the first place. This might sound harsh - and believe me, at nearly 6 years out, I'm also talking to myself - but YOU have got to set the tone for the rest of your life.
Leave that pizza alone, girlfriend, and get back on track!

Lorena - PLEASE be careful! Your body is still healing from surgery, and while that pizza may have gone down, you were fortunate. Getting badly 'stuck' at this point in your recovery could earn you a trip back to the hospital.
The band is just a tool - nothing more - it does not take away our desire for less-nutritious food, nor does it force us to eat healthier foods. NOW is the time to change your eating habits. NOW is the time to read - and re-read - your nutritional guidelines as given by your doctor and / or nutritionist. You should NOT be eating pizza at this point - and definitely NOT the kind of pizza you were eating before surgery.
While you may not have a lot of restriction right now, you DO have the responsibility to yourself to start eating like a bandster. You should be focusing on healthier foods and staying away from what got you in position to get the lap band in the first place. This might sound harsh - and believe me, at nearly 6 years out, I'm also talking to myself - but YOU have got to set the tone for the rest of your life.
Leave that pizza alone, girlfriend, and get back on track!

Lorena - PLEASE be careful! Your body is still healing from surgery, and while that pizza may have gone down, you were fortunate. Getting badly 'stuck' at this point in your recovery could earn you a trip back to the hospital.
The band is just a tool - nothing more - it does not take away our desire for less-nutritious food, nor does it force us to eat healthier foods. NOW is the time to change your eating habits. NOW is the time to read - and re-read - your nutritional guidelines as given by your doctor and / or nutritionist. You should NOT be eating pizza at this point - and definitely NOT the kind of pizza you were eating before surgery.
While you may not have a lot of restriction right now, you DO have the responsibility to yourself to start eating like a bandster. You should be focusing on healthier foods and staying away from what got you in position to get the lap band in the first place. This might sound harsh - and believe me, at nearly 6 years out, I'm also talking to myself - but YOU have got to set the tone for the rest of your life.
Leave that pizza alone, girlfriend, and get back on track!

Lorena - PLEASE be careful! Your body is still healing from surgery, and while that pizza may have gone down, you were fortunate. Getting badly 'stuck' at this point in your recovery could earn you a trip back to the hospital.
The band is just a tool - nothing more - it does not take away our desire for less-nutritious food, nor does it force us to eat healthier foods. NOW is the time to change your eating habits. NOW is the time to read - and re-read - your nutritional guidelines as given by your doctor and / or nutritionist. You should NOT be eating pizza at this point - and definitely NOT the kind of pizza you were eating before surgery.
While you may not have a lot of restriction right now, you DO have the responsibility to yourself to start eating like a bandster. You should be focusing on healthier foods and staying away from what got you in position to get the lap band in the first place. This might sound harsh - and believe me, at nearly 6 years out, I'm also talking to myself - but YOU have got to set the tone for the rest of your life.
Leave that pizza alone, girlfriend, and get back on track!

Lorena - PLEASE be careful! Your body is still healing from surgery, and while that pizza may have gone down, you were fortunate. Getting badly 'stuck' at this point in your recovery could earn you a trip back to the hospital.
The band is just a tool - nothing more - it does not take away our desire for less-nutritious food, nor does it force us to eat healthier foods. NOW is the time to change your eating habits. NOW is the time to read - and re-read - your nutritional guidelines as given by your doctor and / or nutritionist. You should NOT be eating pizza at this point - and definitely NOT the kind of pizza you were eating before surgery.
While you may not have a lot of restriction right now, you DO have the responsibility to yourself to start eating like a bandster. You should be focusing on healthier foods and staying away from what got you in position to get the lap band in the first place. This might sound harsh - and believe me, at nearly 6 years out, I'm also talking to myself - but YOU have got to set the tone for the rest of your life.
Leave that pizza alone, girlfriend, and get back on track!

Lorena - PLEASE be careful! Your body is still healing from surgery, and while that pizza may have gone down, you were fortunate. Getting badly 'stuck' at this point in your recovery could earn you a trip back to the hospital.
The band is just a tool - nothing more - it does not take away our desire for less-nutritious food, nor does it force us to eat healthier foods. NOW is the time to change your eating habits. NOW is the time to read - and re-read - your nutritional guidelines as given by your doctor and / or nutritionist. You should NOT be eating pizza at this point - and definitely NOT the kind of pizza you were eating before surgery.
While you may not have a lot of restriction right now, you DO have the responsibility to yourself to start eating like a bandster. You should be focusing on healthier foods and staying away from what got you in position to get the lap band in the first place. This might sound harsh - and believe me, at nearly 6 years out, I'm also talking to myself - but YOU have got to set the tone for the rest of your life.
Leave that pizza alone, girlfriend, and get back on track!

I'm SO excited about this! I've taught courses in the community college system and am an experienced public speaker. I have experience with facilitating a weight loss surgery support group (with my original surgeon). I currently work part-time as a Registrar of Voters for my hometown, and have a pretty flexible schedule. I could run meetings on Monday or Tuesday (pretty much anytime), Thursday and Friday (Wednesday is more difficult) and have availability on some weekends as well.