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she is a very disturbed woman. you need to stop reading things she writes. you need to make a promise to yourself that you are letting her go 100%. that you will not look up things she writes online, you will not think about her, that you will move on so you can start a new life that is positive and healthy. walk away, move on, let her go. pursuing her will only bring you pain. you deserve better. cut her loose in your head and give yourself a loving break.

It is all about your head. If you don't fix the reasons you are in the place you are you will not succeed. We have to rewire our thinking and it takes work to figure out why we have this addiction and how to handle it because we can never ever trust that we have it under control. It is a lot of work to do this and even though we are losing weight while we are working out our issues and finding other things to replace food it is messing with our heads.
When all is said and done we will still have to watch how we think to keep us in good health. We will always have head games because we are addicted to food!
Don't kid yourself by thinking that you will never have a fat head. Your going to think all kinds of things that you never thought you would trying to make sense of the physical, emotional and mental changes that are about to hit you...
In the end when you are at goal you will struggle with the new you until you become at peace with it all....It is a lifelong struggle but a rewarding one at that because you have put the food demon in its place and you can handle it!

He's gonna do what he's gonna do, but you need to look out for number one, and if he's standing in your way and won't even talk about it, then that's a problem and you have to find a way of dealing with it. Also, why on earth does he expect you to cook? It's not 1954; he should be capable of scrambling an egg.

Yes, food envy is a constant. I'm almost 3 months post-op and I really hate eating. My husband is the cook (thank goodness) and is very fit and health aware. His meals are very good and nutritious. I feel bad because I eat so little.
I'm still working on my relationship with food and know that it will take time - just like it takes time to break old habits. I've had bad eating habits as long as I can remember. Thinking about ding dongs in grade school still make me smile.
I am still very happy with my decision, but I still have to work on those old habits.

Don't compare yourself to others. Your body is unique and it will lose when it wants to lose, not on the schedule or time frame of others.

if there was a straight answer for that question I'd be a millionaire
I keep a journal of when I feel hungry and make notes to determine if there are other things contributing to why I feel hungry. Am I bored? Upset? Worried? If any of those things ring true I know it's head hunger. If my stomach is really growling I know I'm probably really hungry. Then once I determine those things I wait 10 minutes and if my stomach is still growling I eat something.
Good Luck

Don't compare yourself to others. Your body is unique and it will lose when it wants to lose, not on the schedule or time frame of others.

Don't compare yourself to others. Your body is unique and it will lose when it wants to lose, not on the schedule or time frame of others.

if there was a straight answer for that question I'd be a millionaire
I keep a journal of when I feel hungry and make notes to determine if there are other things contributing to why I feel hungry. Am I bored? Upset? Worried? If any of those things ring true I know it's head hunger. If my stomach is really growling I know I'm probably really hungry. Then once I determine those things I wait 10 minutes and if my stomach is still growling I eat something.
Good Luck

Don't compare yourself to others. Your body is unique and it will lose when it wants to lose, not on the schedule or time frame of others.

Don't compare yourself to others. Your body is unique and it will lose when it wants to lose, not on the schedule or time frame of others.

Don't compare yourself to others. Your body is unique and it will lose when it wants to lose, not on the schedule or time frame of others.

Don't compare yourself to others. Your body is unique and it will lose when it wants to lose, not on the schedule or time frame of others.

Don't compare yourself to others. Your body is unique and it will lose when it wants to lose, not on the schedule or time frame of others.

Don't compare yourself to others. Your body is unique and it will lose when it wants to lose, not on the schedule or time frame of others.

Don't compare yourself to others. Your body is unique and it will lose when it wants to lose, not on the schedule or time frame of others.

Don't compare yourself to others. Your body is unique and it will lose when it wants to lose, not on the schedule or time frame of others.

I am 7 months out from surgery. I do go out to eat with family and friends. If I know what place we are going to go I will get online and look at their menu. I do this so I can make the best food chose possible. A lot of times I will share a meal with someone. If I order a meal by myself I ask upfront for a to go container. Most times it is enough food for several meals for me. When we go to family events or cookouts I also choose food wisely. If they have hamburgers I will eat 1/2 of a patty, with toppings and no bread. I make sure I take fresh fruit and veggies so that I have other options besides the carbs and sweets. I no longer focus on food at family events. I actually look forward to the conversation more now. I come from a very large Native American family that most of us are overweight or obese. So I was worried about the family events. It has been much easier than I thought it would be. We just had a family reunion and it went great. Cousins commented on how little I eat compared to a year ago. Everyone was so supportive of my weight loss. I have three cousins that wanted more information about the surgery after they saw how much I have lost. This surgery opened the door for many conversations with them.

Never trust a fart.< /p>

Yes, food envy is a constant. I'm almost 3 months post-op and I really hate eating. My husband is the cook (thank goodness) and is very fit and health aware. His meals are very good and nutritious. I feel bad because I eat so little.
I'm still working on my relationship with food and know that it will take time - just like it takes time to break old habits. I've had bad eating habits as long as I can remember. Thinking about ding dongs in grade school still make me smile.
I am still very happy with my decision, but I still have to work on those old habits.

At least that's how she describes it, unfaithful to the old me.
My amazing, gorgeous wife has always said (and demonstrated!) that she thought I was attractive/sexy even when I was up to 327 pounds. Now I am 3 months post op and down 82 pounds to 245 and she is on me like white on rice!
Not that I mind but it is kinda funny to hear how conflicted she feels. She feels guilty when she tells me now that I look good and feels compelled to say, "I thought you looked good before, too".
Ah well, a nice problem to have. When I shed another 40 to get to my goal weight I may just have to fight her off with a stick to get some rest!

My co-workers sent me this Edible Arrangement today in honor of my 100 lb weight loss. They are the nicest people!

Sweetie...I'm very open on this forum. I see a therapist. I have plenty of body issues and self esteem issues even with the weight loss. In fact, it's the weight loss that's bringing it all bubbling up to the surface. We all have unhealthy relationships with food...it's why we needed surgical intervention in the first place. It's a wise woman who realizes she needs someone with experience to help deal with all of this. Good luck my dear. Keep me posted.

A pound a day average loss is very good. Put your scale out of reach and eat correctly. It will all come together.

I agree with the above comments. If someone has gained weight trust me they know. My nutritionist and I had a conversation about weight discussions. If there is one thing heavy people know - it is the fact that they are heavy. They (we) know they would feel better if they did something about it. They (we) know how they look, how others see them - they already know.
Once they (we) have decided to make a change - then step in and support them. If they bring it up and want to talk - support them. Outside of that - I wouldn't bring it up. I know all too well how it feels and until I was ready it wasn't time.